Marriage Counselor's Corner: Marriage Advice From a Real Marriage Counselor

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 29 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that took me a while to develop due to how complex it is. Actually, it has been a revolving theme of many of my sessions for the last few months. Usually, when there is a constant theme that comes up, I lean into it to see what else is there. In doing so, I discovered Tim Fletcher’s teachings on shame and was amazed with his presentation on these ideas. So, I’ll be referencing him throughout the course of my teachings here. In today’s session, I will be discussing Shame. More specifically, what shame is, where it comes from and how shame impacts the way people show up inside of their marriages. This is a very important episode... So strap in, take some notes and I will see you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 28 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that may be more popular with husbands than it will be with wives. To be more specific, this session will focus more on wives than it will husbands. Today’s session will focus on how most wives are married to the fantasy. Wives, this episode is going to trigger you. I am not going to hide that fact. This episode will highlight something that I see 95% of the time. Meaning, the overwhelming majority of the times that I am working with a wife…whether it is individually or in a couples counseling session…this concerns manifests. So strap in, take some notes and I will see you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 27 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that is often the point of contention for many husbands but desired by most wives. I will be settling this hotly disputed topic of “Happy wife, happy life.” But, I will be coming at this from the vantage point of a seasoned professional, an expert in the field of marriage and relationship management. That way, I am not just giving you an opinion. But rather a marriage principle or further yet, a philosophy on marriage. So husbands I really want you all to join me at the front of the classroom and wives…hang tight in the back for now. This information, if used correctly will be a game changer! See you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 26 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that I have referenced in previous episodes but have not spent an episode exclusively discussing. Today I will be discussing childhood trauma and marriage. More specifically, I will be discussing the implications of how unresolved trauma negatively impacts your marriage. But this episode will be more of a conversation between you and I. That way I can get somethings off of my chest. Don’t worry…I won’t be venting…after all, this is the marriage counselors corner. This information will still be informative so make sure to take notes. See you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 25 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that many of you probably have heard me mention before but have probably not heard me speak in depth about. Today I will be discussing the differences between why men marry and why women marry. That’s right, in this session, I will be breaking down what your husband was expecting to get from you when he married you or what your wife has longed to receive from you when she accepted your hand in marriage. Please do not gloss over this episode for this information is at the fundamental core of many of the martial dysfunctions that I see during my work with couples. As a result, this is also one of the most vital pieces of information that I share with my pre-marriage couples as they embark on preparing themselves to be married. Tune in and be prepared to take notes...see you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 24 and in today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that many of you probably haven’t heard about before. I am going to be discussing the importance of turning towards your spouse. If you have my book ( The 37 Laws To Mastering Marriage ), this information can be found in chapter 36 where I cover the Law of the Right Turn . This research is gleaned from Dr. Gottman’s bestselling book, The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work . Remember, healthy marriages are made up of individuals who take the time to learn how to be more efficient as a husband and wife. These individuals study, learn and grow over time…consistently. This topic will help you to be less ignorant in a very important but often overlooked area of the marriage. Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 23 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing a topic that every spouse will want to know about. This information comes from chapter 3 of my book: The 37 Laws To Mastering Marriage . This episode will focus on the importance of becoming a student of your spouse (or the Law of the Pupil). Make sure to tune in as I dive even deeper into this often overlooked topic. So hang tight and take good notes as I discuss this during this podcast episode. See you on the inside of the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 22 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing a topic specifically for the husbands. I have been working with a lot of husbands lately and many of them are fighting. Many of them are struggling…so I am going to repurpose a message that I put out way back in 2016 when many of you never knew me. Today’s episode will be slightly different as I will be talking specifically to husbands about the battles that we face. See this as more of a coaching sessions for all of my husband listeners. And if you are a wife, share this with your husband…most likely he could use some encouragement. So hang tight and take good notes as I discuss this during this podcast episode. See you on the inside of the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 21 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing a topic related to effective conflict resolution skills that I have found most marriages often struggle with. In this episode, I discuss what it means to " Chase 2 Rabbits " during a conflict. This bad habit has tremendous implications on the communication habits that both you and your spouse share. It is extremely hard to change because both parties are usually so entrenched into doing this that they are not even aware that they are chasing two rabbits. So hang tight and take good notes as I discuss this during this podcast episode. See you on the inside of the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 20 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing a topic that is often overlooked in marriages. I will be discussing the fundamental differences between how men and women communicate and why understanding this one concept