The Divorce Planner

Divorce brings up a tsunami of emotions, and as a mom, you're not just navigating your own feelings, you're holding space for your children's too. Carving out time for yourself can feel impossible. Or worse, it can feel selfish. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur , an empowerment coach and founder of Mindfully Ready, for a conversation about how moms can prioritize their own well-being without guilt—because you can't pour from an empty cup. What we cover: Why self-care isn't selfish when you're a mom going through divorce How to create a realistic self-care routine that fits your actual life Building a support network beyond just family Setting new goals for yourself when everything feels uncertain Navigating mom guilt when you need to put yourself first Embracing flexibility and seeing this transition as full of new possibilities How to show up for your kids when you're running on empty Small, actionable steps you can take today to start rebuilding Whether you're in the middle of divorce or rebuilding on the other side, this episode will remind you that prioritizing your well-being matters, for you and your kids. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're divorcing a narcissist—or think you might be—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Allison Adamovic , a licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) and narcissistic abuse recovery specialist, for an expert conversation about how to recognize narcissism and protect yourself during divorce. Allison brings clinical expertise to help you understand the real difference between typical divorce conflict and actual narcissistic abuse—and what to do about it. We dive deep into the manipulation tactics narcissists use, why they can't change, and your concrete action plan for divorcing someone with narcissistic personality disorder. What we cover: Clinical signs of narcissism vs. just difficult divorce behavior Why narcissists can't change (the science behind brain chemistry and genetics) Manipulation tactics explained including word salad, gaslighting, and deflecting Breaking free from guilt and confusion that keeps you stuck Financial abuse and psychological control patterns to recognize Warning signs of escalating abuse and when to get help immediately Your concrete action plan for divorcing a narcissist safely How to protect yourself emotionally, legally, and financially Recovery strategies for healing from narcissistic abuse Whether you're just starting to recognize the patterns or already deep in a high-conflict divorce with a narcissist, this conversation provides expert clinical guidance on how to protect yourself and move forward. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you've been emotionally checked out of your marriage for months or even years but haven't actually left, you're not alone. You might be what The Cut called "quiet quitting your marriage" or what I call being in "the slow fade"—still in the house, still married on paper, but emotionally you left a long time ago. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Betsy Pake , a midlife change expert and host of "The Art of Living Big" podcast, for an honest conversation about what's really happening when you're stuck in this painful gray zone between staying and leaving—and more importantly, how to take control and move forward. Betsy helps women get crystal clear on whether they're actually done with their marriages or if they're just scared of change. We dive deep into the difference between needing space and being finished, the real cost of staying withdrawn for years, and the first steps to take when you're exhausted but terrified to make a move. What we cover: What's actually happening when you emotionally check out but don't tell your partner Why people get frozen in the limbo of being married but completely disengaged The difference between needing space and being finished with your marriage What clarity actually looks like (it's not the lightning bolt moment you're expecting) The cost of the slow fade and what happens when you spend years emotionally withdrawn Can you come back from quiet quitting your marriage, or is withdrawal the beginning of the end? The first step to take when you're emotionally checked out, exhausted, but terrified to make a move How to separate fear of change from genuine desire to save your marriage Understanding whether you're protecting yourself or just stuck in fear is the first step toward making a decision you can live with. Whether you've been quietly quitting your marriage for years or you're just starting to realize you've checked out, this conversation offers compassionate guidance to help you take control and move forward—whatever that looks like for you. For more on this topic, read my blog post "The Slow Fade" here: https://www.thedivorceplanner.net/post/the-slow-fade-when-you-ve-already-left-the-marriage-in-your-head Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Here's something nobody tells you when you're in the middle of divorce: this is actually one of the most powerful opportunities of your life. Because for most people, this is the first time in years, maybe ever, they can stop and figure out who they actually are, what they actually want, and what kind of life they actually want to build. The problem is that most people skip that part. They rush into the next relationship, the next distraction, the next version of the life they just left—without stopping to ask whether any of it is actually what they want. And then they wake up on the other side of their divorce in a life that's reactive instead of intentional. In this episode, I'm sharing my five-step framework for reflection and rebuilding after divorce, the process that takes you from surviving this ending to intentionally designing your best next chapter. Whether you're in the middle of divorce or already on the other side, this episode will help you stop reacting and start building something that's actually, completely, yours. