Do Yourself a Favour

Part two of Tam Callaghan's conversation with Kate Fandry picks up where they left off, diving into the diagnosis itself, what it felt like to finally have an answer, and the grief that often comes with a late diagnosis even when it's a relief. Kate shares the moment she told her mum over lunch ("of course you do"), the school story that reframed a lifetime of self-blame, and what it actually took to go from suspecting she had ADHD to getting formally assessed. They then move into OCD: what it looks like in daily life, the blueberry example that perfectly illustrates decision paralysis, and the medication that changed everything. There's also an honest conversation about the stigma around psychiatric medication, why choosing medication is an act of self-kindness rather than weakness, and what quality of life actually looks like when treatment works. Part 1: Late-Diagnosis ADHD: From Burnout to Breakthrough - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-5g6w5-1b424ec In this episode: The ADHD quote that sums up the late diagnosis experience perfectly "If you do well at school, they just let you raw dog ADHD for the rest of your life" The school window story and what it actually meant The grief of late diagnosis and why it's valid Hiding struggles and finally telling parents OCD alongside ADHD: how it presents and what it costs The blueberry example: OCD and decision paralysis in everyday life OCD medication and the life-changing relief it brought ADHD medication: focus, sleep, and what shifted The stigma around medication and why it needs to change Choosing medication as self-kindness Why relationships matter more than Western success markers Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Introduction 0:08 ADHD & Late Diagnosis Quote 1:33 School Story and Getting Diagnosed 4:01 New Phase — Realisations & 'Going Out on Top' 5:02 Hiding Struggles and Telling Parents 6:28 Transition to OCD Discussion 7:00 Anxiety, OCD and Depression — Seeking Help 8:10 Asking Parents for Specific Support 9:23 OCD 'Blueberry' Example — Decision Paralysis 11:07 Practical Impact — Family, Shopping & Business 13:31 OCD Medication — Life-changing Relief 17:35 ADHD Medication Effects — Focus & Sleep 18:50 Stigma Around Medication & Getting Help 21:04 Choosing Medication — Self-kindness 22:54 Western Values, Success & Consumerism 24:58 Quality of Life: Relationships Matter Most 25:43 Closing ——————— #KateFandry #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #ADHD #LateADHDDiagnosis #OCD #Neurodiversity #ADHDMedication #DecisionParalysis #MentalHealth #StigmaAroundMedication #SelfKindness #ADHDWomen #PodcastAustralia #QualityOfLife

Tam Callaghan sits down with her friend and former colleague Kate Fandry for a wide-ranging, deeply honest conversation about late ADHD diagnosis, what it actually feels like to finally have an explanation for a lifetime of experiences, and how Kate is channelling everything she's learned into a brand new career as a celebrant. Kate was diagnosed with ADHD, OCD, and as a Highly Sensitive Person after an epic burnout that had been building for years. In this first part they cover what the signs looked like in childhood, how hyperactivity presents differently in girls, what Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria actually feels like day to day, how to manage sensitivity without shutting yourself down, and why so many neurodiverse people are drawn to each other. They also get into managing news consumption, parenting a sensitive child, environmental sensitivities, and the pivotal moments that led Kate to retrain as a celebrant. Warm, funny, and genuinely eye-opening whether you have a diagnosis or simply recognise yourself in parts of what Kate describes. Part 2: Breaking the Lid: Grief, Neurodiversity, and Finding Self-Love - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-67tnf-1b5447d In this episode: Late diagnosis vs late onset: why the distinction matters The burnout that finally led to Kate's diagnosis Childhood signs: incessant talking, hyperactivity, and coping strategies in girls The artist sitting story and what it reveals Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria: what it is and what it feels like in real life Managing sensitivity through boundaries and self-love Environmental sensitivities: lighting, noise, smell The 'porous' feeling and how to manage news consumption ADHD, OCD and the Highly Sensitive Person diagnosis combined Becoming a celebrant: why it fits and how she got there Fuzzy visioning: how ADHD brains plan for the future ADHD strengths: empathy, hyperfocus and connection Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Introduction — Guest & Topics (Late-diagnosis ADHD, New Career) 0:29 Welcome Back & Guest Intro 0:50 Late Diagnosis vs Late Onset — Clarifying Terms 1:30 How We Met & Early Connection 2:09 Being Drawn to Neurodiverse People 2:27 Burnout That Led to Diagnosis 3:11 Childhood Signs — Talking & Family 4:28 ADHD Presentation in Girls (Inattentive & Hyperactive) 5:03 Coping Strategies (Fidgeting, 'Bathroom' Breaks) 5:58 Childhood Struggle — Sitting for an Artist 7:30 Sensitivity, Self-Esteem & Generational Views 8:19 Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) — What It Feels Like 10:11 Examples of RSD in Daily Work Life 11:59 Managing Sensitivity — Boundaries & Self-Love 14:08 Emotional Reactivity — Public Incident Example 16:01 Parenting & Recognising Sensitivity in Children 18:20 Online Harassment, Keyboard Warriors & Vulnerability 23:02 Environmental Sensitivities (Lighting, Noise, Smell) 24:09 Assessment — ADHD, OCD & Highly Sensitive Person 26:04 'Porous' Feeling & Managing News Consumption 28:59 Media Diet — Choosing What to Consume for Wellbeing 31:26 Keeping Up With Pop Culture & Parenting Relevance 34:10 Self-Awareness & Emotional Intelligence (Wisdom) 38:26 Becoming a Celebrant — New Career & Fit 41:04 Choosing a Business Name — Reactions & Rationale 45:51 Registration Process & Launch Timing 49:09 Career Path, Pivotal Moments & Car Accident Story 55:57 Fuzzy Visioning — Future Planning for ADHD Brains 1:00:02 ADHD Strengths, Empathy & Closing Thoughts 1:03:37 Closing Anecdote & End ——————— #KateFandry #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #ADHD #LateADHDDiagnosis #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #RSD #HighlySensitivePerson #Neurodiversity #OCD #ADHDWomen #SensitivityAsStrength #MentalHealth #PodcastAustralia #ADHDStrengths

