Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys

Boys are growing up in a world that will define manhood for them if we don’t. What happens when a father decides to build a legacy on purpose — instead of by accident? 🎙 In This Episode A powerful conversation about responsibility, redemption, and what it means to become the father you didn’t have. In this episode of Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys , I sit down with father-child relationship coach Randall Gilbert, founder of Relentless Father’s Army, for a direct and heartfelt conversation about legacy, ownership, and emotional presence. Randall shares his personal story of growing up without his father, the promise he made to his future children, and the turning point moment when a mentor challenged him to take responsibility for his home. This episode is about more than fatherhood. It’s about identity. It’s about forgiveness. It’s about becoming the solid foundation your family stands on. 🧠 We Discuss Growing up without a father — and choosing to forgive The two decisions that changed Randall’s life The Four Legacy Pillars framework Why consistency builds confidence in boys Responding to disappointment without shame Protecting sons in a digital, hypersexualized world The importance of mentorship and brotherhood for men Emotional regulation when children fail Why financial provision is only part of a father’s role Co-parenting and “sowing seeds” without immediate return The danger of impatience in parenting What it means to build a legacy that lasts 50 years ⏱ Episode Highlights 00:00 – Randall’s story: father absence and forgiveness 06:30 – The Four Legacy Pillars explained 12:40 – Consistency and confidence (the high school dance story) 20:00 – Guarding heart and mind in a digital culture 28:00 – The mentor who confronted him 35:30 – Failure, encouragement, and emotional regulation 42:00 – The greatest threat to a father’s legacy 47:00 – Co-parenting and planting seeds with patience 53:00 – “Will you be remembered 50 years from now?” 🎁 Free Resource for Parents of Boys If today’s conversation stirred something in you, start here: 👉 Download: 5 Pivotal Tips on Parenting Boys https://sonhood.thinkific.com/courses/5-pivotal-tips-on-parenting-boys This free guide will help you: ✔️ Understand how boys process emotion ✔️ Shift from correction to connection ✔️ Respond instead of react ✔️ Build trust without losing leadership 🔥 Ready to Take One Small Step? If you’re listening and thinking… “I want to do this differently.” Let’s make it simple. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™(Limited Spots) 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ 3 Days . One tiny, powerful action per day sent to your inbox. ✨ 1:1 Support. You message me your experience; I support you personally with insights. ✨ Limited Access. I only take 5-7 parents per week to keep the coaching personal. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady progress . 👉 Email me at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com Subject line: I’m in OR 👇 Comment “STRONG” below and I’ll send you the Tiny Challenge details directly. About Randall Gilbert Randall Gilbert is a speaker, father-child relationship coach, and founder of Relentless Father’s Army — a community equipping men to become consistent, engaged, and purpose-driven fathers. Drawing from personal transformation and mentorship, Randall developed the Four Legacy Pillars framework to help fathers become: The Solid Foundation The Wall of Protection The Lighthouse The Runway His mission is to help transform one million lives by strengthening fathers from the inside out. Connect with Randall Gilbert Website: relentlessfathersarmy.com YouTube: Relentless Father’s Army TikTok: Relentless Father’s Army Email: relentlessfathersarmy@gmail.com https://linktr.ee/relentlessfathersarmy https://skool.com/relentless-fathers-army-9850 🎙 Season 3: All About Boys Too many boys today are navigating identity, desire, disappointment, and cultural confusion without steady guidance. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code explores the inner emotional world of boys through conversations with young men, experts, fathers, and reflective solo episodes. This isn’t about fixing boys. It’s about seeing them clearly — and helping fathers build the kind of foundation that lasts long after they’re gone. Discover more at sonhoodcoaching.com 🎙 Subscribe & Share If this episode resonated: ✔️ Subscribe ✔️ Leave a review ✔️ Share with a father raising sons ✔️ Comment with your biggest takeaway #ParentingBoys #Fatherhood #RaisingSons #Masculinity #Legacy #RelentlessFather

Boys are growing up in a world where sexuality is instant, private, and unfiltered. What happens when curiosity meets secrecy before it ever meets guidance? 🎙 In This Episode A grounded conversation about pornography, shame, and connection. In this episode of Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys , I sit down with Licensed Professional Counselor Patrick Eilers for a thoughtful and nuanced conversation about boys, pornography, emotional regulation, and what he calls “the vulnerability robber.” Patrick shares from both his professional experience and his personal story — including being diagnosed at age 11 with Asperger syndrome (now ASD) and how that shaped his understanding of himself, relationships, and mental health. 🧠 We Discuss Patrick’s early ASD diagnosis and how it impacted his identity and relationships Growing up feeling socially different — and how that became a strength His personal struggle with pornography during adolescence How that experience led him to becoming a counsellor Why pornography often becomes a coping mechanism The role of secrecy in addiction cycles Testosterone, biology, and what we do (and don’t) understand Why social media amplifies sexualized thinking The difference between attention and authenticity What parents can practically do to reduce risk Why vulnerability is often the first thing lost ⏱ Episode Highlights 00:00 – Patrick’s background, faith foundation, and ASD diagnosis 09:30 – His personal experience with pornography 14:00 – Biology, trauma, and addiction frameworks 18:30 – Testosterone: what we know and what remains unclear 22:00 – Social media and hypersexualization 26:30 – What parents can do before exposure happens 32:40 – “The Vulnerability Robber” explained 35:00 – Social media, compartmentalization, and secret lives 37:40 – Masculinity, authenticity, and cultural confusion 🎁 Free Resource for Parents of Boys If today’s conversation stirred something in you, start here: 👉 Download: 5 Pivotal Tips on Parenting Boys https://sonhood.thinkific.com/courses/5-pivotal-tips-on-parenting-boys This free guide will help you: ✔️ Understand how boys process emotion ✔️ Shift from correction to connection ✔️ Respond instead of react ✔️ Build trust without losing leadership 🔥 Ready to Take One Small Step? If you’re listening and thinking… “I want to do this differently.” Let’s make it simple. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™(Limited Spots) 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ 3 Days. One tiny, powerful action per day sent to your inbox. ✨ 1:1 Support. You message me your experience; I support you personally with insights. ✨ Limited Access. I only take 5-7 parents per week to keep the coaching personal. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady progress. 👉 Email me at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com Subject line : I’M IN OR 👇 Comment “STRONG” below and I’ll send you the Tiny Challenge details directly. About Patrick Eilers Patrick Eilers is a Licensed Professional Counselor with nearly a decade of experience working with individuals and couples navigating anxiety, depression, addiction, and life transitions. He previously specialized in sexual addiction recovery and now works as a general practitioner while leading Bloom Works Concepts and Coaching. His work integrates psychology, theology, and a strong commitment to creating safe spaces for honest healing. Connect with Patrick Eilers https://www.linkedin.com/in/patrickeilersbloomworkscc/ Bloomworks: Mental Health Resources 🎙 Season 3: All About Boys Too many boys today feel unseen, misunderstood, or quietly overwhelmed. And far too often, their parents feel the same. Season 3 of Unlocking The Parenting Code is centered on understanding the inner emotional world of boys — through honest conversations with young men, experts, fathers, and solo reflections. This isn’t about fixing boys. It’s about seeing them clearly — and learning how to show up with steadiness, compassion, and courage. Discover more at sonhoodcoaching.com 🎙 Subscribe & Share If this episode resonated: ✔️ Subscribe ✔️ Leave a review ✔️ Share with a parent raising boys ✔️ Comment with your biggest insight #ParentingBoys #BoysMentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #RaisingSons #Masculinity

