What Your Therapist Thinks

Brittney Scott, licensed therapist, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the dynamics of mother-daughter relationships ahead of Mother’s Day. They discuss everything from why this is a specialized therapeutic focus to the ethics of going no-contact. Some takeaways: Why a healthy relationship is defined by clear boundaries and autonomy. How to foster a deeper mother-daughter relationship through vulnerability and accountability. How mutual curiosity plays a role in improving your personal connections. How to tackle the decision of going no-contact. Use our promo code "WYTT" for up to 20% Off at CozyEarth.com . For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Brittney : Follow Brittney on Instagram. Listen to Brittney’s Podcast: The Mother Daughter Relationship Show Podcast . Brittney’s Free Resource Library . *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Dr. Lindsay Cavanagh, psychologist and marriage expert, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the strategies for long-term intimacy. They discuss the emotional aspect of desire: how mental load and systemic stressors can make or break the spark in parenthood. Some takeaways: • Why spontaneity fails when it meets the exhausting logistics of parenthood. • The difference between intentional pursuit and weaponized incompetence. • How to start integrating emotional safety into your connection. • How mental load influences your libido more than "lost attraction" does. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Lindsay. Follow Lindsay on Instagram. Listen to Lindsay’s Podcast: Married After Kids . *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Therapists Julie Goldberg joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the mechanics of nervous system regulation and offer a practical, somatic perspective on mental health. They explore the range of human response from fight-or-flight to shutdown. This episode reframes anxiety and burnout away from personal failures to adaptive physiological responses designed to keep you safe. Some takeaways: • The differences between safety, mobilization and shutdown. • Why the goal isn't permanent calm but building resilience and flexibility. • How our bodies naturally find safety in the presence of another regulated human. • Changing the narrative from "What's wrong with me?" to "What is my body trying to tell me?" • Simple somatic techniques to help navigate your stress. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Julie. Follow Julie on Instagram. Join Julie’s Course: Regulate with the Nervous System Reset Course *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Financial therapist Lindsay Bryan-Podvin joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the psychological roots of our bank accounts. They center the conversation on the emotional landscape of money: how one’s childhood and systemic failures, not personal incompetence, shape financial anxiety. Some takeaways: • Why "logic" fails when it crashes with childhood narratives and fears. • The difference between functional planning and toxic guilt. • How to stop restricting pleasure and start integrating joy into your financial plan. • How socioeconomic factors influence your wallet more than "bad habits" do. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Lindsay. Follow Lindsay on Instagram. Get Lindsay’s Book at Your Local Bookstore: The Financial Anxiety Solution. Lindsay’s Recommendation: debtcollective.org. *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Erica Bonham, LPC, MA joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify EMDR therapy and how it actually works to heal the brain. They explore how bilateral stimulation mimics REM sleep to "unstick" traumatic memories trapped in the nervous system. Erica advocates for a bottom-up approach to recovery to address the somatic and emotional roots of distress. Some takeaways: • How bilateral stimulation helps the brain reprocess • Why a somatic approach is often more effective than cognitive insight • How to develop compassion for the internal mechanisms that try to keep us safe For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Episode referenced: What Type Of Trauma Do I Have? Understanding Trauma Use our promo code "WYTT" for up to 20% Off at CozyEarth.com . Connect with Erica Follow Erica on Facebook , Instagram , LinkedIn and YouTube Read Erica’s Book: Always Enough, Never Done . *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Relationship expert Colette J. Fehr joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack the messy, neurological reality of moving on. They explore why breakups feel less like a simple goodbye and more like overcoming an addiction, creating a need for a strategic "reset" of the brain. Colette advocates for “no-contact” as a vital tool for nervous system regulation and reclaiming your sense of self. Some takeaways: Why missing an ex mirrors an addiction cycle and how to break it. How creating distance allows your nervous system to detach from an ex. How to move from waiting for closure to finding an internal resolution. The dangers of "rebounds" and why reclaiming self-worth should be a priority. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Colette Follow Colette on Instagram and TikTok Listen to Colette’s podcasts, Insights from the Couch, Real Talk for Women at Midlife and Love Thy Neighbor . Read Colette’s Book: The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure Lasting Love . Listen to Colette’s TED Talk: Secrets of a Couple's Therapist *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Author and counselor KC Davis, LPC joins Kristie and Felicia to break down the shame often associated with a messy home. They unpack the life-changing mindset of moral neutrality, meaning that your ability to do laundry is not a reflection of your character. KC supports shifting away from society’s standards of "tidiness" to a sustainable approach that prioritizes your mental health. Some takeaways: • Why struggling with dishes doesn't make you a "bad" person • How to look at house chores as a way to make your space livable instead of a never-ending to-do list. • Using hacks like larger trash cans or paper plates to manage your home during difficult mental health seasons. • Why self-compassion is better motivation than guilt when you're feeling overwhelmed. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Use our promo code "WYTT" for up to 20% Off at CozyEarth.com Connect with KC Follow KC on Instagram, Facebook and TikTok Read KC’s books: How to Keep House While Drowning and Who Deserves Your Love *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Jeff Guenther, LPC, also known as TherapyJeff, joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on modern romance. They break down the dating world as a space that requires nervous system regulation and radical authenticity. Jeff advocates for a shift away from performing for validation to a more grounded approach focused on genuine curiosity instead of the pressure of finding "the one." Some takeaways: Why looking at first dates as fun instead of as a job interview leads to better matches How to check in with your nervous system to avoid performing for validation Understanding how dating apps gamify rejection and how they lead to burnout The difference between healthy vulnerability and trauma dumping and how to spot early signs love bombing For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Jeff Follow Jeff on Instagram and TikTok Listen to Jeff’s podcast, Problem Solved Read Jeff’s book, “Big Dating Energy” *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Dr. Rebeccah Lyle, a psychiatric nurse practitioner, joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the nuanced reality of ADHD in women and AFAB individuals. Together, they break down how social expectations of "good behavior" sometimes mask ADHD symptoms in girls, leading to life-changing diagnoses in adulthood when the pressures of career and motherhood reach a breaking point. Some takeaways: Reframing neurological differences as strengths Understanding the psychological toll of masking and how it inevitably leads to burnout Shifting the narrative from self-blame for a "lack of discipline" to advocating for systemic accommodations and self-compassion For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Join our Substack community Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Rebeccah Mentioned in this episode: Am I Emotionally Numb? Signs Of Emotional Numbness and What To Do Next (WYTT, Season 1) *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Welcome to Season 2 of What Your Therapist Thinks. We were absolutely mind-blown by all the love we got from you in season 1 and so after some life changes like Kristie having a baby… we’re back! A mental health show where actual, licensed therapists open up about what they’re really thinking, while answering the internet’s most burning mental health questions. And by "real-world," we mean Reddit posts. Incognito Google searches. And the stuff you think about bringing up in therapy… but maybe don’t. Each week, you’ll hear from expert therapists to break it all down: from dating advice and body dysmorphia to ADHD and EMDR therapy. First episode drops February 25. For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Watch full episodes on YouTube . Connect with us on Instagram . Subscribe to our Substack . Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle Brought to you by BestTherapists.com Produced by PodVision . This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

In this special episode, hosts Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle share their own mental health journeys and what led them to create "What Your Therapist Thinks". Drawing from Felicia’s professional background as a somatic therapist and Kristie’s lived experience as a long-time therapy goer, they discuss navigating chronic illness, childhood isolation, the "good kid" trap and why breaking the stigma of silence is the first step toward true healing. Some takeaways: The "Sensitive Kid to Therapist" pipeline and why high-achievers often hide their pain Why healing happens both inside and outside the therapy room through somatics and community The power of self-forgiveness and the freedom to change your mind and your life For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Connect with us on Instagram: @wyttpodcast *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

In this special holiday episode, Katrina Mautner, a queer trauma-informed therapist, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on setting boundaries with family. Drawing from Katrina’s anti-oppressive and harm reduction framework, they break down boundaries as a tool for connection—defining them as the distance at which you can love both yourself and the other person. Some takeaways: How boundaries actually allow us to deepen relationships and say "yes" more freely Surviving difficult moments with "strategic avoidance" and internal boundaries Applying a harm reduction lens to deescalate family conflict, even imperfectly For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Katrina Katrina’s Newsletter *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Connect with us on Instagram: @wyttpodcast *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Shelly Qualter, an expert counselor, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on performance anxiety. Drawing from Shelly’s experience as an expert counselor, they break down performance anxiety as a fear-based emotion arising from uncertainty, feeling threatened, or being out of control. Some takeaways: The difference between helpful "nervous energy" and debilitating panic How externalizing anxiety (like giving it a name) fosters control and self-compassion Distinguishing between fact-based worry and baseless "what if" worries For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Shelly Follow Shelly on Instagram *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Connect with us on Instagram: @wyttpodcast *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Jon Lee LMFT, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on trauma and recovery. Drawing from Jon’s specialized niche in dissociative disorders, they break down trauma as a lasting adaptation of the nervous system. Some takeaways: The difference between a traumatic event and the physiological trauma response How healing is achieved through incremental progress and relational therapy Balancing traditional Western practices with community and ancient wisdom For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Jon *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Certified sex therapist Amalia Miralrio joins Felicia and Kristie to talk everything cheating. Drawing from her psychoanalytic expertise, Amalia breaks down infidelity as an unconscious drive. She explains where it can originate from and why this inner conflict leads to a struggle for autonomy. Some takeaways: How unconscious drives work as a motivation for cheating The connection between infidelity and early developmental issues How this inner conflict often leads to a repetition compulsion Balancing the human needs for intimacy versus freedom For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Amalia: Amity Detroit Counseling Follow Amalia on Instagram Freebie: Guide for Getting Cheated On *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Somatic trauma therapist Chloe Bean joins Felicia and Kristie to talk everything people-pleasing. Drawing from her expertise in high-functioning anxiety, Chloe breaks down people-pleasing as a learned trauma response. She explains how it can originate from a childhood need for safety and why prioritizing others leads to resentment and losing yourself. Some takeaways: How people-pleasing works as a survival habit The connection between people-pleasing and losing yourself How prioritizing others' needs often leads to exhaustion and resentment Shifting from fear to setting authentic boundaries For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow WYTT on Instagram Follow Felicia on Instagram Connect with Chloe: IG: @chloebeantherapy Website: www.chloebeantherapy.com Freebie: https://chloe-bean-therapy.kit.com/freebie *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision . If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed clinical social worker Kenny Levine joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the destructive power of contempt in relationships. Drawing from the Gottman method, Kenny breaks down the "Four Horsemen" of conflict, explaining how to identify warning signs like contempt and why addressing this early is a must for maintaining a healthy partnership. Some takeaways: How contempt is a red flag for a relationship's health The difference between resentment and contempt Maintaining a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactions Why addressing issues early on is key to preventing the buildup of hopelessness For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Resources: Connect with Kenny Levine Kenny's Coaching Practice *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Cassidy Freitas joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on co-regulation in parenting. Dr. Freitas breaks down advice like how a parent's calm presence can regulate a child's nervous system, and the crucial difference between gentle parenting and permissiveness. Some takeaways: What it means to be a calm anchor for your child's nervous system The crucial difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting Why understanding your own triggers is the first step to co-regulation The power of "repairing" after conflict to build a stronger connection For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Book Mentioned: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers Resource for Teachers in early childhood education: Teaching through Emotions . Connect with Dr. Cassidy: Cassidy's Website Listen to Holding Space Podcast Subscribe to Cassidy's Substack Follow Cassidy on Instagram The Crafted Practice and The Established Therapist Toolkit *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Ketamine specialist Shannon York joins Kristie and Felicia to chat about the transformative world of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). Shannon breaks down how it’s different from purely medical ketamine treatment, debunks common myths, and explores how (KAP) can quiet the brain's default mode network to accelerate healing. Some takeaways: - Ketamine as a medical treatment vs. an assistant to psychotherapy - Why setting a clear intention is a non-negotiable step - How KAP can make you more receptive to change - The importance of a strong therapeutic alliance to experience this safely For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Shannon. Get Shannon’s freebie for Loved Ones here! *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed and multi-certified therapist Kathryn Wood joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and intrusive thoughts. They break down what OCD actually is (and isn’t) and differentiate reality from pop psychology stereotypes. Some takeaways: The difference between a fleeting thought and a persistent, intrusive thought Why typical “advice” can actually make OCD worse How OCD can manifest: from perfectionism to fears of causing harm Learning to sit with uncertainty as healing For sponsorships, please reach out to wytt@besttherapists.com Be the first to join the upcoming WYTT Substack Follow Felicia on Instagram Follow WYTT on Instagram Connect with Kathryn: Kathryn's website: emboldenedtherapy.com Kathryn’s profile on BestTherapists.com Resources mentioned in this episode: TreatMyOCD.com International OCD Foundation *Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle *Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks *Brought to you by BestTherapists.com *Produced by PodVision. If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it! This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.