Part two gets practical. In this episode Tam Callaghan walks through the gratitude practices she actually uses, including a twist on the classic three-things exercise that most people miss, and why acknowledging your own role in creating the good in your life is just as important as noticing it. She shares two personal examples, choosing Luna the dog after a year of persistence, and saying yes to her dream treehouse, as illustrations of what it looks like to own your wins rather than just feel lucky. She also gets into hedonic adaptation and why we stop enjoying what we've worked hard for, the Metta loving-kindness practice, and a striking story about a business success that was missed entirely because the moment wasn't absorbed. One practical exercise to do tonight, and a genuine argument for why you're probably already living the life you once prayed for. Part 1: Gratitude: The Backwards Path to More Joy - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-j483f-1b1ade5 In this episode: The three gratitudes practice and how to actually make it stick The question to ask after each gratitude: what was it about me that helped create this? The Luna story: a year of effort, one brave choice, and a dog worth it The treehouse: luck plus courage plus saying yes Self-kindness and reset practices when the day starts badly Appreciating yourself and giving compliments without the tall poppy guilt Metta loving-kindness practice and how to use it Online cruelty, ego, and what it says about the people doing it Hedonic adaptation: why we stop enjoying what we've achieved The business success story and the moment that was completely missed Tonight's exercise: your gratitude list and what you created Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Introduction: Gratitude Practice 0:07 Writing Three Gratitudes & Practice Tips 0:59 Reflect on Your Role in Creating Good 1:22 Story: Choosing Luna (Dog) 2:26 Gratitude for Home: The Treehouse 2:52 Self-Kindness & Reset Practices 4:14 Appreciating Yourself and Giving Compliments 5:19 Metta (Loving-Kindness) Practice 6:13 Online Cruelty: Ego vs Heart 7:23 Hedonic Adaptation & Enjoying Achievements 8:42 You Are Living the Life You Prayed For 9:17 Business Success Story & Missing the Moment 11:13 Practical Takeaway: Gratitude Exercise Tonight 12:02 Closing: Like, Subscribe & See More ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Gratitude #GratitudePractice #SelfKindness #LovingKindness #Metta #HedonicAdaptation #PersonalGrowth #Mindset #SelfCompassion #PodcastAustralia #PositivePsychology #AbundanceMindset #YouAreEnough

Tam sits down with her friend and colleague Kate de Jong to talk about Kate's upcoming book, The Wisdumb Way: A Simple Path to Emotional Intelligence Through the Power of Paradox, co-written with EQ expert James Brydon and relationship counsellor Mauro Davide. The conversation starts with a statistic that is hard to shake: 95% of people think they're self-aware, but research suggests only 10 to 15% actually are. Kate calls the rare few who genuinely develop this skill unicorns, borrowing the term from Dr Tasha Eurich, and The Wisdumb Way is her attempt to help more people get there. They cover what self-awareness actually means (internal and external), the difference between genuine emotional intelligence and spiritual bypassing, the Dunning-Kruger effect and Mount Stupid, and the three core qualities at the heart of the book: curiosity, vulnerability, and comfort with uncertainty. Kate also walks through the Harrison Assessment's 12 paradox scales and why being extreme in any direction creates its own problems. Warm, wide-ranging, and genuinely useful for anyone who wants to lead better, parent better, or simply understand themselves more clearly. In this episode: The self-awareness statistic that will make you think twice Internal vs external self-awareness and why both matter What a 360 or LSI feedback process actually reveals Why emotional intelligence matters in leadership, parenting and relationships The danger of spiritual bypassing when doing inner work Mount Stupid, the Dunning-Kruger effect, and where most of us get stuck Wisdumb as paradox: being wise and dumb at the same time The Harrison Assessment and the 12 paradox scales The three core qualities: curiosity, vulnerability, comfort with uncertainty Applying the Wisdumb Way in real conversations What it costs organisations and individuals to lack self-awareness Book format, exercises, and launch plans The Wisdumb Way by Kate de Jong, James Brydon and Mauro Davide: [link when available] Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro — Kate's teaser for The Wisdumb Way 0:35 Podcast welcome and conversation setup 0:46 Book title, subtitle and co-authors 3:03 Kate's backstory: passion for self-awareness 3:25 Shocking self-awareness statistic (unicorns) 5:08 Internal vs external self-awareness explained 5:15 360/LSI feedback — Kate's eye-opening story 7:25 Responding to feedback: defensiveness or curiosity 8:01 Why emotional intelligence matters (benefits) 9:19 Parenting, patterns and avoiding damage 11:07 Spiritual bypassing and doing the inner work 14:49 Mount Stupid & the Dunning-Kruger effect 16:15 Introducing wisdumb as paradox (wise & dumb) 19:21 Confidence + humility — the beginner's mind 21:03 Harrison assessment and the 12 paradox scales 22:08 Flip behaviours: risks of being extreme on a scale 27:12 The Wisdumb Way: three core qualities — intro 27:26 Curiosity — the first core quality 31:46 Vulnerability — strength, not weakness 33:47 Comfort with uncertainty (faith/trust/surrender) 36:22 James's intuition/love story — transformation 38:41 Applying the three qualities in conversations 45:21 Costs of lacking self-awareness & book purpose 56:18 Book format, exercises and launch details 1:01:39 Closing ——————— #KateDeJong #TheWisdumbWay #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #SelfAwareness #EmotionalIntelligence #PersonalGrowth #DunningKruger #Vulnerability #Curiosity #LeadershipDevelopment #InnerWork #PodcastAustralia #EQ #Wisdumb