Boys are drowning in information and starving for steadiness. What happens when a man chooses regulation over reaction… rhythm over chaos… responsibility over performance? 🎙 In This Episode In this episode of Unlocking The Parenting Code: All About Boys, I sit down with Casey Muze to explore how grounded men are formed — and what parents can do right now to model that steadiness. Casey shares his experience growing up navigating depression, identity tension, and unspoken emotional needs — and how rhythm, mentorship, and emotional intelligence became central to his healing and leadership. We explore the gap many boys experience between performance expectations and emotional validation, and why being seen and heard may be the most powerful prevention work of all. 🧠 We Discuss Growing up feeling emotionally unseen by his father The impact on young men with hereditary mental health and substance use patterns Navigating identity tension: “not Black enough” and “not White enough” Fact vs. fiction thinking during depression How rhythm, drumming and-box breathing became therapeutic tools to regulate anxiety Slowing down instead of reacting when boys struggle Mentorship as structured emotional empowerment Auditing social circles and leadership environments Emotional intelligence as a core leadership skill ⏱ Episode Highlights 00:00 – Casey’s upbringing and early emotional landscape 05:10 – Achievement without emotional validation 09:45 – Mental health, heredity, and depression 14:30 – Fact vs. fiction thinking 19:15 – Identity tension and belonging 25:40 – Discovering rhythm as therapy 31:20 – Breathing, cadence, and anxiety regulation 36:10 – Emotional needs of boys 41:00 – Mentorship and leadership 46:35 – Slowing down instead of reacting 56:00 – Emotional intelligence as leadership 🎁 Free Resource for Parents of Boys If today’s conversation stirred something in you, start here: 👉 Download: 5 Pivotal Tips on Parenting Boys https://sonhood.thinkific.com/courses/5-pivotal-tips-on-parenting-boys This free guide will help you: ✔️ Understand how boys process emotion ✔️ Shift from correction to connection ✔️ Respond instead of react ✔️ Build trust without losing leadership 🔥 Ready to Take One Small Step? If you’re listening and thinking… “I want to do this differently.” Let’s make it simple. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™(Limited Spots) 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ 3 Days . One tiny, powerful action per day sent to your inbox. ✨ 1:1 Support. You message me your experience; I support you personally with insights. ✨ Limited Access. I only take 5-7 parents per week to keep the coaching personal. No overwhelm. No pressure. Just steady progress . 👉 Email me at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com Subject line: I’m in OR 👇 Comment “STEADY” below and I’ll send you the Tiny Challenge details directly. 👤 About Casey Muze Casey Muze is a mental health speaker and rhythm-based practitioner who uses steady cadence, story, and presence to help people return to regulation, clarity, and grounded leadership. Rooted in tradition and lived experience, his work bridges neuroscience, emotional well-being, and the timeless power of rhythm to restore what stress, trauma, and disconnection have worn thin. Whether serving youth, caregivers, or communities, Casey speaks plainly and works deliberately—guiding others back to strength, purpose, and a steadier way forward. Connect with Casey Muze https://www.facebook.com/CaseyMuzetheroyalspeaker CaseyMuze.com 🎙 Season 3: All About Boys Too many boys today feel unseen, misunderstood, or quietly overwhelmed. And far too often, their parents feel the same. Season 3 of Unlocking The Parenting Code is centered on understanding the inner emotional world of boys — through honest conversations with young men, experts, fathers, and solo reflections. This isn’t about fixing boys. It’s about seeing them clearly — and learning how to show up with steadiness, compassion, and courage. Discover more at sonhoodcoaching.com 🎙 Subscribe & Share If this episode resonated: ✔️ Subscribe ✔️ Leave a review ✔️ Share with a parent raising boys ✔️ Comment with your biggest insight #ParentingBoys #BoysMentalHealth #EmotionalIntelligence #RaisingSons #Masculinity

In this episode, I sat down with Antonio Sosa for a conversation about masculinity, emotional development, identity, and relationships. Antonio shares his personal journey growing up in a traditional Mexican family, navigating cultural displacement, emotional numbness, and rigid expectations of manhood. Together, they explore how boys learn to survive emotionally, how those survival strategies can later become obstacles, and what it takes for men to reconnect with themselves, others, and a sense of purpose. From money and success to intimacy, divorce, and modern dating, this episode offers listeners a rare window into the inner world of a young man actively unlearning inherited messages about masculinity and redefining what it means to live with integrity, presence, and emotional awareness. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Antonio Sosa is a thoughtful voice in conversations about masculinity, personal growth, and intentional living. Born into a traditional Mexican family, Antonio’s early life was shaped by adventure, cultural transitions, and emotional upheaval following his parents’ divorce. These experiences eventually led him down a path of self-inquiry, entrepreneurship, and deep inner work. Antonio is passionate about self-awareness, emotional honesty, physical discipline, and building a life aligned with one’s values rather than external expectations. Through his reflections on relationships, money, identity, and men’s mental health, he invites other men—and the parents raising them—to move beyond survival mode and toward connection, responsibility, and embodied presence. We Talk About: Growing up in a traditional Mexican family and the impact of divorce Cultural identity, belonging, and navigating life between worlds Emotional numbing as a childhood survival strategy Masculinity messages boys absorb—and what needs to be unlearned Redefining success beyond money, status, and external validation Money, scarcity, comfort, and emotional patterns around finances Functional depression, emotional disconnection, and men’s health Divorce, intimacy, and learning to relate more honestly Modern dating culture and common misunderstandings Healthy masculinity, honesty, and responsibility in relationships Community, men’s work, and why boys and men shouldn’t go it alone Work, purpose, and choosing short-term sacrifice for long-term vision Links https://antoniososa21.substack.com/subscribe?params=%5Bobject%20Object%5D https://www.linkedin.com/in/antonio-sosa-28b12851/ https://patreon.com/TheBalancedLife? utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copy Link www.youtube.com/@SoulofSosa instagram.com/soulofsosa?igsh=eHpqcDFpZ2lrbDJ3&utm_source=qr X x.com/theantoniososa Tik Tok tiktok.com/@soulofsosa?lang=en podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/soul-of-sosa-podcast/id1672706980 open.spotify.com/show/7q8FrXmHTWZvgbLyx8pwHN?si=WrpSNVAGSlW3uzNT2xWwBQ https://www.facebook.com/antonio.sosa21 https://soundcloud.com/antonio-sosa-342927472 ********* SEASON 3 IS DIFFERENT Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Discover more @ sonhoodcoaching.com

