In Such A Time: Conversations on Jewish Life, Leadership & Meaning

This week’s episode of In Such A Time is taken from Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe’s Rosh Hashanah sermon. Discover how ancient traditions can provide a powerful antidote to modern loneliness and meaninglessness. What can the Jewish story teach us about overcoming the personal dislocation so many face today? Listeners are invited on a deeply personal and thought-provoking journey—beginning with a young adult’s search for community in San Francisco and moving through the social science, literature, and enduring wisdom that point us towards connection, purpose, and resilience. Explore the “4 Ps” of meaningful living—People, Past, Place, and Prayer—and learn how Jewish practices like Shabbat, storytelling, and communal gathering have sustained generations, even through adversity. Plus, find out why Israelis rank among the world’s happiest people, and how anyone can begin to “cash the check” of meaning. Whether you’re searching for connection or looking to enrich your Jewish journey, this episode offers insight, practical invitations, and hope for the year ahead. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction and personal journey[02:43] Modern loneliness and dislocation examined[04:27] The “4 Ps”: People, Past, Place, Prayer introduced[07:41] Deep dive: People—belonging to a larger story[09:26] Past—Jewish narrative and communal memory[11:59] Place—connection to Israel and homeland[13:15] Prayer—the power of communal worship[15:39] Happiness in Israel and sources of resilience[18:56] How to find purpose through Jewish life[19:51] Shabbat as a weekly antidote[20:47] Invitations to connect: Torah study, Israel trips, community events[23:13] Conclusion and call to action

Finding balance between caring for others and safeguarding our own well-being is not just a seasonal challenge—it's a lifelong dance. But can empathy ever go too far? In this thoughtful Rosh Hashanah episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy examine the power and perils of empathy—personally, communally, and even politically. From dissecting “The Giving Tree” to exploring boundaries in relationships, atonement, and social justice movements, the rabbis explore whether “radical empathy” can turn self-erasure into a vice. Hear powerful insights on Jewish text, real-life dilemmas, and why sometimes caring deeply means caring for ourselves, too. Timestamped Overview 00:00 The role of empathy during the High Holidays00:20 Rosh Hashanah and questions on the limits of empathy01:10 The Giving Tree as a cautionary tale02:08 Radical giving versus the necessity of boundaries03:43 Jewish historical perspective on giving and abuse04:46 Boundaries, self-preservation, and critique of radical empathy07:18 Is radical empathy a superpower or Achilles’ heel?08:00 Maimonides on forgiveness and setting limits11:00 Biblical examples: Jacob, Joseph, and trust12:53 On showing up for others without losing oneself15:23 Radical empathy as a modern social phenomenon17:25 When empathy becomes narcissism19:56 Empathy in everyday dilemmas: giving vs boundaries23:32 Directing empathy toward causes vs people close to us24:29 Empathy for others vs self; balancing acts25:10 Family boundaries and ethical permission26:15 The challenge—and necessity—of forgiveness28:15 Ritual, release, and catharsis during the High Holidays29:12 Empathy, forgiveness, and self-care for the new year29:46 Closing and next steps for the community

Discover why the High Holidays aren’t just about reflection—they’re also an opportunity for renewal, forgiveness, and connection to community and self. What does it mean to face a season of atonement and new beginnings? Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy unpack the tension, joy, and gravity of Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, exploring personal practices, communal rituals, parenting paradoxes, and the deep lessons found in tradition. This episode dives into the month of Elul, the dance between universalism and particularism, and the challenge of genuine self-forgiveness—all while inviting listeners to ready their hearts and minds for the year ahead. Timestamped Overview: 00:00 Welcome and introduction00:20 Preparing for the High Holidays: personal reflections01:43 Setting intentions during Elul02:39 Gratitude, community, and anticipation04:15 The structure of the Jewish calendar & holiday sequence06:09 Universal vs. particular themes of Rosh Hashanah08:29 Community, renewal, and self-improvement10:54 Personal vs. communal dimensions of atonement14:49 The pursuit of self-reflection and change17:11 Behind the bimah: clergy experiences18:12 The struggle and impact of apologies21:10 Parenting, authenticity, and forced apology23:17 Forgiving oneself and finding balance25:19 Personal rituals and spiritual motifs26:47 Living the tension: Avinu Malkeinu and holding opposites27:53 Closing remarks and credits