Tam Callaghan knows you've heard the word gratitude too many times. She felt the same way. This episode is her making the case that it's worth pushing through that resistance, and explaining why it actually works, not in a spiritual bypassing way, but in a genuinely practical, neurological, life-changing way. Drawing on Shawn Achor's research, Rick Hanson's work on absorbing positive experiences, her own VIA character strengths results, and a striking personal story about manifestation, Tam walks through three reasons gratitude matters, why most of us have the order backwards, and what it looks like to build gratitude as a daily practice rather than a mood or a mindset. This is part one of two. Part two goes into the practices in more depth. Part 2: How Gratitude Transforms Your Life - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-5r8in-1b1adf9 In this episode: Why gratitude has become a buzzword and why it's still worth your attention Shawn Achor's TED Talk and what it showed Tam about her own brain VIA character strengths: what they are and how to find yours Three reasons gratitude matters, including why it helps you get the life you want Why life works backwards: gratitude first, results second A personal manifestation story that surprised even Tam Important caveats: this isn't The Secret and it doesn't mean denying hardship The abundance thermostat and why some people can't let good things in Gratitude as a muscle and a moral choice Rick Hanson's advice on absorbing positive experiences so they actually stick Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Introduction — Gratitude: one of life's great ironies 0:03 Gratitude as a buzzword — eye-rolling and resistance 0:46 Why gratitude matters — it's simple and quick 0:55 Influences — Shawn Achor and the VIA strengths 1:41 My VIA results — gratitude, beauty, love 2:43 How gratitude changes your brain and experience 3:12 Three reasons gratitude matters 3:38 Gratitude creates the life you want — life works backwards 4:30 Evidence and belief — placebo, Shawn Achor, personal examples 5:12 A story of manifestation — contacting a well-known figure 6:22 Caveats — not The Secret; not denying hardship 8:58 Abundance mindset — upward spiral and thermostats 10:54 Reverse effects — baby story and doing things backwards 11:48 Gratitude fuels creativity, relationships, and joy 12:02 Family roots of gratitude 13:01 Gratitude as a muscle and moral choice 13:50 Everyday practice — noticing tea, trees, dog, light 15:48 Absorbing positive experiences — Rick Hanson's advice 16:30 Closing — focusing on the good and practising gratitude ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Gratitude #ShawnAchor #RickHanson #VIAStrengths #PositivePsychology #PersonalGrowth #AbundanceMindset #Mindset #Manifestation #PodcastAustralia #GratitudePractice #MentalWellness #JoyfulLiving

In part two of their conversation on workplace bullying, Tam Callaghan and Tanya Hallett from TIPT get into the harder question: once you know there's a problem, what do you actually do? They pick up where part one left off, starting with the 'money in the bank' concept and why goodwill built before a crisis is the thing that makes everything else possible. From there they move into what happens when a harmful employee has been left unmanaged for years, how fawning and placating responses develop in teams that have never seen anyone held accountable, and what a genuine team reset looks like when a new manager comes in. Tanya walks through a detailed case study, a respectful behaviours charter in practice, how to document incidents properly, and how to use company values and policy as the foundation for enforcing standards. There's also a rich conversation about generational change, what younger workers expect from their managers, and why seeing potential in people is one of the most powerful performance tools available. Practical, experienced, and exactly what organisations need more of. Part 1: What is Workplace Bullying - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-xccpv-1b0fd3c Part 3: Narcissistic Bullies - https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-arzzg-1af7f01 In this episode: The 'money in the bank' concept and where it comes from What happens when staff are treated like children The long-term cost of leaving a harmful employee unmanaged Psychological safety, boundaries, and what accountability actually looks like Fawning as a trauma response in workplace settings Case study: Bill and new manager Bob How to run a team intervention using a respectful behaviours charter Documenting incidents: warnings, evidence, and what matters legally Using company values and policy to enforce standards Resetting norms when a new manager arrives Lego Serious Play and third-space conversation tools Generational change and what younger workers need from leadership Why expecting the best from people transforms performance Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro — 'Money in the Bank' classroom management concept 0:37 Applying 'money in the bank' in workplaces 1:14 Staff treated like children — effects on behaviour 1:34 Unmanaged harmful employee — long-term impact 2:32 Psychological safety: boundaries and accountability 3:37 Fairness and pillars of psychological safety 5:57 Bullying dynamics: placating and fawning 7:29 Fawning as a trauma/survival response 9:09 Case study: Bill and new manager Bob 11:17 Team intervention: respectful behaviours charter 14:02 Documenting incidents: warnings & evidence 15:33 Using company values and policy to enforce standards 19:08 Restart norms: new manager reset 22:04 Third-space conversation tools (Lego Serious Play) 23:56 Addressing unseen behaviours and communication 29:02 Generational change: self-care, responsibility & consequences 32:06 Look after people: productivity and retention 34:09 Expect the best: transform performance by seeing potential ——————— #TanyaHallett #TIPT #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceBullying #PsychologicalSafety #TraumaInformed #WorkplaceWellbeing #Fawning #Leadership #HRPodcast #Accountability #WorkplaceCulture #LegoSeriousPlay #PodcastAustralia

