Come Together with Erin + Abe Lichy

For a long time, Erin has been waiting to open up about how grief has shown up in her life. But the time wasn't right, until now. If you've ever lost someone and tried to keep moving anyway — you'll recognize this. The repressing, the distracting, the moment your body finally forces you to stop. Erin shares what happened after her dad died, what showed up physically when the grief ran out of places to hide, and how Nicole Sachs helped her understand what was actually going on. Whether you've dealt with chronic pain, anxiety, autoimmune stuff, or just feel like your body is working against you, this episode is for you. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Serena Kerrigan is in the building, and she has a book, a boyfriend, and approximately 600 men worth of dating experience to draw from. We cover all of it. We get into why wanting a relationship has somehow become embarrassing, why the talking stage is ruining everything, and why butterflies might actually be a red flag. Serena makes the case for rebranding dating as fun — and explains why the women who stop trying so hard are always the ones who find someone. We also get into first date etiquette (drinks, not dinner, and definitely not Nobu), why sex on the first date almost always leads to spiraling, and what it actually means to let yourself be pursued without losing your edge. Her book Let's Fcking Date is out September 22nd. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Okay, hear us out... Erin's not here this week. So naturally Abe brought in a very special guest: Claude. Yeah, the AI. We're honestly just suprised it took him this long to do it. Together, they cover AI relationships, consciousness, mortality, the three things quietly killing most marriages, and whether presence can survive the attention economy. It's a philosophy episode disguised as something weirder. We know. Just trust us on this one. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We're recording this one from the Maidstone in East Hampton, which means we're relaxed, slightly sleep-deprived, and ready to get into it. The topic: scorekeeping in relationships — what it actually looks like, why it's so easy to fall into, and how defensiveness is basically its evil twin. We get into the detail-oriented partner debate (Erin has thoughts, Abe has counterpoints, neither fully wins), why how you ask for help matters as much as asking for it, and what it actually means to operate as a unit instead of two people keeping tabs. We also go on a tangent about the algorithm, cancel culture, comment section wars, and why people who curse at old ladies in their cars are the same people saying unhinged things online. It made sense in the moment. Enjoy! Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

It's just Erin today, and I've got a lot to say. You sent in your marriage questions and I'm answering all of them — unfiltered, no notes, no Abe to interrupt me. We get into the biggest lesson marriage has actually taught me, how to know when a relationship is worth fighting for versus when to walk away, and whether love is enough. (The answer is complicated.) Also: why I don't think happy couples fight less, why intimacy can't be optional, what it actually means to reconnect after a big argument, and why you should absolutely be paying attention to how your partner treats their mother. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We get into the husband habits that need to be addressed (loud chewing is a crime, dental hygiene is private), why Erin didn't change her name for 11 years and what finally made her do it, and the sorority hazing story that has genuinely never come up before. It involves rotten eggs, a basement, and something we're not going to explain further. You'll have to listen. We also revisit the chase — why playing it a little cool still works, why over-texting kills the vibe even when you're married, and why some version of mystery is just always gonna be hot. Plus: House of the Dragon, the Rothschilds, and whether two people in a relationship can both be shopaholics. (They cannot.) Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We've been wanting to have Dr. Shefali on for a while, and this conversation did not disappoint. She's a clinical psychologist, bestselling author, and one of the most clear-eyed people we've heard talk about what's actually happening to this generation of kids — and what parents can do about it. We get into the crisis of masculinity and why boys are being pathologized for being boys, the war on girls' authenticity, and why the algorithm is essentially raising our children whether we like it or not. She also gets into conscious parenting, the difference between controlling your kid and connecting with them, and why boredom is one of the greatest gifts you can give a child right now. There's a moment in here where she says, "Wake the f up." She means it. So do we. Get More Dr. Shefali Instagram Order 'Raising Conscious Sons & Daughters' Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We've been getting real estate questions forever, so here it is — the full story, from the 670K railroad-adjacent apartment in Hell's Kitchen to the Bushwick two-family we bought off a construction frame, to the Hamptons house nobody wanted because grandma had wallpapered every single room. We walk through every flip, every 1031 exchange, every moment we almost overcomplicated it, and what we actually learned. The big takeaway: stop buying real estate for yourself. Buy it for the market you're eventually selling to. We also get into why renting your city apartment is not the flex people think it is, why a dump with good bones will always beat a pretty property with bad ones, and what we just picked up upstate — four acres on a creek for reasons that will make sense once we explain it. None of this is legal or tax advice. But it is everything we know. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Special Edition: We're recording this one from Baha Mar, which sounds glamorous until you factor in four kids, an early flight, a sleepover the night before, and a baby who definitely didn't nap enough. We talk about the wellness industrial complex and why all the cold plunges and sleep scores might actually be making you more stressed, not less. Then we get into what's actually worked — cooking at home, heavy weights, and the gamified abusive AI coach Abe built for himself that calls him a fat piece of shit if he skips the gym. It's a whole thing. And then it goes somewhere unexpected. We end up talking about grief, losing a parent, and that strange moment on the other side of it where you feel both older and somehow freer. Abe talks about meeting his dad on his journey. We didn't plan to go there, but we did. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We've been thinking a lot about what it actually means to raise a daughter — and this week we go there. Erin gets into how her relationship with her dad shaped everything: her confidence, her career, the reason no man has ever made her feel small. Abe gets into the pressure of getting it right with Layla, and why making her feel safe being herself is the whole job. We also get into the patriarchy, which we don't fully agree on. Surprising to no one. Then we debut a new segment: things that annoy us. Slow walkers who stop in the middle of the sidewalk, over-apologizing in texts, couples who call each other baby (Abe has a theory about this and it's unhinged), and the long birthday post that is actually a red flag. You'll know exactly what we mean. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Gabriella Pomari is a divorce lawyer from Australia who got so tired of watching families break from the process that she built an entire platform to help couples before they ever need her. We loved her. We get into the patterns she sees over and over — silent quitting, the invisible load, what it actually means when you stop wanting to share your news with your partner first. She breaks down her four pillars of communication, why the pause is more powerful than winning the argument, and how to ask your partner for space without them thinking you're blowing everything up. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