How can we balance genuine care with respect for privacy, especially in the public sphere? In this thoughtful episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy delve into the boundaries of concern, critique, and support, using the recent controversy surrounding Ariana Grande’s public health and body image as a lens. Drawing from Jewish wisdom and sharing personal and communal experiences, they reflect on how best to intervene—or step back—when someone may be in distress, whether they are celebrities, colleagues, or congregants. Listeners will gain insights on responsible feedback, the importance of an inner circle of support, and creating communities that nurture rather than critique. Episode Overview 00:00 Introduction to the episode and hosts 00:20 Exploring privacy, public concern, and the Ariana Grande controversy 01:26 Societal pressures and commentary on appearance 02:29 Do public figures sacrifice their privacy? 03:10 Personal experiences with public scrutiny—rabbis and celebrities alike 04:09 Reflecting on Britney Spears, Amy Winehouse, and public intervention 05:29 When and how should the public intervene to help? 06:18 Jewish models of giving feedback: Korach vs. Yitro 08:22 Context of Ariana Grande’s music video and its commentary 09:49 When support becomes harmful—personal story from Rabbi Leora Londy 12:28 Role of feedback in the rabbinate and community settings 13:50 Productive vs. hurtful feedback; handling comments on appearance 15:30 How staff and colleagues can offer care responsibly 17:47 Hierarchies, trust, and appropriate workplace feedback 19:12 Congregant feedback—when it helps, when it doesn’t 21:13 Appreciating honest, constructive criticism 22:49 Fostering a community of supportive feedback 23:37 Body image pressures, addiction, and the responsibilities of clergy 26:14 Protocols for supporting congregants in distress 27:27 The social pressures of high standards and conformity 28:27 Addressing addiction and providing resources 29:11 A direct message to listeners: you’re not alone, reach out 29:41 Outro and how to stay connected

When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we discover the true strength of community. What happens when support systems fail those most desperately in need? In this powerful episode, Rabbi Leora Londy and Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe tackle the deeply complex subject of women's mental health, inspired by the devastating Lindsay Clancy case. Drawing on personal experience, Jewish tradition, and real-world community dynamics, they explore questions of responsibility, stigma, and the roles we all play in supporting each other—especially when appearances hide real pain. The conversation offers lessons in compassion, the risks of stoicism, and practical steps for fostering genuine support within our communities. Timestamped Overview 00:00 Conversation introduction and framing: women's mental health00:30 Personal stories and the Lindsay Clancy case03:06 Mental health in Judaism: responsibility, the “shoteh,” and moral/legal implications10:02 Effective support: lessons from Israel and peer networks14:09 Stigma, silence, and the Jewish community's challenges16:23 High Holidays, birth, loss, and the spiritual lens19:29 Justice, judgment, and mercy in complex cases22:55 Jewish law, bystanders, and communal accountability24:22 Invitation to seek help and foster true community26:29 Embracing imperfection—linking vulnerability to the High Holidays28:25 Final words: reach out, support, and moving forward together

Engaging in respectful, challenging conversations—even when we disagree—can strengthen our communities and deepen our understanding of Jewish values. But what does Jewish tradition teach us about handling polarizing public issues like the recent Senate hearings with Dr. Fauci? In this episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy reflect on the intersection of political theater, the preservation of life (pikuach nefesh), and the dangers of celebrity culture and partisanship during the pandemic. They discuss their personal experiences—Rabbi Leora Londy from Israel and Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe from the U.S.—debate the cost and benefit of various pandemic policies, and explore how humility, dissent, and communal responsibility are deeply rooted Jewish values that can guide us through divisive moments. Key highlights include a candid discussion on the flaws of hero-villain narratives, how the pandemic shaped communal trust, and what ancient wisdom can offer today's combative public discourse. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction and overview[00:20] Jewish values guiding pandemic debates: Pikuach nefesh and fallibility[01:00] The primacy of preserving life in Judaism[04:14] Political theater, scapegoating, and Israel’s collective values during COVID[06:46] Differences in Israeli society; Haredi-community response[08:47] Honest reckoning with the costs and benefits of lockdowns[11:49] The impact and dangers of hubris: Dr. Fauci’s diaries and celebrity culture[16:41] Compassion, fallibility, and humility in leadership[19:26] The press, dissent, and the Jewish imperative to avoid groupthink[29:26] Modeling respectful disagreement and the role of community[31:11] Outro and closing remarks