In this episode, I sit down with Jeremy Swick, a young man whose life story begins in Guatemala and unfolds in Wisconsin. Jeremy was adopted as an infant after spending his first six months in an overcrowded orphanage during Guatemala’s civil war. What I didn’t fully understand going into this conversation was just how fragile and uncertain his start to life had been—and how deeply those early experiences shaped the man he’s become. Jeremy shares openly about being dropped as a baby in the orphanage, suffering multiple skull fractures and a serious brain injury, and how doctors once believed he might never thrive. He also tells the remarkable story of discovering that one of the babies who shared his crib was adopted by another family in Wisconsin—and still lives just an hour away today. Raised by deeply loving parents, Jeremy reflects on identity, belonging, and what it means to grow up as a brown child in a predominantly white community with parents whose lived experiences couldn’t always mirror his own. He speaks thoughtfully about curiosity as a lifeline—how learning history became a way to understand himself, his country of birth, and the world around him. This is a grounded, honest conversation about masculinity, resilience, and what helps boys grow into men who feel seen, capable, and connected. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Jeremy Swick is a historian, storyteller, and media entrepreneur known online as The Average Historian . Born in Guatemala City and raised in Wisconsin, Jeremy has worked with institutions including the Pro Football Hall of Fame and the College Football Hall of Fame, and most recently served as an archivist for the Wisconsin Black Historical Society. In 2025, he left his 9-to-5 to launch Swick Media , where he helps organizations and podcasters tell meaningful stories through digital media and podcasting. We talk about: Adoption, identity, and the lifelong search for belonging How early trauma can quietly shape adult behavior and resilience The importance of earned support and what it taught Jeremy about growth and trust Why team sports—especially rugby—can be a powerful buffer for boys’ and men’s mental health Community, loneliness, and where young men feel most disconnected today The pressure to “perform” versus living honestly What parents can do to truly support their sons’ interests and agency Jeremy also shares practical wisdom about asking better questions of young men, following curiosity instead of convention, and why parents don’t need to be perfect—just present, reflective, and willing to grow alongside their children. Links https://www.instagram.com/theaveragehistorian https://www.instagram.com/pod.intotheunknown https://www.instagram.com/swickmedia414 https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeremyswick/ https://www.youtube.com/@pod.intotheunknown https://www.tiktok.com/@theaveragehistorian ********** SEASON 3 IS DIFFERENT Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Discover more @ sonhoodcoaching.com

In this episode of Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys , Kathy sits down with Keanu Mendoza, a warm, reflective, and deeply thoughtful young man whose early life could have easily led him down a familiar path of drugs, gangs, and incarceration. Raised without his parents present, Keanu spent his early childhood with his grandmother before her passing, and later with an aunt and uncle who stepped in during his most vulnerable years. Keanu shares openly about growing up feeling lonely, shy, and unsure of who he was — including being bullied at school, struggling with self-confidence, and longing to belong. Grounded in faith and shaped by consistent, firm, and loving guidance, he chose a different path. Today, Keanu is serving in the U.S. Marine Corps, is a first-generation college graduate, and is continuing his education with plans for graduate school. This conversation offers hope to young people who feel trapped by their circumstances — and powerful insight for parents, mentors, and educators into what truly helps boys find their footing, their voice, and their sense of self. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Keanu Mendoza was born and raised in California. He grew up without his parents present and spent much of his early childhood being raised by his grandmother before her passing. In his early teens, his aunt and uncle stepped in to raise him and his brother, providing the stability and guidance that would change his life’s direction. Keanu is currently serving in the U.S. Marine Corps , the first in his family to do so. He is also a first-generation college graduate from Southern New Hampshire University, where he earned both his associate and bachelor’s degrees in business administration. At 26 years old, Keanu continues to pursue growth, learning, and service, with plans to begin graduate studies. Topics Discussed Family & Early Life Raised primarily by his grandmother; family instability and early loss. Met his biological father only once (around age 5–6). Mother in and out of his life, mostly out, and struggling with substance issues. Moved in with his aunt and uncle in 7th grade (age 12–13) — the adults who “stepped up.” School, Identity & Bullying Growing up a shy, chubby child and being bullied at school. Struggles with self-confidence How loneliness and the need to belong made him vulnerable in adolescence. Turning Points & Mentors The decisive influence of his uncle and aunt: structure, discipline, and steady presence. Other local mentors (neighbor/church leader) who introduced him to faith and music. How one person’s intervention can change a boy’s trajectory. Choices, Resilience & Purpose Choosing a different path despite generational patterns of drugs, gangs, and incarceration. Joining the U.S. Marine Corps: finding structure, belonging, and purpose. Education as a pathway — first-generation college graduate and plans for further study. Masculinity, Vulnerability & Mental Health What “being a man” means to him: protection, responsibility, follow-through. The challenge and importance of vulnerability for young men. Overthinking, coping with setbacks, and using rituals (journaling, prayer, friendship) to process emotions. Contemporary Pressures Social media’s role in comparison, “death scrolling,” and insecurity. Peer pressure, relationships, and substances as common derailers for boys. Links: https://www.linkedin.com/in/keanu-mendoza-9ab71729b/ https://www.instagram.com/youngscholar_23/ Resources & Links Learn more about Kathy and Sonhood Coaching: https://sonhoodcoaching.com Book a discovery call or explore the Tiny Challenge™: https://calendly.com/kathy-sonhoodcoaching/tiny-challenge-call ********** Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