Workplace bullying pt 2: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-krwy4-1b1acb6 Narcissistic Bullies: https://www.podbean.com/eas/pb-arzzg-1af7f01 Tanya Hallett from TIPT returns to talk about workplace bullying, one of the most common and costly issues she deals with, and one of the most misunderstood. In this first of two conversations, Tam and Tanya cover what bullying actually looks like in practice, what it isn't, and what organisations are getting badly wrong. They get into the pattern Tanya sees most: a long-serving employee, a new manager with no contextual understanding, a clash that escalates fast, and a workplace that fails to step in. They also cover the legal obligations organisations have around reasonable adjustments and psychosocial safety, and why ignorance is genuinely no excuse. There's a detailed case study on an employee with vertigo, a clear breakdown of the difference between bullying and performance management, and practical discussion of what quick and effective resolution can actually look like, including why trust built before a crisis is the thing that makes everything else easier. In this episode: The most common stories Tanya hears from clients about workplace bullying Why new managers are so often the trigger Legal obligations: what the Fair Work Act actually requires Bullying vs performance management: how to tell the difference Case study: the employee with vertigo and what should have happened Workplace support plans and mental health care plans in practice Trust, emotional intelligence and trauma-informed leadership What a good quick resolution actually involves HR and WHS: who owns what when it comes to psychosocial risk The money-in-the-bank analogy for building goodwill before you need it A preview of what's coming in part two: the 'naughty' staff member Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Introduction and guest bio 0:25 Welcome back & light banter 0:58 Topic overview: workplace bullying 1:05 Client stories: common themes 1:25 Lack of workplace support & consequences 2:31 New managers disrupting status quo 4:11 Legal obligations: 'ignorance is no excuse' 6:06 Bullying vs performance management 7:06 Case study: employee with vertigo 10:05 Need for workplace & mental health support plans 13:00 Trust, EI and trauma-informed leadership 18:01 Quick resolution: apology, documentation, plans 23:02 HR and WHS: overlapping responsibilities 29:14 When to call in a specialist / upskilling 33:03 Consequences of psychological injury (costs/time) 36:26 Money-in-the-bank analogy: building goodwill 40:24 Next topic teaser: the 'naughty' staff member / wrap-up ——————— #TanyaHallett #TIPT #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceBullying #PsychologicalSafety #TraumaInformed #WorkplaceWellbeing #Leadership #HRPodcast #PsychosocialSafety #FairWork #ManagerTraining #WorkplaceCulture #PodcastAustralia

Tam Callaghan had a realisation that made her feel a bit silly at first, and then completely changed how she understood her own anxiety. She was choosing it. Not consciously, but choosing it all the same. In this episode she unpacks the idea that anxiety can sometimes be a way of avoiding responsibility for choices we've made, and why staying in worry feels safer than sitting with the discomfort of ownership. She also gets honest about using worry as a hobby, what happens creatively when she chooses action instead, and why compassion for yourself and others is the piece that makes the whole thing actually work. In this episode: The realisation: why she was choosing anxiety over responsibility The Upside Down: anxiety as a way of avoiding ownership Which pain do you choose? The Mark Manson idea that ties it together Using worry as a hobby and what it costs What opens up creatively when you choose action over worry Trauma, habits and why some reactions are automatic, not chosen Drama, externalising pain, and the compassion that changes everything Being bravely loving to yourself as the conclusion Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro & what to expect 0:17 A surprising realisation 0:46 The Upside Down — choosing anxiety 0:58 My history with anxiety 1:52 Noticing I was choosing anxiety 2:40 Example: training and responsibility 3:36 Which pain do you choose? 5:05 I worry as a hobby 7:02 Unlocking creativity — choosing action over worry 9:35 Addendum: compassion & Stephan Bodian 10:02 Trauma, habits, and automatic reactions 11:42 Drama, externalising pain, and compassion 13:01 Conclusion: be bravely loving to yourself ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Anxiety #Worry #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #InnerWork #SelfCompassion #Responsibility #MarkManson #WhichPainDoYouChoose #PodcastAustralia #MentalWellness #Creativity #BravelyLoving

Tam Callaghan did the brave thing. She wrote the letter, had the hard conversation, cleared up a long-standing issue with someone important to her, and got the resolution she'd hoped for. And then she waited to feel great. It didn't quite work out that way. In this episode Tam shares what actually happened in the days after a genuine breakthrough, including the unexpected ego backlash, the self-doubt that crept in, and why healing doesn't always feel like healing in the moment. She also talks through the identity protections and parts that fire up when we grow, why discomfort after doing the right thing is normal, and what a quote from Chris Lapping about failure helped her see differently. Raw, honest, and one of the more useful things Tam has recorded about the messy reality of doing inner work. In this episode: Resolving a long-standing friendship issue, and what it took The Big Kahuna: writing a letter to an important person in her life The waiting anxiety and what happened when the response came Why she didn't feel as good as she expected afterward Identity and ego: why parts of us fight change even when it's good Chris Lapping's reframe on failure and what it unlocked A post-recording update with the full story Why the action is still worth it, even when the feeling lags behind Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Expectation vs Reality: Why I Didn't Feel Better 0:27 Owning a Mistake: Repairing a Friendship 1:41 The Big Kahuna: A Difficult Relationship Story 3:15 Writing and Sending the Letter (with coaching) 3:58 The Conversation: Confusion, Apology and Relief 6:03 Unexpected Backlash: Feeling Worse After Success 6:30 Identity & Ego: Why Parts Fight Change 9:06 On Failure and Transition (Chris Lapping Quote) 10:52 Post-Recording Update: The Full Story 15:44 Takeaways: Self-Love, Discomfort, and What's Next 16:17 Closing & Call to Action ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #InnerWork #SelfLove #Healing #Courage #PersonalGrowth #IdentityParts #Authenticity #Vulnerability #BraveConversations #Mindset #PodcastAustralia #EmotionalHealth #DoTheWork