Standing up for critical thinking and nuance in tumultuous times, this episode examines how political rhetoric at the highest levels can impact Jewish communities—and why thoughtful, honest conversation matters more than ever. The conversation focused on recent controversial statements from the New York City mayoral office and unpacked the layered impact on Jewish identity, safety, and leadership. One concept discussed was the persistent challenge of addressing both external antisemitism and internal division, particularly as outrage and extreme views dominate public discourse. A key theme that emerged was the importance of cultivating resilience and nuanced understanding within the Jewish community, even when feeling politically homeless. The discussion explored strategies for engaging the next generation, the dangers of social media echo chambers, and what real accountability and allyship should look like from political leaders. Timestamped Overview [00:00:00] Welcome & Introductions[00:00:23] Framing the Issue: NYC Mayoral Rhetoric and Its Impact[00:01:57] Emotional Reactions and Perceived Betrayal[00:05:03] Was It Naïveté or Reasonable Hope?[00:08:02] Importance of Engagement and Youth Perspectives[00:10:17] Outrage, Politics, and the Power of Social Media[00:13:31] Historical Parallels and New Generational Challenges[00:15:15] Pessimism, Critical Thinking, and Majority Impact[00:18:12] The Test for American Society[00:19:47] Nuance, Populism, and the Danger of Certainty[00:22:06] Conversations with Israelis: Complexity on the Ground[00:24:31] The Role of Israeli Extremism in International Perceptions[00:27:27] Moral Complexity, Military Leaders, and Hope for Politics[00:28:50] Diaspora Jews, Israeli Rhetoric, and Political Consequences[00:29:58] Everyday Jewish Life, Visibility, and Safety in NYC[00:32:18] What Would Restore Trust?[00:33:20] Refocusing Political Leadership: Hopes and Expectations[00:34:37] Closing & Resources

Righteous anger can fuel justice, but when does it cross the line? In this thought-provoking episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy dive into the role of anger in Jewish tradition, asking whether anger is a blemish on character or a vital ingredient for social change. Touching on biblical texts, personal experiences, and pivotal moments in history like the Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire, their conversation explores the balance between rage and constructive indignation, the gendered experience of anger, and how communal and personal anger can be channeled for good. With candor and philosophical depth, this episode will leave you rethinking the place of anger in your life and faith. Timestamped Overview 00:00 Welcome and introduction00:20 Shabbat Chazon, Isaiah, and God's anger02:02 Human emotion and biblical models of anger03:24 The risks and benefits of anger04:06 Is anger a sin or a necessary tool?05:38 Prophets, justice, and the uses of anger06:14 Personal example: parenting and anger07:22 Historical example: Triangle Shirtwaist Factory fire08:20 Parental anger and boundaries09:08 Anger in moderation vs. total avoidance10:32 Maimonides, Aristotle, and the 'golden mean'11:09 Is righteous anger part of Jewish tradition?12:09 Gender, anger, and societal expectations13:29 Anger as empowering and problematic14:22 Suppressing vs. expressing anger15:17 Cultural perspectives: Israel vs. America16:38 Cultural differences in expressing anger17:06 Guilt, anger, and personal weakness17:38 Handling anger without outburst18:23 Justified anger and its necessity18:23 God’s anger and the 13 attributes19:34 Appeasing anger—God and people20:14 Balancing justice and mercy21:06 God, values, and anger as projection22:10 Righteous anger in Torah stories22:11 Modern society’s anger and activism23:53 Social movements and anger24:18 Manifestations of anger: constructive and destructive25:15 Societal fraying and destructive rage26:18 Distinguishing anger from rage26:46 Prophets and righteous anger27:20 Parenting, anger, and positive motivation27:38 High Holidays and setting intention around anger28:28 Talmudic story: anger at wrongdoing29:14 Hasidic teachings—anger as a mask30:22 Compassion towards those showing anger30:56 Wrap-up and reflections30:58 Outro and contact information