In this episode, Kathy sits down with Joey Stoneburgh , — a corrections officer, husband, father, and podcast host — for an honest look at childhood, masculinity, mental health, and the reality of working inside Canada’s largest jail. Joey opens up about growing up between two homes, the feeling of not fully belonging, the decisions that could have taken his life in a different direction, and the personal redemption he continues to choose every day. We dive into fatherhood, boundaries, identity, and the invisible pressures many men carry. Joey shares openly about mental health challenges, testosterone, and the work it takes to stay grounded. His story is one of self-reflection, resilience, connection — and choosing who you want to be, even when early life experiences may pull you in other directions. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Topics Discussed • Core values & identity Joey reflects on honesty, integrity, inclusivity, and humor as foundational to who he is — and how these values led him into law enforcement. • Working in corrections & mental health How 13 years in a jail environment impacts a person, the risk of becoming hardened, and the outlets that kept Joey grounded (sobriety, jiu-jitsu, family, meaningful routines). • Childhood in a split family Navigating two households, complex family dynamics, feeling like he didn’t fully belong in either, and how those early experiences influenced his teens and early 20s. • Searching for belonging as a teen Partying, substance use, risky decisions, and the fine line between becoming an officer or becoming an inmate. • Religion, symbolism & redemption The surprising church visit that shifted his perspective, the powerful encounter at work that deepened his belief in good and evil, and the story behind his “redemption” tattoo. • Boundaries & self-worth Learning to stop people-pleasing, set limits with friends and family, and step into a stronger sense of self-respect. • Masculine pressure, drive & self-criticism Feeling like a failure in his late 20s, the internal pressure to be “the provider,” the battle in his own mind, and how ambition can be both a strength and a struggle. • Fatherhood & testosterone How becoming a dad transformed his identity, feeling “off,” low libido, and emotionally overwhelmed during that period, and his history of anabolic steroid use. • Masculinity, mentorship & mixed messages Outdated gender expectations, exposure to pornography, confusing early guidance from elders, and how culture shapes boys’ understanding of manhood. • Fears for today’s society The tension around motherhood, gender roles, and why he believes children need present, emotionally engaged parents. • What he wants to model for his daughter Presence, healthy masculinity, emotional availability, and the kind of father who gives his daughter a strong blueprint for future relationships. Guest Bio Joey Stoneburgh was born in Huntsville, Ontario, and now lives in Edmonton, Alberta, with his wife and daughter — the two people who ground and inspire him most. He has spent 13 years working as a Corrections Officer at the Edmonton Remand Centre , Canada’s largest jail. Outside of work, Joey stays active through Jiu-Jitsu and weight training , and he hosts a podcast where he interviews people from all walks of life. At his core, Joey values honesty, integrity, inclusivity, laughter, and genuine connection. Links https://www.youtube.com/@Sparebedroomstudios https://www.instagram.com/joeystoneburgh/ https://www.facebook.com/joey.stoneburgh/ Learn more @ sonhoodcoaching.com Raising Boys Who Become Remarkable Men: Intentionally Parenting Your Son from Birth to 8. Grab your copy today. ********** Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

In this powerful and deeply honest conversation, Kathy sits down with Pat Barber —father of four boys, longtime CrossFit leader, and thoughtful voice on masculinity, parenting, and personal growth. Pat opens up about the evolution of his core values, his marriage, and the lessons he brings into raising boys today. Together, they explore conflict, communication, risk-taking, digital safety, sexual development, honesty, and the role of testosterone in shaping boys’ inner worlds. Pat shares candid stories about raising four sons in the mountains, why he gives his boys real opportunities to take risks, and how he and his wife navigate everything from arguments to conversations about porn, erections, and emotional regulation. This episode offers grounded wisdom for parents raising boys in an age of misinformation, overprotection, hyper-connectivity, and confusion around masculinity. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Pat Barber is a dedicated husband, father of four boys, and one of the most respected leaders in the functional fitness world. A longtime CrossFit athlete, coach, mentor, and community builder, Pat is known for his thoughtful reflections on fatherhood, integrity, and personal development. His work centers around authenticity, honesty, and strength—values he works to model in the gym, online, and at home. Pat speaks openly about parenting, relationships, and raising emotionally intelligent boys in a rapidly changing world. Topics Identity & Core Values Pat’s three core values: authenticity, honesty, strength Marriage & Conflict Navigation Pat’s turning point in conflict with his wife Learning to let go of “being right” Distinguishing core values from trivial arguments Curiosity as a parenting and relationship tool Parenting Boys Raising boys to be emotionally intelligent and self-aware When to guide vs. when to let children experiment Giving kids real risk: autonomy without negligence Risk comparison: physical danger vs. digital danger Discipline, Boundaries & Communication How Pat handles disagreements with his boys Encouraging them to explain their reasoning When to say “No” and when to say “Show me your plan” Apologizing to kids and modeling emotional regulation Masculinity & Testosterone Why parents need to understand testosterone surges How hormonal changes shift boys’ psychology Normalizing sexuality without shame Lack of societal literacy around male development Effects of testosterone seen through the lens of transgender men Digital Safety & Porn Exposure Why Pat keeps devices in open spaces The dangers of unsupervised online access Navigating anime, sexualized content, and curiosity Talking to boys about erections, masturbation, and sexual urges Men, Purpose & Cultural Narratives The impact of narratives that men are “dispensable” Harmonizing pro-men and pro-women mindsets Teaching boys that strength is for service, not dominance Self-Reflection & Personal Growth Why the work starts with yourself How two people create “a third thing”—the relationship Learning to trust oneself in an age of misinformation Asking: Why am I doing what I’m doing as a parent? Links https://www. instagram. com/thefathersguild/?hl=en The Fathers Guild - Website The Fathers Guild - Podcast Sonhood Coaching ********** SEASON 3 IS DIFFERENT Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Discover more @sonhoodcoaching.com

