Twenty Good Summers

We got married, y’all! Which is weird, because it means we have some new nouns in our lives — both unfamiliar ones, like “stepdad,” and repurposed ones such as “husband” and “wife.” What does that feel like? Tune in as we sort it all out!

Following on “Why Get Married,” we take on the topic of “how.” Specifically, what the ceremony means to each of us, and what ours in two weeks is going to be like. Along the way we discuss P’s wedding dress, our hack through the thicket of Italian marriage bureaucracy, and Jeff’s skin-care regimen. Join us in holy matrimony!

“Cher, do you believe in the institution of marriage?” “Yeah, but who wants to live in an institution?” In three weeks we’re getting married, even though when we met we’d sworn off marriage entirely, Find out why in our very special twentieth episode.

Prompted by an email from a peevish listener, we talk about the complexities of sharing one’s personal history in a public setting — and hope we’re discussing an issue extensible to those with neither Instagrams nor podcasts. Tune in for all the meae culpae !

Friends, we’re getting kicked out of our apartment four days before our wedding — thanks, Unsympathetic Landlord! — which, along with some relevant emails from our faithful fanbase, spurred us to do an episode about moving: when to move in together, how to harmonize lives and tastes, and all the emotions such transitions unleash. Pack a box and join the fun!

Another dive into our bulging mailbag, featuring provocative (= sex) questions (about sex) from a slew of far-flung correspondents (who want to talk sex). And we are only too happy to oblige. Join us and our elite cocktail party of devoted listeners for all the badinage (not a sex word)!

Our fearless inquiry into sex and travel uncovers unexpected links between the two! If you’re Good Giving & Game in bed, you’re probably equally so when you’ve missed your flight and have to reroute through Dubuque. Join us — we shot this by a lake in Europe, so even the pictures are pretty!

We’ve often referenced Chris Rock's Two Rules for Being in a Relationship : “You should be having sex and traveling. Comin’ and goin’.” Well, in this long-requested episode we talk about the former, about sex after fifty. And where better to discuss Pari-menopause than Paris? Tune in!

…But we do it anyway, in an episode about the rise and fall of male and female power with age, and differences in means, and prenups, and who picks up the check, and how you have to talk honestly with your partner about this stuff even if it’s icky. Join us and let us know how we did!

We went to see Lily Allen perform West End Girl in its entirety at Radio City Music Hall, and boy, did it prompt some thoughts about anger and forgiveness! Is bitterness, as the old saying goes, “like drinking poison and expecting the other guy to die”? Tune in for some ruminating, ruminating!

One of the challenges of forging a relationship later in life? Kids! In this episode, we talk about parenting and step-parenting and also P’s birthday festival this past weekend. Tune in for all the merriment… and complexity!

Are you loved for who you are, or do folks selectively pick and choose the parts of you they enjoy the most, regarding the rest as at best a quirk, at middling an inconvenience, and at worst a dealbreaker? Perhaps you should adopt the patented 20GS approach and stop G'ing an F! Join us to discuss.

Road trip! This episode was recorded in our car on I-80 East between Kearney and Lincoln, Nebraska, after an impulsive trip to see the sandhill cranes and prairie chickens along the Platte River. WHAT?? Yes — this one’s about being game, doing things you never thought you’d do, because you don’t have unlimited time and you wanna get it all in. Also discussed: football, mushrooms and Chris Rock. Take the ride!

Bodies bodies bodies! They're getting older, and we're going to talk about 'em. About cosmetic enhancements and laser hair removal and varicose veins and shooting botulism into your face. It's a rollicking, freewheeling conversation in which we probably overshare, so tune in!

Spurred by an email from one of our listeners, we talk about “I love you” — when do you say it, why do you say it, when shouldn’t you say it, and what does it mean?

Yes, folks, it’s part three of our continuing series of episodes about dating. In this one we talk about baggage, all the junk-in-the-trunk you bring to relationships forged later in life. Prior loves, complicated families, changing careers, turbulent finances — we tackle ’em all and try not to Cattrall, so tune in!

In this episode, filmed in the backyard in our bathrobes, we talk about male vulnerability. Do you want Chalamet or McConnaughey? YOU CANNOT HAVE BOTH! Lots of other stuff is covered as well because we could not stay on topic. The morning was just too nice.

A bonus episode where we read and react to some of your emails about dating. Have a great weekend!

By popular demand, more talk about dating! In this one, we walk you from app to appetizers: Like, what if you treat a first date as a job interview — does that make it less scary? Also discussed: our first conversation, the last shot of The Graduate , and P’s foolproof test to help you discover why you make the relationship choices you do.

Everyone wants to talk about dating! And not just how we met (on an app), but also what it’s like to put yourself out there in middle age. Should you lie about how old you are? Brandish a large fish in your profile picture? Tune in for all the answers! Here’s Jeff’s monologue, “Observational Proficiency,” in which he talks about his disastrous Raya profile and why P clicked on it anyway.