Rebuilding can only begin once we honor our losses—so what can the most sorrowful day on the Jewish calendar teach us about hope and resilience? In this powerful episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy dive into the meaning, history, and contemporary relevance of Tisha B'Av. They explore the motifs of destruction and rebirth embedded in Jewish tradition, the deeply human need for collective mourning, and how Tisha B'Av acts as a transformative gateway to self-reflection and change. With personal stories, practical insights, and a look at shifting observance in the Reform movement, the rabbis offer rich inspiration for finding meaning—both in grief and in rebuilding. Timestamped Overview 00:00 Welcome and Setting the Context00:23 The Nine Days and Tisha B'Av: What and Why01:38 Historical Significance & National Grief03:43 Personal Memories and Experiences06:12 Senseless Hatred vs. Senseless Love07:09 Tisha B'Av as a 12-Step Program for Renewal10:44 Communal Mourning and Human Nature11:17 A Powerful Shared Tisha B'Av Story14:18 How Do We Observe Tisha B'Av?15:44 The Structure and Meaning of Eicha (Lamentations)17:32 Order, Structure, and Surviving Chaos20:27 Destruction as a Catalyst for Change21:26 The Reform Movement’s Relationship with Tisha B'Av23:25 Metaphor, Literalism, and Personal Belief25:01 Processing Sadness and Grief Today27:36 Sadness, Shabbat Nachamu, and the Turn Toward Hope29:44 Consolation, Hope, and Personal Reflections32:17 Tisha B'Av’s Enduring Antidote for Modern Times33:12 Wishing Listeners a Meaningful Tisha B'Av and Closing

What happens when the words we use to describe hate actually cloud our understanding rather than clarify it? In this episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy tackle the complicated language around "antisemitism," debating whether the term still serves us—or if it now obscures the nuanced realities of Jewish life and hatred today. Through layered discussion, personal stories, and historical insight, they dissect how language shapes our engagement, activism, and safety as Jews. If you've ever wrestled with what to call anti-Jewish hatred and why it matters, this episode arms you with new perspectives and vocabulary. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Intro, context, and episode framing[00:36] Review of "antisemitism"—where the term came from and its evolution[02:24] Is a new term like "anti-Jew hatred" needed?[03:19] The blind spots and rhetorical loopholes in today’s discourse[06:04] Experiencing antisemitism: personal anecdotes and reflections[10:19] The power dynamics of Jewish identity in America and Israel[12:34] Who gets to define the Jewish narrative and language?[13:45] Comparing modern Jew hatred to earlier forms[15:21] How antisemitism shapes Jewish identity for a new generation[16:19] Confusion, nuance, and the vocabulary gap for younger Jews[19:58] The tragic dilemma: moral labels and supporting Israel[22:39] Educational approaches and the gray zones of debate[24:57] The role of dissent, mass thinking, and internal critique[26:14] Differentiating the forms of hate from the right and left[28:39] Case studies: SodaStream, activism, and narrative battles[30:44] Words and their limits: is nuance a distraction?[32:04] Equipping Jewish young adults for tough conversations[34:02] Jews for Judaism and needing new scripts[35:01] Social exclusion, campus experiences, and new forms of hatred[36:06] Finding a shared language: next steps and community action[37:33] A light, humorous wrap-up on language change[38:52] Outro and resources

Discover why the language we use shapes not just debate but our very sense of belonging—especially when it comes to one of Judaism’s most loaded words: Zionism. Should we retire the term altogether? Join Rabbi Leora Londy and Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe as they tackle whether ongoing arguments over “Zionism” help or hinder honest conversation about Israel, Jewish identity, and inclusion in the Jewish community. Along the way, they delve into generational divides, personal journeys, and the dangers of reducing complex identities to slogans. The episode challenges listeners to reflect on the words they use, the reasons behind their associations, and what truly unites or fractures the Jewish people today. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction: The Power of Words & the Season of Devarim [00:44] Should We Retire “Zionism”? [02:47] Anecdote: Zio’s Deli and Language’s Shifting Meaning [03:35] History and Meaning of Zionism [05:05] Reactions to Retiring the Term [05:52] What if There Were No Replacement Term? [07:02] Lived Identity and Nuances within Zionism [09:36] Is Zionism Too Broad or Too Loaded? [11:44] Encounters with “Anti-Zionist” Jews [13:54] The Fracture and Opportunity in These Conversations [15:25] The Futility of Debating Israel’s Right to Exist [19:25] Personal Journey: Leaving, Longing for, and Defending Israel [23:22] Advocating for a Better Israel [25:42] Why Apologize for Supporting Israel? [28:50] Personal Stories of Protest and Tisha B’Av [30:47] The Motif of Destruction and Renewal [32:31] Anti-Zionism: PR or Deeper Ideology? [33:31] What Are People Really Opposing? [35:56] Words as Slogans vs. Substance [36:56] Challenging Listeners: How Do You Enter This Debate? [37:43] Closing: Volunteering in Israel and Hopes for Future Conversations