They're charming to leadership, devastating to their team, and almost impossible to catch. In this episode, Tam Callaghan sits down with workplace expert Tanya Hallett to talk about narcissistic bullies at work: what they actually are, why organisations keep missing them, and what to do if you're dealing with one. Tanya breaks down the key difference between a standard workplace bully and a narcissistic one, why the second category is in a completely different league, and how the DAVO pattern (Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Order) leaves targets confused, doubting themselves, and unable to articulate what just happened. She also covers what gaslighting actually looks like on the ground, why documentation matters more than you think, and what your real options are if you're in the middle of this. This is one of the most practically useful episodes on workplace harm the show has done. Whether you're a leader trying to understand what's happening in your team, or someone trying to survive a difficult situation, this conversation gives you real tools. In this episode: The difference between a bully and a narcissistic bully, and why it matters The trail of destruction: what happens to teams when one arrives Why narcissistic bullies are so hard for leaders to spot DAVO explained: deny, attack, reverse victim order How gaslighting erodes confidence and psychological safety What leaders should actually be watching for Thinking like a lawyer: how to build your evidence Practical self-protection: documentation, written follow-ups, limiting verbal contact Your options as a target: cope, escalate, or exit The real cost to organisations that ignore this Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https//www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro 0:09 What People Mean by 'Narcissistic Bully' 1:06 Trail of Destruction: Team Impact 3:14 Core Traits: Fragile Ego, Charisma, Managing Up 5:34 Why Leaders Miss Narcissistic Bullies (Red Flags) 6:42 DAVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim Order Explained 9:11 Gaslighting Effects: Confidence & Psychological Safety 11:01 What Leaders Should Watch For (Patterns & Evidence) 15:33 Think Like a Lawyer: Building Your Evidence 19:21 Documentation: How to Record Incidents Safely 20:57 Limit Verbal Contact & Use Written Follow-ups 24:08 Maintain Professionalism — Don't Stoop Down 26:40 Compassion as a Coping Tool (Perspective) 29:00 The 'Ick' Factor: Confusion After Interactions 31:26 Manager Responses & Possible Outcomes 33:58 Options for Targets: Cope, Escalate, or Exit 36:28 Cost to Organisations & Leadership Accountability 39:34 Closing Remarks & Thanks ——————— #NarcissisticBully #TanyaHallett #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceBullying #PsychologicalSafety #Gaslighting #WorkplaceWellbeing #DAVO #Leadership #HRPodcast #WorkplaceCulture #Narcissism #SelfProtection #PodcastAustralia

Do you want to be Bette or Barbara? If you know the movie Beaches, you know the question. Bette Midler's character is the star, the one in the spotlight. Barbara Hershey's is quieter, less visible, deeply loving and deeply loved. In this episode, Tam Callaghan has been wrestling with which one she wants to be, and the answer surprised her. For most of her life Tam's ego has measured her worth through achievement, recognition and applause. But after reading a post about kindness and sitting with what she's contributed over the last 20 or 30 years, she had a genuinely softening realisation: she's been far more Barbara than she ever gave herself credit for. This episode also covers the backup singer dream, the difference between creating from ego and creating from joy, and why peace and self-love aren't distractions from the mission. They are the mission. Plus, a practical exercise worth doing – Writing a list of 50 things you've done well since the start of the year, split across what you've achieved and what you've done for others. Warm, honest, and one of Tam's most personal episodes yet. In this episode: The Bette vs Barbara question and what it revealed Why the kindness we show others often goes uncounted in our own minds Ego achievement vs genuine contribution: measuring life differently The backup singer dream and what it says about wanting just enough attention Separating worthiness from what you create Why self-love is the mission, not a distraction from it The list of 50 things and how to do it Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro — Beaches reference and audience demographics 0:51 Wrestling with Bette vs Barbara 1:45 Being performer vs supporter — personal history 3:33 The impact of kindness and being 'Barbara' 6:28 Reflection on ego, achievement, and worthiness 9:16 Distinguishing creation from ego-driven success 11:14 Personal dreams and perspective — backup singer story 12:27 Desire for self-recognition and impact 13:50 Self-care as the mission — peace and self-love 14:41 Practical exercise — list of 50 things and closing ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Beaches #BetteOrBarbara #SelfLove #Ego #PersonalGrowth #Kindness #Authenticity #SelfCompassion #InnerWork #Worthiness #PodcastAustralia #MindsetShift #BeTheWindBeneathYourOwnWings

Authenticity gets thrown around constantly in workplaces, but what does it actually mean to bring your real self to work without oversharing, burning bridges, or pretending the bottom line doesn't exist? Tam Callaghan sits down with celebrity chef, LinkedIn writer and longtime friend Alvin Quah to dig into one of the most overused and underexplored ideas in modern work culture. Alvin brings a perspective that's hard to find: someone who has lived and led in corporate environments, left them, and can now speak with honesty about what psychological safety, authenticity and values alignment actually feel like from the inside. Together, he and Tam cover what it costs when people can't be themselves at work, why a great boss can make a broken company survivable, and why soft skills are foundational, not optional extras. The conversation also gets into culture, generational difference, introverts in the workplace, hiring for team fit, and what it looks like when trust and friendship exist in a professional setting. Warm, thoughtful, and the kind of conversation that makes you reconsider a few things. In this episode: What authenticity actually means, and what it doesn't Filters, code-switching and the layers people wear at work Why psychological safety often lives or dies with one person: your boss Edited authenticity: being real without being raw Generations, culture and making space for introverts How Alvin thinks about hiring and constructive conflict Why soft skills are the most foundational skills of all Values, leadership and being genuinely valuable at work Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro — Do Yourself a Favour (Bed Edition) 0:06 Setting the Scene — First On-the-Bed Episode 0:33 Guest Introduction — Alvin Quah 0:57 What We Mean by Authenticity 1:31 Authenticity vs. Corporate Masks 2:03 Filters, Code-Switching & Workplace Layers 6:00 Psychological Safety & Leadership Umbrellas 8:16 Authenticity Isn't Rawness — Edited Authenticity 10:02 Love, Boundaries & Managing Difficult Conversations 12:01 Generations, Culture & The Power of Introverts 17:03 Hiring, Team Fit & Constructive Conflict 22:21 Trust, Friendship at Work & Psychological Safety 24:04 Soft Skills Aren't Soft — Foundational Skills 46:43 Being Valuable — Values at Work and Leadership 1:12:20 Closing Thoughts — Vulnerability, Hope & Wrap-up ——————— #AlvinQuah #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Authenticity #PsychologicalSafety #WorkplaceCulture #Leadership #SoftSkills #CodeSwitching #TrustAtWork #ValuesAtWork #WorkplaceWellbeing #PodcastAustralia #LinkedInCreator #BringYourselfToWork