can tremendously alter the course of your marriage. Trust me, you will want to listen to this episode…especially if you are finding that the communication is off between you and your spouse. Come prepared to take notes. Also, please don't forget to subscribe to this podcast if you haven't done so already and share this episode with those that need it. See you on the couch at the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that is so important that is it specifically for all of the husbands out there! I will be discussing the 6 Healthy Husband Habits . Throughout this journey, I have discovered that there are actually 6 things that if husbands do daily, your marriage will succeed. You can also look at these 6 habits or life principles. Principles that, if you incorporate them into your life, you will success in the areas of your greatest failures…be it physical health, spiritual health, financial health and relationship health. Make sure to take some notes...this information will definitely change your life if you can apply it! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be discussing a topic that is crucial to the way that you and your spouse manages conflict inside of your marriage. I will be discussing the Biggest Difference Between Happy and Unhappy Couples ! Research has demonstrated that simply tweaking this one thing while having a conflict with your spouse will drastically impact the long-term health and happiness of your marriage. If there is an episode to listen to, this is the one. Please enjoy this episode and I will see you on the couch at the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be shifting my approach slightly to asking you 10 very important questions that every spouse needs to answer . As a matter of fact, the heath of your marriage can be measured based on how many of these questions you have answers for. You may have to pause this episode periodically so that you can write down each of these questions. Then I want you to answer them. I would even recommend that both you and your spouse answer these questions individually and then schedule a time to actually discuss with each other your responses to these questions. Please enjoy this episode and I will see you on the couch at the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be teaching on the last 3 stages of the 6 Stages of Marriage. This information will be extremely helpful for your marriage is you are struggling with dealing with unmet expectations, stagnation, unresolved conflicts, reluctance and a decrease in intimacy. Make sure to take good notes so that you can refer back to this information when necessary. Remember to like, comment and share this information with other marriages that need it. See you on the couch at the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be teaching on the first 3 stages of the 6 Stages of Marriage. This information will be extremely helpful for your marriage is you are struggling with dealing with unmet expectations, stagnation, unresolved conflicts, reluctance and a decrease in intimacy. Make sure to take good notes so that you can refer back to this information when necessary. Remember to like, comment and share this information with other marriages that need it. See you on the couch at the Marriage Counselor's Corner! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail In today’s session, I will be sharing with you 5 rules for better communication with your spouse. These tools, if used correctly will definitely take your communication with your spouse to the next level. Remember, effective communication is one of the 10 pillars of marriage…also remember that the main reason for failed marriages is ignorance. It that is the case, it would behoove you to constantly be looking for ways to improve how you communicate with your spouse. These 5 rules will do just that. Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 13 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing the number 1 marriage killer. This subject is so important that if it is not taken into consideration, it will destroy your marriage. As a matter of fact, most couples come to me dealing with this and they don’t even know it. Once I do some digging, I inevitably discover that they have broken this law of master marriage. That language should sound familiar because this information can be found in my book, The 37 Laws to Mastering Marriage . This information comes from Law #18…The Law of Expectations. So, grab your notebook and a pen and let’s get started. Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail Today’s topic is one that on the surface may seem like it has nothing to do with your marriage but don’t be fooled. This subject is something that I have been intimately studying since about 2006 and I feel that I still barely have it figured out. This episode is part 2 and the conclusion to last weeks very important episode. Today, I will be wrapping up the discussion on the importance of finding your purpose in life while being married. This episode will go even deeper into this life changing subject…so make sure to take notes and jot down what comes to mind. Enjoy your session! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail Today’s topic is one that on the surface may seem like it has nothing to do with your marriage but don’t be fooled. This subject is something that I have been intimately studying since about 2006 and I feel that I still barely have it figured out. So, I will share with you a taste of what I have discovered. As a matter of fact, this episode will be split up into 2 parts so that I can let the information breath with out cramming it all into one episode. Today, I will be discussing the importance of finding your purpose in life while being married. This episode will focus on the big picture of life…so make sure to take notes and jot down what comes to mind. Enjoy your session! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops

Send us Fan Mail This is episode number 10 and in today’s session, I am going to be discussing a topic that can be controversial yet very relevant, especially in today’s day and age. Today’s episode will be on understanding the psychology of your reluctant spouse. What I am about to share may not resonate with some and it may offend others. If it does offend you, that just means you may not be ready to receive it…revisit it what you are ready. This episode will be beneficial in helping you to understand what is going on with your reluctant spouse. That way, you can be more targeted in your prayer life, you will make way less standing mistakes and you can better interpret and speak to their reluctant behaviors. Be sure to take good note and share this with someone who need it. See you on the inside! Make sure to check out our brand new 2-day Mastering Marriage Workshops here: Mastering Marriage Workshops