Amid the ever-shifting landscape of global politics, adaptability and historical memory remain vital. What happens when Israel can no longer rely on longstanding alliances—or when old assumptions about safety and security are challenged by new realities? In this episode, the conversation focused on the recent Iran memorandum of understanding, its implications for Israeli politics and security, and how American Jewish communities are processing these developments. Key themes include the unraveling of Netanyahu’s traditional claims to leadership, the unpredictability of Middle Eastern agreements, the power of grassroots action, and the emerging sense of vulnerability and responsibility among Jews worldwide. The discussion explored the fragility of political constructs and the importance of taking proactive steps—even when the geopolitical terrain feels overwhelming. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Introduction and Iran memorandum context[01:05] Shifting Israeli political alliances and Netanyahu’s strategy[02:48] Netanyahu’s traditional claims and their erosion[04:25] Influence of Iran conflict on upcoming Israeli elections[05:24] Personalities, alliances, and unity efforts in Israel[07:36] Fractured political landscape and ultra-Orthodox draft tensions[09:12] Exclusion of Israel in Iran negotiations and diaspora perspectives[10:30] Value of PR vs. military strength for Israel[12:40] Unreliable agreements in Middle Eastern politics[14:06] Sports contract analogy for international deals[15:14] “Pie in the sky” promises and managed chaos[16:42] Cultural differences and the nature of Middle Eastern agreements[18:32] Limits of diplomacy with Iran and intractable issues[20:10] Comparison with JCPOA and Israel’s security situation[21:34] Powerlessness and public anxiety around global events[22:27] Rising antisemitism and boundaries of safety[24:29] American Jewish experiences and lessons from history[25:30] Role of American Jews in the Israeli election[27:53] Travel, solidarity, and strengthening global Jewish connection[29:19] Alternatives to the US-Israel alliance and rethinking assumptions[30:51] Final reflections and hopes for thoughtful leadership[31:42] Outro and community information

What if rooting for laundry is the closest most people will get to a spiritual experience? In this episode of "In Such a Time," Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy reveal powerful (and surprising) parallels between sports fandom and religious identity—from sacred rituals to communal belonging, group pride, and even prayer for teams at B’Nai Mitzvah. Explore how being a Knicks fan or cheering at the World Cup connects to deeper questions of meaning, purpose, isolation, and humility. Plus, the hosts tackle why modern worship can feel like a spectator sport, the complicated intersection of nationalism and sports, and the unexpected grace in sports-driven gratitude, all while sharing personal stories about finding their own teams—and why sometimes your kids turn you into a fan. Timestamped Overview 00:00 New York City’s sports euphoria and national pride01:24 How sports teams unite people—and Little League reflections03:15 Sports as a pressure valve from heavy news and everyday stress04:43 Teamwork, the Knicks, and modeling community05:16 Prayer, spirituality, and sports in B'Nai Mitzvah ceremonies06:15 Parallels between sports institutions and religious ritual08:20 The quest for belonging: sports fandom vs. religious community09:34 Rooting for laundry: entity over the individual11:06 Inherited vs. willed fandom; forming team identities in the family14:13 Sports as ideology in Israel—and finding your “tribe”15:26 Parental perspective: cultivating a sports or Jewish home16:22 Descartes’ Wager, willing yourself into fandom, and team ethos18:00 Difference between passive fandom and participatory religion20:11 Worship as engagement vs. entertainment23:07 Examples of participatory spiritual models: High Holidays, B’Nai Mitzvah26:12 Religion in sport—God, gratitude, and humility in athletics28:49 Finding purpose: feeling privileged in your calling31:33 Biblical lessons: putting people in positions to succeed34:00 Tribalism, nationalism, and collective sports moments36:41 When sports and politics collide—wishing for escapism38:07 Choosing your World Cup team with Jewish history in mind40:40 Sports moments that build bridges and community42:16 Local synagogue teams: Matzoh Ballers and Shofar Shooters