What do you do when there's no plan, no clear path, and no idea if what you're doing is heading anywhere? In this episode, Tam Callaghan gets honest about the extended period of unknowing she's been living through and what she's learning from it. This one covers the ego structures we build to protect ourselves from disappointment, what happens when those structures fall away, and why the mission she thought she was on turned out to be something else entirely. Tam talks about the difference between chasing external validation and actually finding peace in yourself, why self-love isn't selfish, and what it looks like to just keep taking the next step that feels right without knowing where it leads. It also includes one of her favourite Hugh Laurie quotes, which is worth the listen on its own. Raw, personal, and genuinely useful for anyone sitting with uncertainty right now. In this episode: The ego structure of 'one day I'll be famous' and what happened when it collapsed Why external recognition will never be enough, and what to do instead The bridge of cringe: walking into the fog and staying in motion Why self-love is the foundation, not the reward Choosing a context that works for you rather than against you Doing the next right thing when there's no plan Hugh Laurie on readiness, and why now is as good a time as any Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan/ Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Terrifying freedom of not knowing 0:10 Privilege and perspective 0:36 Ego: 'One day I'll be famous' 1:43 Facing uncertainty about worth 2:01 Transition, freedom and experimentation 2:26 Faith and trust challenged 2:44 Mission: peace and self-love 4:06 Doing the next right thing 4:37 Walking into the fog — the bridge of cringe 4:58 Breakthroughs, joy and presence 6:00 Choosing a helpful context 7:20 Self-love as the foundation for giving 11:00 Take steps before you're ready; now is as good as any ——————— #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #NotKnowing #SelfLove #Uncertainty #PersonalGrowth #Authenticity #InnerWork #ExternalValidation #TrustTheProcess #Ego #Mindset #PodcastAustralia #HughLaurie #BridgeOfCringe

Tam Callaghan sits down with her friend and accredited dietitian Jess Burvill, the person behind the wildly useful Instagram page Daily Serve Nutrition, to talk about how a career in advertising, a mid-life study pivot, and a clear no-judgment voice turned into one of Australia's fastest-growing nutrition accounts. Jess came to dietetics as a second career after years in advertising agencies, and it turns out those two worlds have more in common than you'd think. They cover how she applies advertising principles to nutrition content, why simple and useful always wins, what the growth from zero to 171,000 followers in 18 months actually looked like from the inside, and how she handles the less glamorous parts, including trolls, , From the supermarket job that helped shape her thesis focus, and what it takes to study full-time through COVID while working, to her current reality of success, opportunity and truly hard work. Warm, honest, and a lot of fun. In this episode: How advertising skills translate directly into social media content Why Daily Serve of Nutrition grew so fast and what Jess actually did differently The IDC posts and why the no-judgment approach resonates Studying dietetics part-time, then through COVID, while working The supermarket job that sparked her research direction Dealing with trolls and imposter syndrome at scale Brand partnerships, workload, and where it all might go next Follow Jess: https://www.instagram.com/dailyservenutrition/ Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/doyourselfafavour_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro & Welcome 0:07 Meeting Jess Burvill 0:22 Daily Serve Nutrition — Instagram Praise 1:03 No-nonsense approach & ‘DNC’' posts 1:53 Follower milestone: 171,000 & rapid growth 3:01 Career shift: Advertising to Dietetics 5:01 Advertising skills carried into social content 11:01 Studying, COVID & juggling work 15:00 Supermarket jobs & thesis inspiration 20:03 Dean's Scholar research project 27:00 Content strategy: design, voice & no-judgment 33:00 Challenges: trolls, imposter syndrome & balance 40:00 Workload, brand partnerships & future options 46:00 Reflection on mission, impact & celebrating wins 53:00 Closing, birthday plans & sign off ——————— #JessBurvill #DailyServeNutrition #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #Dietitian #NutritionPodcast #InstagramGrowth #SecondCareer #NoBSNutrition #SocialMediaStrategy #ContentCreator #WomensHealth #PodcastAustralia #HealthyEating #ImposterSyndrome