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Most people file for divorce without doing any of the preparation that would have saved them thousands of dollars and months of stress. Not because they didn't have time, but because nobody told them what to do first. And then they regret it for years. This episode is the roadmap. In it, I walk you through my framework for getting divorce ready in four weeks, one focus area at a time, so it never feels overwhelming. We start with your emotional foundation: getting grounded, clarifying your values and priorities, and lining up support. Then we move into getting your entire financial picture organized while you still have full access to everything. From there, we tackle the question I hear most—"What should I ask for?"—by building a real post-divorce budget so you stop guessing and start knowing your numbers. And finally, we get your legal and strategic foundation in place: understanding your options, choosing the right attorney, learning your state's laws, and knowing when to bring in a CDFA. The work you do in this window determines how prepared you are when it counts most—at the negotiating table, in mediation, or in front of a judge. Whether you're certain you're moving forward or still deciding, this episode gives you a clear, step-by-step plan to prepare with confidence instead of fear. Additional resources mentioned in the episode: Listen to the Dear Future Self episode from Season 1 . Read The Two Numbers You Need Before Divorce Negotiations: Your Marital Standard of Living and Post-Divorce Budget . The Divorce Planner's CDFA vetted Monthly Budget Calculator spreadsheet . Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Telling your spouse you want a divorce might be one of the hardest conversations you'll ever have. And the way you handle it can set the tone for everything that comes after, like: your divorce process, your co-parenting relationship, your ability to move forward with compassion and dignity. In this episode, I'm walking you through my complete framework for having "the talk.: From how to know you're actually ready, the emotional and practical homework to do beforehand, how to choose the right time and place, what to actually say (and what to avoid), and how to stay grounded no matter how your spouse reacts. Whether you're planning to have this conversation soon or just starting to think it through, this episode will help you approach one of life's hardest moments with grace, respect, and a plan. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you've been quietly going through the motions of your marriage, you're physically there but emotionally somewhere else, you're in what I call the slow fade. Y You've probably seen the phrase "quiet quitting your marriage" floating around. What I see with clients who are in this position is a gradual emotional withdrawal that almost always happens after a long period of trying. You communicated. You suggested therapy. You said the hard things. And eventually you ran out of energy to keep trying to change someone who didn't want to change. In this episode, I'll help you tell the difference between the slow fade and actually knowing you're done, walk through what this signal is telling you, and share where to start if you're in it right now. Taking steps to break out of the limbo you're living in can feel scary, but if you let fear and doubt take over, you could be in this space for years, or even decades. Whether you're sure you're done or genuinely don't know yet, this episode will help you stop waiting for circumstances to decide for you and get you on the path to making a conscious choice on your terms. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

We made it! Season 1 finale of The Divorce Planner Podcast. Over Season 1, we've covered everything from when to meet with an attorney to how to find hidden assets, from creating bulletproof parenting plans to healing from grief and shame. Today I'm reflecting on what we've learned together, pointing you toward episodes you might have missed based on where you are in your journey, and sharing what makes this podcast different from other divorce content out there. Whether you're just starting to think about divorce, actively preparing, or navigating high-conflict situations, this episode will help you find the Season 1 conversations that matter most for your situation right now—and understand how to use this podcast as a resource throughout your divorce journey. Thank you for being here. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're going through divorce and feeling isolated and alone, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Hillary Livingston Giddings and Bethany M. Pace , the powerhouse duo behind Sincerely, Divorced , for an uplifting conversation about why community is everything during and after divorce. Hillary and Bethany know firsthand what it's like to navigate divorce feeling like you have to figure it all out alone. As friends who both went through divorce during the pandemic, they turned their experience into something powerful—a community that's changing how people think about life after divorce through real talk, raw honesty, and their "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy. We dive deep into how to use your vulnerability as a superpower to make genuine connections, why finding your people transforms the divorce journey, and how to rediscover joy and laughter when you never thought you'd feel that way again. What we cover: Why community matters during one of life's loneliest transitions How to find your people when you're feeling isolated Using vulnerability as strength to make authentic connections The "breakdown to glow-up" philosophy and embracing both sides of divorce Finding humor and joy again even in the hardest moments Building a support system that actually works (friends, coaches, online communities) Why it's okay to not have it all figured out and who can help at each stage Real talk and raw honesty about what divorce actually feels like How friendship saved them during their own divorce journeys Whether you're just thinking about divorce, in the middle of the process, or rebuilding on the other side, this conversation will remind you that you're not alone—and that joy, laughter, and connection are not only possible but within reach. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're navigating a high-net-worth divorce, dealing with complex assets like stock options or business valuations, or suspect your spouse isn't being transparent about finances, this episode is for you. I sat down with Lisa Zeiderman , divorce financial litigator and managing partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, for an essential conversation about a type of expert most people have never heard of—but who could be critical to protecting your financial future. We dive deep into the most expensive errors people make in high-asset divorces, the tax bombs that blindside even the most savvy clients, and how to navigate situations where your spouse controls the financial information or isn't being transparent about marital or business assets. What we cover: What a financial litigator is and how they differ from divorce attorneys and forensic accountants When you actually need one and whether this is only for high-net-worth cases The powerful combination of working with both a financial litigator and a CDFA The most expensive mistake people make by NOT hiring a financial litigator early enough Tax bombs in high-asset divorces and how financial litigators help you avoid them Complex assets demystified including stock options, business valuations, and retirement accounts What to do if your spouse isn't transparent about financial information or business assets Cost vs. value of hiring a financial litigator and how to know if it's worth it for your situation First steps for anyone considering divorce and when in the process to reach out Whether you're high-net-worth, dealing with a business owner spouse, facing financial abuse, or just starting to educate yourself about divorce options, this conversation provides expert guidance on protecting your financial interests through one of life's most challenging transitions. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Here's something nobody tells you about divorce: the entire process is designed to pull you backward. Every negotiation is about what happened—who earned what, who did what wrong. You spend months, sometimes years, staring into the rearview mirror. And then suddenly it's over, and you're standing in a life you don't recognize, because you were so consumed by the past that you never stopped to build toward a future. Here's what I learned during my own divorce: you can't build a future by only looking at the past. So I did something that changed everything. I wrote a letter to myself from my future self. And then, with every decision I faced in the divorce process, I asked one question: does this get me closer to that future? That single shift—from looking backward to looking forward—kept me on track, helped me make smarter choices, and let me feel hopeful about my life on the other side. In this episode, I'll walk you through how to write your own letter from your future self and use it as your compass through divorce. It's the same practice I shared on the Divorce and Beyond podcast, where it became their most downloaded episode of the year. Whether you're contemplating divorce, deep in negotiations, or just tired of making decisions from a place of anger and fear, this episode will help you stop reacting and start building something specific, hopeful, and yours. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you suspect your spouse might be hiding money during divorce—or you're in a situation where they control all the finances—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Jennica Moore , a forensic accountant with over 10 years of specialized experience in fraud examination and family law matters, for a crucial conversation about finding hidden assets and protecting your financial future during divorce. Jennica brings expert insight into the most common ways people hide money, the red flags to watch for, and what you can actually do to uncover hidden assets—even if you don't control the finances in your marriage. What we cover: What a forensic accountant does during divorce and how they differ from regular accountants When to bring in a forensic accountant and whether your suspicions justify the cost Most common ways people hide money including cryptocurrency, offshore accounts, cash businesses, and underreported income Red flags to watch for before you even hire an expert What to do if your spouse controls all the finances and how to access information safely in a controlling situation What's actually traceable and the limits of forensic investigation Biggest financial mistakes people make once they know divorce is coming Legal consequences of hiding assets and how it impacts the divorce settlement First steps to take if you suspect hidden money but don't have proof Cost vs. benefit of forensic investigation and what you might uncover Whether you're dealing with a business owner spouse, suspect hidden accounts, or just have a gut feeling something isn't right with the finances, this conversation provides expert guidance to help you protect your financial interests during divorce. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're stuck in decision paralysis, overwhelmed by every choice you need to make during divorce, this episode is for you. Today I'm sharing one of my signature coaching frameworks: the 5-5-5 Rule. When you're contemplating divorce or in the middle of one, every decision feels enormous. Should you file now or wait until after the holidays? Should you keep the house or sell it? Should you fight for the retirement accounts or let them go? Should you tell your spouse you want a divorce or stay married? The weight of these decisions can freeze you. You overthink. You ask seventeen people for advice. And then you still don't do anything. The 5-5-5 Rule helps you zoom out when you're stuck in the weeds. It's a simple but powerful framework that helps you figure out which decisions actually matter, and which ones are just emotional noise you need to let go of. Whether you're contemplating divorce, actively going through it, or struggling to make post-divorce decisions, the 5-5-5 Rule will give you a clear lens for moving forward with confidence. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you've been wondering what divorce actually costs—and getting frustrated with vague "it depends" answers—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I welcome back Dennis R. Vetrano Jr ., a New York-based family law attorney and mediator, for a straightforward conversation about the real costs of divorce. We dive deep into the financial realities most people don't understand until they're already spending thousands more than they expected. What we cover: What divorce actually costs including real ranges for different types of divorce Hidden fees that blindside people and catch them off guard Hourly rates vs. flat fees and which payment structure works best for your situation When you actually need expensive experts like forensic accountants or appraisers (and when you don't) The biggest money mistakes people make that cost them thousands How being organized saves you money with your attorney and mediator What to do if you can't afford divorce including resources and options Smart strategies to keep costs down without screwing yourself over in the settlement Whether you're just starting to consider divorce or actively going through the process, this conversation provides the practical financial information you need to make smart decisions about how you spend your money and protect your interests. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're struggling to co-parent with a toxic or high-conflict ex, you're not alone—and you're not crazy for finding it exhausting. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Leah Marie Mazur , a certified divorce recovery coach and founder of Mindfully Ready , for a practical conversation about protecting your peace while co-parenting with someone who makes everything harder. Leah specializes in helping single moms heal, set boundaries, and thrive after divorce, especially when dealing with difficult co-parents. We dive deep into the real strategies that actually work when you're dealing with someone who ignores boundaries, manipulates situations, or makes co-parenting feel impossible. What we cover: How to identify if your ex is truly toxic vs. just difficult to deal with What "protecting your peace" actually means when you share kids with someone Setting and enforcing boundaries with someone who constantly ignores them Overcoming mom guilt when you need to put yourself first Handling parental manipulation and alienation tactics Minimizing contact while still effectively co-parenting Protecting your mental health from a draining co-parent relationship When to involve lawyers and how to document concerning behavior First steps to take when you feel completely overwhelmed Talking to your kids about the situation without causing harm Whether you're navigating parallel parenting, dealing with high-conflict situations, or just trying to survive co-parenting with someone who turns everything into drama, this conversation offers real, actionable strategies that prioritize both your children's wellbeing and your own mental health. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're a dad navigating divorce, you know the challenges are different than what most people talk about. How do you advocate for equal parenting time when the system feels stacked against fathers? What happens to your finances when you're the breadwinner? How do you create a parenting plan that works with demanding work obligations? In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Bill Farias , a family law attorney, for an honest conversation about the real hurdles fathers face during divorce—and we didn't hold back. Bill breaks down what dads actually need to know to protect their relationships with their children and their financial futures. We dive deep into the misconceptions that hurt fathers in divorce proceedings and the strategic moves that help level the playing field. What we cover: The biggest misconceptions about fathers going through divorce and how they hurt your case How to advocate for equal parenting time when you're fighting outdated assumptions What breadwinning dads need to know about child support and alimony calculations Creating a parenting plan that works with demanding work obligations Financial strategies to protect yourself while supporting your children Legal realities vs. what fathers assume about their rights The one piece of advice Bill wishes every dad could hear before starting the divorce process Common mistakes fathers make that cost them time with their kids If you're a dad going through this—or you know someone who is—this episode will help you understand your rights and advocate effectively for yourself and your kids. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're experiencing brain fog, replaying painful conversations on an endless loop, or feeling like you can't think straight during your divorce, you're not imagining it—there's actual neuroscience behind what you're experiencing. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Dr. Nicole A. Tetreault , a neuroscientist, for a fascinating conversation about what's really happening in your brain during divorce and, more importantly, what you can do to heal and rewire it. Dr. Nicole breaks down the science behind why everything feels harder right now—from making decisions to regulating your emotions to stopping negative thought loops—and explains how you can use neuroplasticity to literally rewire your brain for healing and growth. What we cover: What's actually happening in your brain during divorce (stress hormones, frontal cortex access, trauma response) Why you can't think clearly when you need to make major decisions The negative thought loop and how to break it using neuroscience The power of the pause and how deep breathing resets your nervous system Stress response patterns (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and which one you default to Neuroplasticity explained and how you can actually rewire your brain How to stop reacting to your ex by creating new neural pathways Why midlife divorces happen and how they catalyze post-traumatic growth Avoiding toxic patterns when dating again by understanding your triggers One thing you can do today to start healing your brain (writing down your intention) The role of gratitude in rewiring your thoughts Why you need support and how talking things through helps your brain heal Whether you're in the middle of divorce feeling like you're losing it, or you're healing on the other side and want to avoid repeating patterns, this conversation provides science-backed strategies to help you understand what's happening and take control of your healing. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're a stay-at-home mom considering divorce and worried about your financial future, this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Sharie Reyes Albers , a family law attorney from Virginia Family Law Center, for a crucial conversation about protecting your financial stability when you've been financially dependent during your marriage. Sharie breaks down the legal protections and strategies that stay-at-home moms often don't realize are available to them. We dive deep into practical steps you can take right now to safeguard your future and maximize your negotiating position. What we cover: Health insurance options post-divorce and how to maintain coverage Financial protection strategies during the separation period Critical documentation that impacts spousal support determinations Your rights to remain in the family home with your children Strategic negotiation approaches when you've been out of the workforce Understanding your true value in the marriage partnership Sharie shared: "The financial power many stay-at-home moms bring to negotiations is often drastically undervalued - both by their spouses and sometimes even by their own legal representation." This conversation perfectly illustrates why I'm so passionate about helping people understand their rights and options before jumping into the legal process. When you know what protections are available and how to document your contributions, you can negotiate from a position of strength instead of fear. For more detailed guidance, check out my blog post "Complete Divorce Preparation Guide for Stay-at-Home Moms: Expert Tips": https://www.thedivorceplanner.net/post/complete-divorce-preparation-guide-for-stay-at-home-moms-2024-expert-tips Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

Creating a parenting plan during divorce can feel overwhelming. You're trying to predict the future, protect your kids, and navigate legal requirements all while dealing with your own emotions about the end of your marriage. How do you create a plan comprehensive enough to anticipate challenges before they arise—from schedule changes to behavior concerns? In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Morgan Given , a Chicago-based family law attorney who specializes in helping parents understand the critical elements most people miss when creating parenting agreements that actually work. Morgan breaks down the legal language that prevents future conflicts and the specific provisions you need to include now to avoid costly modifications later. We dive deep into both the practical and sensitive aspects of parenting plans that many parents don't think about until problems arise. What we cover: Essential elements most parenting plans overlook and how to avoid those gaps Holiday and vacation scheduling that prevents disputes year after year Clear communication protocols between co-parents to minimize conflict Setting boundaries that protect your children's wellbeing during transitions How to address sensitive concerns like a spouse's alcohol use or behavior issues Handling plan modifications as your kids grow and their needs change Legal language that matters and why vague terms lead to future battles Both legal and emotional perspectives on creating sustainable agreements Whether you're just starting the divorce process or need to modify an existing agreement, this conversation provides actionable strategies to help you build a parenting plan that protects your children and sets clear expectations for years to come. Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson

If you're facing one of the hardest conversations you'll ever have—telling your spouse you want a divorce—this episode is exactly what you need. In today's episode, I'm sitting down with Kim Polinder , a relationship coach, for essential guidance on how to have this life-changing conversation with compassion, clarity, and control. Kim breaks down the practical and emotional aspects of "the talk"—from choosing the right timing and location to managing your spouse's unexpected reactions and protecting yourself emotionally. We dive deep into what actually works when you need to deliver difficult news with as much care as possible. What we cover: Choosing the right timing and why when you have this conversation matters as much as what you say Location strategy and why where you have the talk can escalate or defuse emotions What to say and what not to say including specific phrases that work Managing unexpected reactions from shock and anger to denial and bargaining How to stay grounded when emotions escalate (breathing techniques, mantras, grounding strategies) When to pause the conversation and give both of you space to process Protecting your kids and why the conversation with your spouse happens first Planning for immediately after including where you'll go and who you'll call What to do if you're still living together and how to create space in a shared home Whether you've been planning this conversation for months or you're just starting to prepare, this episode provides the scripts, strategies, and emotional support you need to navigate one of life's most difficult moments. For detailed conversation scripts and preparation guidance, check out my blog post " How to Tell Your Spouse You Want a Divorce: A Compassionate Guide . " Want more resources? Check out my blog , grab my free " 24 Questions to Ask A Divorce Attorney " guide, or sign up for my free 4-Email Divorce Prep Series for a step-by-step roadmap before you meet with an attorney. Need personalized help? Book a free 15-minute call or subscribe to my newsletter for weekly tips. The Divorce Planner podcast is for educational purposes only and does not constitute legal or financial advice. Consult qualified professionals about your situation. Podcast Original Music, Editing, and Mixing by: Benjamin Robinson