What if the ancient Jewish blessing for newborns—to study Torah, perform good deeds, and one day get married—no longer fits our modern lives? This episode dives headfirst into the evolving role of marriage within Jewish tradition, asking whether meaningful lives require sacred relationships or if today’s realities demand more inclusive interpretations. The conversation focused on how liturgy, cultural expectations, and Torah values intertwine with individual choices, from celebrating couples and families to affirming those who embrace singlehood, diverse relationship structures, or child-free living. One concept discussed was how the language and boundaries of tradition adapt (or resist adaptation) in a rapidly changing world. Several points were raised, including whether marriage—a central Jewish value—should remain the ideal, how modern realities around procreation expand beyond traditional frameworks, and how communities can honor both heritage and innovation without leaving anyone out. Timestamped Overview: [00:00] Welcome and introduction; framing the big question around baby-naming and liturgical blessings[00:55] Traditions of blessing babies for future marriage—should this still be central?[02:11] Reevaluating assumptions: The pressure to solve “singlehood” in the Jewish community[05:37] Language of relationships in Hebrew and the cultural focus on couplehood[07:54] Scriptural and theological roots for prioritizing marriage[09:48] Jewish tradition, divorce, and the complexity of sacred relationships[11:16] Modern realities: procreation, family structures, and choices outside marriage[12:06] Navigating the boundaries of tradition and new relationship models[14:48] Addressing individuals who choose solitude or non-traditional paths[17:56] The challenge of offering advice rooted in Jewish tradition versus personal bias[19:52] Personal perspectives shaped by context and upbringing[21:27] Translating and updating liturgical language to reflect diverse relationships[22:46] Inclusivity, evolving models, and the risk of boundaryless tradition[23:49] Marriage, parenthood, and shifting social responsibilities[26:11] Reflections on family, loneliness, and reconfiguring community bonds[27:03] Defending the central place of marriage and family in Jewish life[29:20] Balancing tradition with inclusion and support for all kinds of lives[30:35] Jewish tradition’s historical and legal approach to polyamory[30:56] Considering child-free marriages and how blessings infer expectations[33:34] Concerns about new generational trends and fulfillment[34:24] Teens’ perspectives on marriage and raising Jewish families[35:31] Translating blessings to allow for meaningful but nontraditional relationships[36:36] Final thoughts: wrestling with tradition, modern values, and what it means to bless a life

What if the very heart of Reform Judaism—its relationship to Israel—was up for debate in the ordaining of new rabbis? This episode of "In Such a Time" plunges into the charged question rocking Hebrew Union College and the wider Reform movement: Should future clergy be required to support the existence of the State of Israel? Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy reflect on their experience at the recent Recharging Reform Judaism conference, revealing the internal clashes between progressive ideals and core Jewish principles. From tensions over anti-Zionist rabbis in the pulpit to the generational divide in Jewish safety and memory, the conversation exposes both vulnerability and vitality within the Reform movement today. You'll hear candid perspectives on the responsibilities of seminaries, the boundaries of Jewish leadership, and why these debates matter for the future of Jewish communities everywhere. Episode Overview 00:00 — Intro: Jewish Life, Leadership, and Meaning00:20 — The Conference Question: Zionism and Rabbinic Ordination01:46 — Personal Values at Odds: Love for Israel and Liberalism02:50 — Should All Viewpoints Be Welcomed in Seminary?04:20 — Seminary Graduates as Communal Leaders — Risks and Concerns06:21 — Reform Judaism Principles and the Litmus Test Debate09:23 — Troubling Stories from Students in Israel10:04 — Crossing Boundaries — When Disagreement Becomes Disrespect11:39 — Praising Authentic Leadership and Respectful Discourse13:31 — Tension Between Seminary as Yeshiva vs. Graduate School15:11 — Israeli and American Program Differences17:24 — Roots, Privilege, and the Meaning of Being Jewish19:13 — HUC’s Position and the Challenge of Hiring21:13 — Competition Among Seminaries and Community Trends22:59 — Clergy Influence on Congregational Direction24:37 — Chicken-and-Egg: Institutions vs. Rabbis Shaping the Future26:20 — Generational Shifts After October 7th27:05 — Analogy: Why HUC Is No Longer “Costco” for Reform Rabbis28:14 — Boundaries, Liberalism, and the Anxiety of Jewish Identity30:09 — Betrayal and Defining Reform Judaism32:25 — Early Encounters with Anti-Zionist Discourse33:22 — Lack of Humility and Seeking a Platform, Not Learning35:01 — Are Students Exposed to True Viewpoint Diversity?38:14 — Deep Fractures — Are We Even the Same People?40:00 — Why the Reform Movement’s Fate Might Not Matter to All41:44 — Jewish Safety, Privilege, and the Legacy of Israel41:56 — Hope for Enhanced Viewpoint Diversity at HUC43:11 — Closing and Where to Find More