In this first solo episode of Season 3, Kathy reflects on what she has learned from 21 in-depth conversations with young men, dads, and experts on male mental health and masculinity. With November marking Men’s Mental Health Month, she explores why it’s so important that parents, caregivers, and communities pay closer, more consistent attention to the emotional well-being of boys and young men. Kathy shares why this season shifted from talking about boys to talking with the young men they grow into—and how those conversations revealed a powerful missing piece in how we understand and support boys. A moment from her interview with her son stands at the heart of this episode: the unspoken pressure many boys feel to keep their emotions “flat”—not too happy, not too sad, not too anything. She unpacks the cost of emotional restriction and how it affects boys’ mental health, relationships, coping skills, and lifelong well-being. Despite the challenges, Kathy ends with hope. Across her interviews, she met young men who are building community, doing inner work, showing up honestly for their families, and actively redefining what healthy masculinity can look like. She also gives a preview of next week’s inspiring episode featuring a father of four boys who is committed to doing this work from the inside out. In this episode, Kathy explores: Why November’s focus on men’s mental health matters—but isn’t enough The “missing piece” in understanding boys’ emotional worlds Her son’s powerful insight about the pressure to stay emotionally flat How emotional suppression impacts addiction, mental health, and connection Signs of hope: young men choosing honesty, presence, and growth A preview of next week’s episode with a dad raising four boys with intention ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Takeaways Men’s mental health doesn’t begin in adulthood—it begins in childhood. If we want mentally healthy men, we must raise emotionally supported boys. And that starts with listening—to their stories, their struggles, and their truths. Learn more @sonhoodcoaching.com Share This Episode If this conversation resonated with you, please share it with a parent, a father, or a young man. “The world of humanity has two wings—one is women, the other is men. Not until both wings are equally developed can a bird truly fly.” ********** Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Free resources @sonhoodcoaching.com

When fatherhood meets entrepreneurship, life can feel like a balancing act — one that tests patience, priorities, and purpose. In this warm, honest conversation, Kathy talks with Thomas Buttino , a dad of three (including twin toddlers!) who’s learning how to build both a thriving business and a deeply connected family life. Together, they talk about the real stuff — curiosity, boundaries, mistakes, forgiveness, and how 10 minutes of undivided attention can change everything. Thomas shares personal stories that remind us that connection doesn’t come from control — it comes from courage and conversation. This is an episodeI for every parent who wants to raise boys who feel seen, valued, and deeply loved — and for every dad learning that strength and softness can live in the same heart. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Topics Covered The three core values that guide Thomas’s life and fatherhood: love, loyalty, and honesty How to talk to boys about pornography, alcohol, and curiosity — without shame or fear The importance of keeping communication open before teens turn to the internet for answers How 10 minutes of focused time a day can change your relationship with your kids What it means to raise authentic, emotionally intelligent young men The difference between a work ethic and a life ethic — and why fathers need both Why embracing failure and risk is key to growth and resilience How fathers can model love without losing their sense of strength Guest Bio: Thomas Buttino is a husband, father, entrepreneur, author, speaker, and mentor who’s on a mission to help Dadpreneurs — fathers building both businesses and families — achieve extraordinary growth in life and work. Through his mentoring and writing, Thomas encourages men to lead with authenticity, love, and purpose, and to create lives where success and connection thrive side by side. Links: https://www.instagram.com/automatedexec/ https://www.facebook.com/thomas.buttino Website: The Automated Executive Learn more @sonhoodcoaching.com Email: kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Learn more about raising boys who become remarkable men @sonhoodcoaching.com

My conversation with Yenson She was filled with quiet insight and genuine reflection on what it means to be a young father in Hong Kong today. Though he grew up during the years when the city was transitioning from British to Chinese rule, Yenson described his childhood as simply that — an ordinary boyhood untouched by politics or change. Now a father and host of the podcast Ordinary But Unique , Yenson speaks thoughtfully about his evolving understanding of masculinity, fatherhood, and emotional awareness. From his reflections on growing up in Hong Kong’s high-pressure education system to the tender hopes he holds for his young daughter, this conversation offers a window into how modern Asian men are redefining strength — not through silence, but through compassion and courage. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in! ” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** In This Episode, We Explore: What it was like growing up as a boy in Hong Kong during the late 80s and 90s The deep cultural mix of East and West — and how it shaped identity Why emotional awareness and mental well-being are central to Yenson’s parenting today How the definition of masculinity in Chinese culture is slowly evolving His reflections on his own father’s quiet influence — and what he hopes to do differently The challenges and pressures men face in their 30s and 40s as they juggle fatherhood, career, and identity How grief and self-reflection led him to launch Ordinary But Unique Guest Bio Born and raised in Hong Kong, Yenson She is a multi-sector generalist and podcast host who explores the intersections of masculinity, growth, and well-being. Educated at Cambridge and now working across Asia, Yenson is the creator of the podcast Ordinary But Unique , where he invites men to share their stories with honesty and empathy. A devoted father, Yenson is passionate about learning how to be both a strong and emotionally attuned parent — and helping other men do the same. Memorable Quotes “It’s okay to make mistakes. It’s okay to be wrong. What matters is to become better next time.” “Being strong doesn’t mean hiding your emotions — it means knowing how to face and express them.” “If my daughter knows how to love herself, she’ll know how to love others — and that’s the kind of strength I hope to pass on.” Connect with Yenson: 🎙️ Podcast: Ordinary But Unique Instagram / LinkedIn : yensonshe Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Discover more at SonhoodCoaching.com

From the rush of a semi-professional motorcycle career to the quiet reckoning of divorce and fatherhood, Corey Baum has lived the full spectrum of what it means to chase control — and what it costs to find connection. People described him as “always at a five” — never too high, never too low — steady on the outside, but disconnected within. Behind the image of the capable man was someone using achievement, porn, and relationships to escape the pain of disconnection. The façade of confidence hid a deep fear of being truly seen. Divorce marked the beginning of a long, unfiltered journey of self-discovery — through therapy, men’s work, and an honest confrontation with the patterns that kept him small. Today, as the founder of The Evolved Men Project and father to two boys, ages 7 and 11, Corey helps men break free from the old rules of masculinity, build real confidence, and lead from emotional truth rather than performance. His story is one of courage, accountability, and evolution — and a reminder that it’s never too late to become the man you were meant to be. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** GuestBio Corey Baum is the founder of The Evolved Men Project , a coach and community builder helping men lead with confidence, connection, and purpose. Drawing on years of personal growth, men’s group leadership, and professional coaching, he creates spaces where men can develop self-mastery, strengthen relationships, and live boldly. Corey hosts The Evolved Men Podcast and facilitates both local and online groups, blending practical tools with real conversations that inspire change. Topics Discussed Corey’s childhood and the masks boys learn to wear to feel safe What boys need most from their parents today The turning point Escaping through achievement, relationships,, and porn — and learning to sit with pain instead of numbing it Fatherhood after divorce: building connection through honesty, not perfection How men can redefine strength, leadership, and love Practical ways to help boys express emotion and develop inner confidence 🔗 Connect with Corey Facebook - https://facebook.com/evolvedmenproject IG - https://instagram.com/evolvedmenproject/ YouTube - https://youtube.com/@EvolvedMenProject Website - https://evolvedmenproject.com/ 💬 Connect with Kathy Website: sonhoodcoaching.com Join the Tiny (FREE) Challenge: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection with Your Son Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