Tasha Broomhall from Blooming Minds returns to share the findings from her PhD research into how workers and leaders are experiencing Australia's psychosocial safety regulations, and the results are eye-opening. Leaders across organisations, including very senior ones in large companies, are either unaware of their obligations or aware but left with no clear pathway to meet them. Many are DIYing it on their own time, which creates its own risks. Mid-level managers in particular are being handed responsibility without the agency, resources, or support to actually deliver it, and Tasha's research found they are burning out as a result. Tasha and Tam cover what a genuine systems approach looks like versus a tick-box one, who should actually own psychosocial safety within an organisation, how to facilitate real cross-level dialogue, the silence problem around vulnerable workers, and some practical things leaders can do right now without waiting for organisational change. Honest, rigorous, and genuinely important for anyone who manages people or influences how workplaces are designed. In this episode: What Tasha's PhD research set out to find and what it revealed Why leaders are DIYing psychosocial safety and why that's a problem Who should own this, and why handing it to safety or HR alone doesn't work Building a cross-functional reference group that actually functions The mid-level manager squeeze: responsibility without authority Why vulnerable workers often can't report, and what organisations miss because of it NDAs, exit processes, and the ethical concerns Tasha raises Practical steps: the 10-minute check-in, device habits, and consultation pathway https://www.facebook.com/share/v/1C8EfBw7yP/ https://www.instagram.com/upspiral.life?igsh=MjN6eHZkY3Y1Z3po 'Drink the Poison' Quote Info - https://fakebuddhaquotes.com/holding-onto-anger-is-like-drinking-poison/ Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro & Guest Introduction 0:35 Episode Purpose & Webinar Reflections 2:31 PhD Research Focus: Psychosocial Safety 4:24 Study Method & Key Findings Overview 5:41 Leaders' Uncertainty and DIY Responses 7:28 Theories Used: Systems Thinking & SDT 9:53 Who Owns Psychosocial Safety? 11:07 Building a Cross-Functional Reference Group 13:30 Facilitating Safe Cross-Level Dialogue (example) 22:06 Mid-Level Managers: Burden, Burnout & Boundaries 28:24 Psychosocial Silence: Reporting & Vulnerable Workers 33:54 NDAs, Exit Processes & Ethical Concerns 39:19 Regulatory Duty, SDT & Simple Leadership Tips 40:48 Practical Moves: 10-Minute Check-Ins & Device Habits 45:59 Team-Level Ownership & Consultation Pathways 58:48 Closing: Make Work Better — Vision & Next Steps ——————— #PsychosocialSafety #TashaBroomhall #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceWellbeing #Leadership #MidLevelManagers #WorkplaceCulture #HRPodcast #PsychologicalSafety #WorkHealthAndSafety #SystemsThinking #ManagerBurnout #PodcastAustralia #MakeWorkBetter

T Tasha Broomhall from Blooming Minds returns to share the findings from her PhD research into how workers and leaders are experiencing Australia's psychosocial safety regulations, and the results are eye-opening. Leaders across organisations, including very senior ones in large companies, are either unaware of their obligations or aware but left with no clear pathway to meet them. Many are DIYing it on their own time, which creates its own risks. Mid-level managers in particular are being handed responsibility without the agency, resources, or support to actually deliver it, and Tasha's research found they are burning out as a result. Tasha and Tam cover what a genuine systems approach looks like versus a tick-box one, who should actually own psychosocial safety within an organisation, how to facilitate real cross-level dialogue, the silence problem around vulnerable workers, and some practical things leaders can do right now without waiting for organisational change. Honest, rigorous, and genuinely important for anyone who manages people or influences how workplaces are designed. In this episode: What Tasha's PhD research set out to find and what it revealed Why leaders are DIYing psychosocial safety and why that's a problem Who should own this, and why handing it to safety or HR alone doesn't work Building a cross-functional reference group that actually functions The mid-level manager squeeze: responsibility without authority Why vulnerable workers often can't report, and what organisations miss because of it NDAs, exit processes, and the ethical concerns Tasha raises Practical steps: the 10-minute check-in, device habits, and consultation pathway Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. ——————— Chapters 0:00 Intro & Guest Introduction 0:35 Episode Purpose & Webinar Reflections 2:31 PhD Research Focus: Psychosocial Safety 4:24 Study Method & Key Findings Overview 5:41 Leaders' Uncertainty and DIY Responses 7:28 Theories Used: Systems Thinking & SDT 9:53 Who Owns Psychosocial Safety? 11:07 Building a Cross-Functional Reference Group 13:30 Facilitating Safe Cross-Level Dialogue (example) 22:06 Mid-Level Managers: Burden, Burnout & Boundaries 28:24 Psychosocial Silence: Reporting & Vulnerable Workers 33:54 NDAs, Exit Processes & Ethical Concerns 39:19 Regulatory Duty, SDT & Simple Leadership Tips 40:48 Practical Moves: 10-Minute Check-Ins & Device Habits 45:59 Team-Level Ownership & Consultation Pathways 58:48 Closing: Make Work Better — Vision & Next Steps ——————— #PsychosocialSafety #TashaBroomhall #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #WorkplaceWellbeing #Leadership #MidLevelManagers #WorkplaceCulture #HRPodcast #PsychologicalSafety #WorkHealthAndSafety #SystemsThinking #ManagerBurnout #PodcastAustralia #MakeWorkBetter