Could loving your favorite band put your safety—or your conscience—at risk? This episode of "In Such a Time" confronts a dilemma that many are now quietly struggling with: What should you do when beloved artists publicly express harshly critical or anti-Semitic views? The conversation focuses on the personal and communal challenges of reconciling artistic appreciation with ethical boundaries, especially when those boundaries hit close to home. A key theme that emerged was the pain of "breaking up" with once-cherished music and art due to the artist’s public stance and how that sense of loss is a form of grief. The discussion explored the complexity of separating art from the artist, delving into whether certain lines—like singling out Israel or perpetuating dangerous tropes—should be crossed, and if so, how to respond. Several points were raised, including real-life anecdotes about concerts, the influence of artists on public opinion, the pressures facing Jewish families and communities, and the difference between supporting artists with controversial pasts and those who currently foment hatred. The episode ultimately calls for more nuanced conversations and challenges listeners to think deeply about their own values and choices in this polarized time. Timestamped Overview [00:00:00] Welcoming listeners and introducing the episode’s core dilemma[00:01:10] Personal struggles with separating music from artist statements[00:03:19] Navigating Jewish identity in spaces where Israel is criticized[00:05:13] The emotional toll of losing beloved artists to divisive rhetoric[00:10:24] Separating art from artist—where do we draw the line?[00:13:20] The stakes of hate speech versus other types of bad behavior[00:19:06] Weighing collective versus individual harm[00:22:40] The call for real dialogue versus sloganeering[00:24:43] Do artists have a responsibility to avoid wedge issues?[00:28:03] Public figures singling out Israel compared to other global offenses[00:32:38] Practical advice—how do we handle music we love but now question?[00:40:07] The fracturing of bands and communities over political divides[00:41:00] Parting thoughts: keeping the conversation going

What if you could only keep five Jewish holidays for the rest of your life? Which would you choose—and which would you let go? In this fun, live episode recorded on Erev Shavuot, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy go head-to-head in a lively "draft pick" of annual Jewish holidays, revealing surprising priorities, personal stories, and the deeper values these days embody. From the foundational power of Passover, to the drama and debate over the best (and worst) festival foods, to the meaning behind both universally beloved and lesser-known holidays, this episode is full of insight, humor, and communal reflection. Plus: listeners get involved with live audience voting on the ultimate top 10 list—sparking debates about tradition, renewal, and the evolving Jewish calendar. Episode Overview: 00:00 Welcome and episode introduction00:21 Setting up the live holiday draft and ground rules01:08 How the draft works: format confusion and competitive spirit04:08 First pick: Rabbi Leora Londy chooses Passover and explains its generational meaning06:03 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe reacts and shares the cultural richness of Passover07:01 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe drafts Rosh Hashanah, describing its sensory joys10:04 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe picks Sukkot: impermanence, outdoor celebration, and family12:51 Rabbi Leora Londy drafts Shavuot and why revelation and learning matter15:25 Shavuot’s food debate and differences between Israel and Diaspora17:51 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe drafts Hanukkah: joy, food, and resilience20:57 Rabbi Leora Londy picks Tisha B'Av: loss, destruction, and renewal23:00 Sparring over mourning days and fasting25:55 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe drafts Purim: strength, assimilation, and trauma28:02 Discussion: Purim memories, struggles, and Jewish identity29:30 Rabbi Leora Londy drafts Yom Kippur: hope, atonement, and community33:01 Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe drafts Simchat Torah: finishing and restarting the Torah cycle35:06 Rabbi Leora Londy closes with Yom Ha'atzmaut: Zionism, gratitude, and complexity38:31 Final reflections and the meaning behind Israel’s celebrations39:36 Outro and how to connect with the hosts and congregation