Sagi Ayalon is a man who has had to start over. His story spans continents, careers, and deep inner transformations. Born in Israel and now living in New York, Sagi’s life has taken him from the army to entrepreneurship, from marriage and fatherhood to heartbreak and profound spiritual renewal. After losing not only his marriage but also connection with his two young sons, Sagi turned to his Buddhist practice — not to escape, but to understand, to heal, and to rediscover what it means to live with love and compassion. In this deeply moving conversation, Sagi talks about what it’s like to navigate fatherhood in a system that often overlooks men’s emotional lives, the loneliness that can come with societal expectations, and the slow rebuilding of peace from the inside out. What stands out most is his honesty — and his quiet strength — in speaking about loss, tenderness, and the power of presence. If you’ve ever wondered how someone rebuilds their life from the ground up — and manages to lead with heart, not bitterness — this episode will stay with you. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Topics Covered The journey from Israel to New York — and what shaped his early years Navigating marriage, fatherhood, and the shock of divorce The emotional and legal toll of custody battles What homeschooling taught him about patience, play, and connection How Buddhist practices helped him find peace and meaning The societal expectations that confine men — and what freedom really means Why connection and compassion are the foundation of true strength How he unexpectedly found love again and rebuilt his life Guest Bio Sagi Ayalon was born in Israel and relocated to New York as a young man. His journey has included entrepreneurship, real estate development, and bodywork — as well as homeschooling, permaculture, and years of Buddhist study and meditation.He is the father of two boys (currently ages nine and seven) and has navigated the highs and lows of family life: 15 years of marriage, parenting, homeschooling, and a difficult divorce that required him to rebuild financially, legally, and emotionally. Today, Sagi works as a bodyworker and spiritual guide dedicated to helping people reconnect with themselves and find healing through touch, presence, and mindful practice. His path has been shaped by deep traditions in wellness and spirituality, as well as the personal challenges of navigating a difficult divorce and raising two children. These experiences have taught him resilience and compassion, and they inspire him to support others on their journey toward balance, healing, and a sense of true home within themselves. Connect with Sagi Email: sagiayalon@gmail.com Learn more @sonhoodcoaching.com Email: kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys, to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

In this episode Stefanos Koutsoumpis shares how his childhood shaped a lifetime of chasing success; but happiness always eluded him. Raised as the third of four boys in a crowded household, and a strained relationship with his father, Stefanos grew up learning routine, duty, and a message that “finding a job, a wife and kids” was enough. Emotional expression — especially anger or conflict — was discouraged, and practical encouragement was mainly limited to school performance. Those early patterns left Stefanos with under-developed self-esteem, a fear of risk, and a habit of looking outward for validation. Despite earning a PhD and building a corporate career, he describes a cycle of perfectionism, constant interest-hopping and restless achievement-seeking that never satisfied him — until he discovered mindfulness, Positive Psychology and CBT. Today he combines that lived experience with training to help men stop living on autopilot and rebuild internal confidence. This episode highlights how early family experiences influence the choices, confidence, and emotional health of boys as they grow into men. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio: The third of four brothers, Stefanos Koutsoumpis earned a Ph.D. in Physics and built a successful career as a researcher and corporate project manager in multinational IT.He knows what it’s like to achieve success on paper while still feeling unfulfilled. His personal journey led him to mindfulness, CBT, and happiness studies training at leading institutions in the US and UK—including the Oxford Mindfulness Centre, the Mindfulness Coaching School, and the Happiness Studies Academy. Today, Stefanos coaches men in their 30s to recover purpose, strengthen emotional resilience, and define success on their own terms. Topics: What it was like growing up in a home of four boys—and how family dynamics shaped his views on masculinity. Why confidence is a skill (not a trait) and how men can build it step by step. The silent struggles men face with conflict, vulnerability, and emotional growth. How societal expectations of success clash with men’s inner needs for happiness and authenticity. The unique challenges men face in their 30s—and why community, mentorship, and male role models matter more than ever. Why healthy masculinity isn’t outdated—it’s urgently needed. Links: Website: https://www.mindfullife.coach/ https://www.mindfullife.coach/guide https://www.instagram.com/mindfullife_coach/ Email: stefanos@mindfullife.coach Learn more about raising boys who become remarkable men @ sonhoodcoaching.com Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

In this episode, I sit down with Sam Mitchell, the creator and host of the hit podcast Autism Rocks and Rolls . Sam shares his journey of growing up on the autism spectrum — from the challenges of school and social life to the strength he found through family, self-advocacy, and eventually, his podcasting platform. Sam opens up about what he wishes more parents of boys understood, how gender roles and expectations impact neurodivergent kids, and the biggest misconceptions about autism that he’s determined to challenge. We also talk about his vision for Autism Rocks and Rolls in the years ahead and the surprising insights he’s gained from conversations with guests across the spectrum of life. This is a conversation about courage, persistence, and the power of embracing who you are — not just for those with autism, but for anyone navigating difference in a world that too often demands conformity. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Sam Mitchell is the creator and host of Autism Rocks & Rolls , a podcast dedicated to celebrating life on the autism spectrum and challenging the stigma that surrounds it. Living with autism himself, Sam has grown his show to over 21,000 downloads and featured incredible guests, including NASCAR driver Armani Williams, American Idol rocker James Durbin, autism advocate and professor Dr. Temple Grandin, and WWE legend Mick Foley. Beyond podcasting, Sam is a motivational speaker, entrepreneur, blogger, TEDx presenter ( Souled Structure ), and nonprofit leader. He sells merchandise, partners with sponsors, and has been recognized with multiple honors — from the Davey Award to top placements in the People’s Choice Podcast Awards, the JAG Entrepreneurship Project, and Indiana’s CEO Trade Show. His podcast is also ranked among the top 200 in Canada. Sam’s mission is simple but powerful: to show the world that autism is not a limitation. “I am not broken, I don’t need to be fixed, and there is no normal in this world,” he says. His work spreads a message of acceptance, empowerment, and the belief that everyone deserves to embrace who they are and succeed on their own terms. Topics Covered What it was like growing up on the autism spectrum The role his parents played in supporting his confidence and independence Why boys and men need space to show vulnerability and hurt Misconceptions about autism and how his podcast challenges them Lessons learned from interviewing high-profile guests like Temple Grandin and Mick Foley Sam’s mission to celebrate differences and show that success looks different for everyone Links Website: autismrocksandrolls.com Podcast: Autism Rocks and Rolls (available on all major platforms) TEDx Talk: Understanding Autism: Controlling chaos with structure Why Season 3 Is Different. Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. More @ sonhoodcoaching.com