You asked, I answered — and nothing was off limits. We get into why you haven't seen the new house yet (it's coming, I promise), the insecurities I actually have even if I seem confident, and yes, the full breakdown on the breast surgery — what I got, who I'd recommend researching, and the things nobody tells you until after. We also talk postpartum timelines, intuitive eating, the workout routine that keeps me sane, why I put almost everything back into real estate, and what Abe and I will actually do when the kids are grown. Spoiler: I'm not worried. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

This week we chat with Amy Chan, a relationship expert and author of the new book, "Unsingle: How to Date Smarter and Create Love That Lasts." We get into the highs and lows of modern dating, how to differentiate between chemistry and an activated nervous system, and why people are preferring IRL experiences over dating apps. Amy also explains the phenomenon of "over-icking" and how women will refuse a second date because of a tiny quirk! She talks about her dating bootcamps, the skills she teaches participants, and we even get into people falling in love with their AI chatbots. Whether you're actively dating, recovering from heartbreak, or looking for a healthier approach to love, this conversation offers actionable advice for finding deeper, more meaningful connections. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We get a lot of questions about parenting, and honestly, it makes sense. Raising kids in 2026 is totally different from how it was for our parents! We talk all things kids and tech, including when we do--and don't--allow screens in our kids' lives. We also talk about internet safety, and how Abe accidentally freaked our kids out about posting anything about themselves online. (Honestly? It's probably for the best.) We chat about taking kids to restaurants--spoiler: no iPads!--and shed light on our parenting philosophy and when we actually find it helpful to treat our kids as our friends! Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

As you get older and "life starts life-ing," you might notice your friendships starting to change. And that's what we dive into this week: times when we've grown in a different direction than our friends, how we started getting more selective about our inner circle, and how we've let go of the guilt that can come with changing friendships in adulthood. We also talk about clingy friends Abe had when he was dating Erin (which of course, Erin warned him about!), differences between guy and girl friendships, and the friends we rely on to watch our kids without worrying about whether they'll keep them alive. And finding couple friends that both of us actually like? We get into that too. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Everyone wants to know how to keep things spicy... and pretending there one at all might actually be the problem. This week we get into what's worked for us — the '1-10 Rule' that that has genuinely saved us from so many stupid fights, why a little distance and independent interests can do more for attraction than any date night, and the story of how Erin told Abe to quit corporate law. (Spoiler: He did. We don't regret it.) We also talk prenups (which is less dramatic than it sounds), non-negotiable date nights when you have small kids, and what to actually do with the two hours after bedtime. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media . See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We thought Levi was doing face yoga. Actually? He was looks-maxing. And turns out he's not the only one. We found out there's a whole subculture here — soft maxing, hard maxing, bone smashing, clip farms, and a guy named Clavicular who ODed on a live stream. We had to look up half of these words in real time. Abe knew more than he should... like usual. We get into the bigger generational conversation, disagree about some of it, and somehow end up at dumpling hunting and no-phone clubs. Classic us. Soft maxing is fine by the way. It's just face yoga. The rest of it, well, we'll let you decide. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We have loooooots to catch up on. Being married in public is its own thing entirely, and this week we're getting into all of it. We go there on the Summer House drama and the Taylor Frankie Paul situation, and we have thoughts. A lot of them. What happens when you do something very high school while the whole internet is watching, why people feel entitled to your everything once you're a public person, and where the line actually is between what audiences are owed and what's still yours to keep. If your marriage can survive reality TV, it can probably survive anything. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

Lindsey Metselaar has been in our lives since before she had a following, a husband, or a sleep schedule. Now she has all three, plus a 2.5-month-old. We reminisce about our extremely unproductive work era together, and then somehow spend the next hour covering postpartum bodies, C-sections, cosmetic work, the filler rabbit hole, sobriety, and why today's weed is genuinely not the same conversation it was fifteen years ago. Abe makes his case against the filler rabbit hole. Lindsay makes her case for a "beauty broker." We cover the NICU, postpartum resentment, and why watching your husband handle a toddler and a newborn at the same time is, apparently, very attractive. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S NEW BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .

We’re officially making sex a recurring topic because clearly, no one’s saying what’s actually happening. We get into the so-called “sex recession,” why Gen Z might be having less sex than anyone expected, and how phones, gaming, and living at home are quietly changing the whole dynamic. Then it turns into a very real debate about one-night stands, sleepover etiquette (or lack thereof), and what actually flies vs. what absolutely does not. And then we get honest about marriage. Kids, routines, exhaustion — all of it — and how that actually impacts your sex life. We talk about the whole “twice a week” narrative, why it feels a little fake, and what matters more than just checking a box. Get More Erin + Abe ORDER ERIN'S NEW BOOK 'She's A Host' HERE! @ cometogetherpod @ erindanalichy @ abe.lichy Produced by Dear Media See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info .