What if the stories shaping global perceptions of Israel—and the Jewish people—weren't as clear-cut as headlines suggest? This episode dives headfirst into the New York Times op-ed by Nicholas Kristof, a piece that's sent shockwaves throughout the Jewish American community by alleging systematic abuses by Israeli soldiers. But hosts Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy refuse to settle for cynicism or despair—instead, they grapple with uncomfortable truths, media responsibility, and the moral backbone of Israel itself. From gut-wrenching reports of violence and human rights abuses on all sides, to the dangers of moral absolutism and anti-Semitism, this episode doesn't shy away from controversy. Yet, at its heart, it calls for integrity, empathy, and real dialogue—reminding us that facing hard questions is the path to a better, more just community and world. Listen in for an urgent conversation about truth, accountability, and the hope for a more humane future. Timestamped Overview [00:00] Episode introduction and Kristof’s controversial article[00:51] Rabbi Leora Londy reacts: emotional turmoil and moral disappointment[02:55] Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe on community divisions and credibility of media[05:55] The importance—and challenge—of maintaining a moral compass amid conflict[08:55] Grappling with Israeli societal tensions post-October 7th[10:45] Debating what “systematic” really means and double standards in global scrutiny[14:20] Checks, balances, and the dangers of unchecked power in Israel[18:07] Democracy, protest, and the realities of Israeli society[20:11] Violence, changing cultural norms, and who serves in the IDF[22:53] Critiquing Kristof: sources, timing, and journalistic responsibility[26:33] The impact of allegations, storytelling, and bearing witness[31:34] Moral inversion, media narratives, and the perils of antisemitism[40:17] The missed opportunity for Israeli self-reflection and accountability[42:42] Ending with hope: forging dialogue and seeing the humanity in the other[43:38] Outro and how to connect with the community

What if being a rabbi is a little like being a professional wrestler—so caught up in your public Persona that you risk losing sight of your authentic self? Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy wrestle (sometimes literally!) with the surprising parallels between the performative world of Hulk Hogan and the lives of clergy. From Netflix’s revealing Hulk Hogan series to stories from the bema, they explore how leaders juggle authenticity, authority, and public expectation while resisting the pitfalls of Persona-overload. Highlights include honest talk about boundaries, family life, Jewish texts on roles and authenticity, and how to stay grounded when the world puts you on a pedestal. Curious whether your rabbi is more Moses or more Hulk Hogan? Don’t miss this behind-the-scenes look at leadership, vulnerability, and what it really takes to hold sacred space for others—and yourself. Timstamped Overview [00:00] Welcome & the Netflix Hulk Hogan connection[02:17] Persona vs. self: clergy, wrestlers, and losing yourself[06:32] Navigating rabbinic boundaries and authenticity[11:15] Jewish texts: Esther, Hadassah, and priestly role-playing[14:38] What happens when the rabbi steps down? Identity & authority[18:00] Imposter syndrome and the cost of being “on”[29:36] Family life, kids, and living in the synagogue spotlight[37:26] The quest for authenticity in a performative world[41:08] Stay grounded: funny stories, humility, and final reflections[42:58] Outro & where to connect

Did you know there’s a major Jewish holiday that many people barely recognize—or even know exists? In this upbeat and eye-opening episode, Rabbi Jonathan Jaffe and Rabbi Leora Londy uncover the mystery behind Shavuot’s “disappearing act” in much of the diaspora, despite its deep spiritual, historical, and culinary significance. The episode journeys between vibrant Shavuot celebrations in Israel—complete with all-night learning, white clothes, and cheese platters—to the challenges faced in North American communities where Shavuot is often overlooked or misunderstood. Highlights include surprising cultural differences, creative ways to revive Shavuot (think: wine and cheese festivals, community TED talks, and baby blessings), and thoughtful reflections on reimagining tradition for today’s Jewish families. Whether you’re searching for meaningful rituals, ways to connect, or just want to savor some Jewish wisdom, this “triage team” episode is packed with inspiration, humor, and practical ideas to put Shavuot back on your calendar. Timestamped Overview 00:00 Welcome & setup: the mystery of Shavuot’s decline01:20 What is Shavuot: origins, meaning, and traditions03:33 Israel’s Shavuot renaissance: dairy, study, and fashion06:43 Why is Shavuot overlooked in the diaspora?09:07 The missing ritual “hook” of Shavuot11:23 Ritual contrasts: Israeli and diaspora experiences13:04 The “crisis” of forgotten holidays and possible solutions15:13 Reform Judaism’s attempts: confirmation & Tikkun Leil17:09 Creative communal Shavuot celebrations19:05 Personal and communal impact of shifting Jewish calendars22:19 Practical suggestions: wine & cheese, cultural events25:01 Interfaith lessons and the Book of Ruth28:10 Bikurim and celebrating new life29:39 Communicating and reclaiming Shavuot32:57 Integrating tradition, text, and contemporary relevance35:31 Theological challenges of Shavuot’s Torah reading39:01 The cycle of brokenness and renewal40:26 Closing suggestions for celebrating Shavuot now42:21 Outro and ways to connect