What does it mean to grow up fast, find role models in unexpected places, and carry those lessons into some of the most high-stakes environments imaginable? In this episode, I sit down with Ryan MacDougall — podcaster, storyteller, and Correctional Peace Officer — to explore the intersections of masculinity, resilience, and mental health inside and outside prison walls. Ryan shares candidly about his childhood marked by chaos, moving away from home at 13, the mentors who stood up for him, and his years in a group home that shaped his understanding of human nature. Today, his work at the Edmonton Remand Centre puts him face-to-face with men navigating the pressures of incarceration — where questions of dignity, emotional regulation, and masculinity are tested daily. This conversation dives into the thin line between ending up on one side of the bars or the other, the power of awareness, and why mentorship can change the trajectory of a young man’s life. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Ryan MacDougall is the host of Solo Spotlight and The Conversationalist , two podcasts under the Spare Bedroom Studios banner. His shows spotlight authentic stories, cultural commentary, and deep-dive conversations across diverse perspectives. Known for his grounded and engaging style, Ryan brings curiosity, candor, and humor to every dialogue. Professionally, Ryan serves as a Correctional Peace Officer for the Government of Alberta, a role that gives him a unique perspective on responsibility, resilience, and human behavior. His passion lies in storytelling, connection, and uncovering the lessons behind the headlines. Topics Covered Growing up in a chaotic home and the turning point of leaving at age 13 The role of mentors, chosen family, and group homes in shaping resilience Defining healthy masculinity through peace, transparency, and dignity The thin line between correctional officer and inmate — and how the environment shapes both The importance of emotional awareness, boundaries, and self-reflection in high-stress work What parents should know if their son ever becomes incarcerated Links https://www.youtube.com/@Sparebedroomstudios Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and tune in next week for more insights into the inner world of boys and young men. For more support, reach out to sonhoodcoaching.com ********** Why Is Season 3 Different? Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger.

In this episode of Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys! , Kathy sits down with Prof. Maurizio Rosini —international trainer, men’s coach, and founder of MyMasterMan , a movement dedicated to redefining modern masculinity. After years of success in the corporate and fashion worlds, Maurizio realized that achievement without meaning leaves men empty. Today, he guides men to drop the masks of ego and disconnection and embrace deeper purpose, grounded strength, and brotherhood. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio: Maurizio Rosini has lived and worked across Italy, the UK, Japan, the USA, Colombia, and now Malaysia, giving him a rare global perspective on men and masculinity. After a career spanning luxury fashion, corporate leadership, and academia — where he now serves as Head of Marketing and Communication at Alzette University — he founded MyMasterMan , a movement redefining modern masculinity. His work blends Stoic philosophy, Jungian psychology, and lived experience to help men overcome fear, build resilience, and live with authentic purpose. Key Topics: Masculinity itself isn’t “toxic” or “healthy” — it’s the behaviour that expresses masculine energy; the goal is grounded, embodied masculinity (body + mind + heart). Rites of passage matter: boys need intentional moments that acknowledge growth, discomfort, and responsibility — parents can create these with simple rituals and time in nature. Start emotional education early: teach emotional ownership through modeling, journaling, breathwork, and open conversation — not judgment. Look for withdrawal, secrecy, and growing dependence on substances or screens as early warning signs of isolation or addiction. Community (brotherhood/men’s circles) is not optional — it’s a crucial container for honest masculinity and healing. Maurizio leaves us with this powerful reminder: for all the shame or guilt we carry, peace comes when we find the courage to know ourselves, live authentically, and rediscover community. Connect with Maurizio www.mymasterman.com Instagram: @ my.master.man Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Reach out to Sonhood Coaching for more support.

In this episode of Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys! , Kathy sits down with Dr. Will Dobud—researcher, educator, outdoor therapist, and co-author of Kids These Days: Understanding and Supporting Youth Mental Health . Together, they explore the complex realities facing boys and young men today, from the challenges of the education system to the importance of play, risk-taking, and authentic connection. Will shares his refreshing perspective on treating young people as “crew, not passengers,” and offers insights for parents who want to support their sons’ confidence and sense of worth, even when schools and systems feel slow to change. This conversation is filled with wisdom, storytelling, and practical advice for parents, educators, and anyone who cares about the next generation of boys. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Dr. Will Dobud is an award-winning researcher, educator, and outdoor therapist whose work has been recognized internationally for excellence in research, teaching, and even crime prevention. He is a Senior Lecturer in Social Work at Charles Sturt University in Australia and an invited speaker who delivers workshops for therapists and families around the globe. Will’s research focuses on improving therapy outcomes for teenagers and promoting safe, ethical practices, especially through wilderness and adventure-based approaches. He is also the co-author, alongside Dr. Nevin J. Harper, of Kids These Days: Understanding and Supporting Youth Mental Health —a book that reframes how we see young people, reminding us of the critical role of relationships, play, and exploration in fostering resilience and well-being. Topics Covered Why youth mental health is best understood as a “wicked problem” Rethinking compulsory schooling and helping boys who are struggling in education How disconnection, over-labeling, and over-diagnosing are affecting young people The importance of rough-and-tumble play for resilience and growth “Crew, not passengers”: reframing how we see young people’s role in their own lives Practical advice for parents: creating home as a safe place where boys feel heard, valued, and confident The power of modeling: why teens need adults worth imitating Links 📖 Kids These Days: Understanding and Supporting Youth Mental Health (Available September 30) www.willdobud.com https://www.instagram.com/kids_these_days_book/ https://www.facebook.com/WillDobudPhD/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/will-dobud-5209ab74/ Why Season 3 Is Different Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Learn more @sonhoodcoaching.com

Welcome back to Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys ! In this episode, host Kathy sits down with Scott Taylor Peek , a former private investigator and business owner who has reinvented himself as a Mental Health Coach. Scott is a staunch advocate for men’s mental health, focusing on resilience, healing, and reinvention. Scott shares his personal journey — from privilege to loss, burnout, and depression — and how those experiences shaped his calling to support teenage boys and men navigating life’s challenges. He opens up about heartbreak, anxiety, depression, masculinity, and the unique emotional depth boys feel, as well as the importance of discipline and respect. In this episode, we unpack the challenges of teen boys, highlighting South African cultural expectations while offering insights relevant to young men worldwide. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Scott Taylor Peek is a former private investigator and business owner turned Mental Health Coach specializing in resilience, reinvention, and healing. A passionate advocate for men’s mental health, Scott draws on his personal journey to help others navigate life’s challenges. He has hosted an international radio show, captained South Africa’s only team to compete at the Paintball World Cup in 2009, and holds IMDB producer credits. Scott works with teen boys and men aged to build emotional resilience, navigate heartbreak, and strengthen communication skills, all while breaking the stigma around seeking help. Topics Discussed Early life experiences, challenges, and turning points that shaped Scott’s perspective on growing up and becoming a man. Masculinity & Cultural Expectations — what healthy masculinity looks like and how societal pressures influence boys and young men. Teenage Boys — Emotional and developmental changes during adolescence, navigating anxiety, and coping with modern influences like social media. Heartache & Relationships — How boys and men experience emotional pain, coping with breakups, and recognizing the signs of deeper distress. Discipline & Respect — Guiding boys with clear boundaries, structure, and communication while fostering responsibility and respect. Mental Health Awareness — Overcoming stigma, making support accessible, and the importance of connection and communication for emotional wellbeing. Links Scott Taylor Peek: allmylinks.com/speaktoscotty Email Scott: speaktoscotty@gmail.com Scott’s journey is a powerful reminder of the emotional depth and resilience of boys and men, and how support, guidance, and open communication can make a life-changing difference. Don’t forget to subscribe, share, and tune in next week for more insights into the inner world of boys and young men. For more support, reach out to sonhoodcoaching.com ********** Why Is Season 3 Different? Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. More resources @sonhoodcoaching.com

Trigger warning: This episode discusses suicide and mental health struggles. At just 33, Craig has lived more life than most. Through deep pain, confusion, and two suicide attempts, he rebuilt himself into a better human, father, and husband. By speaking openly about his struggles, Craig offers a hopeful road map for others: it’s possible to come through, do the hard inner work, and use that experience to serve others. Craig’s journey is uncommon in its candor and all too common in its pain—yet from that struggle he’s found contentment, joy, and a fierce commitment to “ Be The Best .” In this deeply personal and inspiring conversation, Kathy sits down with Craig Maddern , a proud father, Army veteran, and certified stress relief coach. After 15 years in the military and two tours in Afghanistan, Craig faced trauma, a heart pacemaker, a bipolar diagnosis, and two suicide attempts. Now, he’s on a mission to help hardworking dads break free from chronic stress, redefine masculinity, and build joyful, connected family lives. Craig shares raw truths about military culture, mental health struggles, fatherhood’s hormonal and neurological shifts, and why vulnerability is a strength—not a weakness. This is an unflinching look at the challenges and transformations men face when stepping into fatherhood and life after service. ********** Feeling motivated? Here's a short, powerful coaching experience to help you tune in, connect, and understand your son—one tiny step at a time. Join my free 1:1 Tiny Challenge™: 3 Days to a Stronger Connection With Your Son ✨ In just 3 days, you’ll take one small step each day to understand, connect, and affirm your son—no overwhelm, no pressure, just powerful parenting in action. Here’s how it works: ✔️ I’ll send you one simple action + reflection each day ✔️ You’ll message me back with your experience ✔️ I’ll support you personally with insights, encouragement, and next steps 👉 Ready to get started? You can just send me a note at kathy@sonhoodcoaching.com and say “I’m in!” and I’ll take care of the rest. ********** Guest Bio Craig Maddern is an Army veteran, award-winning author, and ICF- and NLP-accredited stress coach who helps hardworking dads break free from chronic stress and rebuild joyful, stable family lives. After 15 years of service — including two tours in Afghanistan — Craig survived a health crisis (a pacemaker), a bipolar diagnosis, and two suicide attempts, experiences that shaped his honest, practical approach to men’s mental health. As a public speaker and men’s mental-health advocate, he coaches with no-nonsense compassion—practical tools, zero judgment—helping men move from survival to strength, and from isolation to connection. Topics Discussed Military Life & Masculinity: Growing up with a strict father, lessons in discipline, and what not to repeat; joining the military at 17; unspoken rules of masculinity in the forces. Mental Health & Transition: The crash after leaving service—depression, alcohol abuse, identity loss, feeling like an outsider; surviving two suicide attempts and finding a reason to keep going. Fatherhood & the Brain: How becoming a dad lowers testosterone and raises bonding hormones, making fathers more patient; reframing this change as a parenting advantage; the impact of chronic stress on father-child connection. Healthy Masculinity & Raising Boys: Defining masculinity as compassion, leadership, emotional depth, and security without dominance; preparing boys to question online “truths” in a social media world; reminding them that real life happens offline. Legacy & Life Lessons: What Craig hopes to pass on through his books and example; his core message—family is everything, and children are forever. Links Website: https://www.craigmadderncoaching.com/ https://www.facebook.com/craig.maddern/ Happy Man Happy Home - YouTube How I Went from Stress and Hospital Beds, to Enjoying My Life https://www.amazon.co.uk/went-Stress-Hospital-Beds-enjoying-ebook/dp/B0DP1PSJF5 "Calm down man Plan" going live at the end of September If you found this episode valuable, please share it, leave a review, and subscribe so you don’t miss what’s next on Unlocking the Parenting Code: All About Boys. And reach out for more support at Sonhood Coaching. ********** What Makes Season 3 Different? Too many boys today feel lost, alone, and misunderstood. And far too often, the same is true for their parents. Behind the troubling statistics is a generation of boys quietly longing to be seen, heard, and valued — yet the conversation around boys’ emotional lives remains far too quiet. Season 3 of Unlocking the Parenting Code is here to change that. In this new season, you’ll hear: 🔹 Real conversations with young men who are ready to share their truth. 🔹 Powerful insights from experts in boys’ mental and emotional health. 🔹 And raw, real wisdom from dads who are walking this road every day 🔹 Solo episodes where I reflect on what I’ve witnessed, wrestled with, and learned At the heart of this season — and at the heart of Sonhood Coaching — is a mission: To understand the inner emotional world of boys , to recognize the very real challenges they face, and to name the damaging myths and societal expectations that continue to shape how we see, treat, and raise our sons. This is not about fixing boys. It’s about truly seeing them — and learning how to show up differently, with compassion, courage, and connection. Together, we’re building a world where boys feel safe to be their authentic selves. Because when we get it right for our boys, we begin to heal something much bigger. Discover more at Sonhood Coaching.