What if the parts of yourself you most want to get rid of are actually trying to help you? In this episode, Tam Callaghan explores parts therapy and why resisting any part of yourself, whether it's striving, jealousy, impatience, or anxiety, makes it louder, not quieter. Drawing on her own experience with her striving part, and a conversation with a friend battling impatience, Tam makes a case for welcoming all parts of yourself rather than fighting them. It's the same principle as the previous episode on emotions, applied to the deeper, more persistent forces that drive how we behave. She shares the experts and resources that have helped her most, and sets herself some homework alongside you. A good companion episode to What You Resist Persists, but works as a standalone too. Kim Holland - https://trulybe.au/ Usha Raman - https://usharaman.com.au/ Lachie Samuel - https://www.lachiesamuel.com/ Peter Crone - https://www.petercrone.com/ Mike Fields - https://jmikefields.com/ What is "Parts" Therapy? - https://integrativepsych.co/new-blog/what-is-parts-work-therapy-ifs#:~:text=Parts%20work%20is%20a%20type%20of%20therapy,versions%20of%20managers%20that%20act%20more%20impulsively In this episode: What parts therapy is and how it differs from working with emotions Why rejecting a part of yourself just makes it fight harder Tam's striving part and what it was actually trying to do The jealousy example and why she couldn't be with it Reframing impatience as a strength, not a flaw Recommended experts including Usha Rahman, Peter Crone, Lockie Samuel and J Mike Fields Homework: practice arriving as you are Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. #AllOfYouIsWelcome #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #PartsTherapy #InternalFamilySystems #IFS #SelfCompassion #PersonalGrowth #Striving #PeoplePleasing #Impatience #SelfAcceptance #Mindset #PodcastAustralia #MentalWellness

Tam Callaghan sits down with author, meditation teacher and former Zen monk Stephan Bodian to talk about his new book Infinite Awakening, a guide to non-dual wisdom for people walking what he calls the pathless path, those who have found their way to awakening outside of monasteries, ashrams, or formal traditions. Stephen has spent decades as a psychotherapist and teacher at his School of Awakening, and this conversation draws on all of it. They cover why spiritual bypassing is so common and so hard to spot, the difference between awakening light and the real work, and what it actually means to rest and allow rather than push and achieve. Tam shares how Stephen's welcoming emotions meditation and the four Rs (remember, recognise, return, rest) have already changed her daily experience, and Stephen walks through his 'is anything missing?' inquiry live in the conversation. One of the most grounded and genuinely useful conversations on meditation and awareness you'll find anywhere. In this episode: How Infinite Awakening came to be and who it's for The pathless path and why it's valid without a monastery behind it What spiritual bypassing actually looks like in practice Why awakened people can still be angry, and what that really means The four Rs and how to use them throughout the day The 'is anything missing?' meditation, explained and experienced How to share this kind of practice without coming across as an evangelist What the School of Awakening offers and how it works Infinite Awakening by Stephen Bodian:- https://infinite-awakening.org/ His series on Waking Up - https://dynamic.wakingup.com/pack/PDC04C?source=content%20share&share_id=1DEF4C54&code=SCF32EE09 His discussions with Sam - https://dynamic.wakingup.com/pack/PKB5F28?source=content%20share&share_id=9D7E18CC&code=SCF32EE09 His interview with Sam Harris - This track called The Direct Path got me thinking. I thought you might like it, too. https://dynamic.wakingup.com/course/C4407A?source=content%20share&share_id=AB3D2ABD&code=SCF32EE09 Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. #StephenBodian #InfiniteAwakening #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #NonDual #Meditation #Awakening #SpiritualBypassing #MindfulnessPodcast #PathlessPath #SchoolOfAwakening #WakingUp #Consciousness #PersonalGrowth #PodcastAustralia

What you resist persists. It's one of those lines that's easy to nod at and genuinely hard to live. In this episode, Tam Callaghan gets into why avoiding painful emotions doesn't make them go away, and what it actually looks like to stop fighting what's there. Drawing on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, her own experience with 4 a.m. fear spirals before training sessions, the work of Eckhart Tolle, and Rumi's Guesthouse poem, Tam walks through what shifted for her and how you can start applying the same ideas without having to overhaul your whole inner world overnight. She also shares the practical resources that have made the biggest difference, including Stephen Bodian's Welcoming Emotions meditation and a free month with the Waking Up app. Honest, personal, and genuinely useful. This track called Welcoming Emotions got me thinking. I thought you might like it, too. https://dynamic.wakingup.com/course/C0C545?source=content%20share&share_id=E9A776F8&code=SCF32EE09 I've been using Waking Up and really enjoying it. I wanted to offer you 30 days free! No credit card required. https://dynamic.wakingup.com/guestpass/SCF32EE09 Rumi Guest House https://grateful.org/resource/guest-house-rumi/ In this episode: Why trying to push painful feelings away makes them worse The downward spiral of self-critique and how to get off it ACT and what acceptance actually means in practice The 4 a.m. breakthrough that changed things for Tam Eckhart Tolle's 'accept, then act' and why it works Rumi's Guesthouse poem as a way of living Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. #WhatYouResistPersists #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #AcceptanceAndCommitmentTherapy #ACT #EckhartTolle #Rumi #MindsetShift #EmotionalHealth #Meditation #AnxietyTips #SelfCompassion #PersonalGrowth #WakingUp #PodcastAustralia

What happens when a difficult situation at work gets avoided, passed around, or quietly buried? Tam Callaghan sits down with executive coach, mediator and author Tammy Tansley to talk about one of the most common and costly patterns in workplaces: the failure to address problems early. Tammy has spent decades being called in after things have already gone wrong. In this conversation, she and Tam get into why delay makes everything harder, what psychosocial safety actually looks like in practice, and why some of the people causing the most damage in organisations genuinely don't know they're doing it. They also cover neurodiversity and misinterpretation, the gap between workplace rhetoric and reality, what good early intervention looks like, and two practical rules that can make a real difference even if a full culture change feels out of reach. Honest, experienced, and genuinely useful for anyone who manages people or works in an organisation. In this episode: Why wrapping a difficult employee in a bow and passing them on never works The real cost of heartless leadership Psychosocial safety vs. the bottom line Long-term trauma from unaddressed workplace problems Why the 24-48 hour rule changes everything Tiny steps that actually move things forward Do Yourself a Favour is available on YouTube: https://linktr.ee/5050_podcast Join the conversation! Do Yourself a Favour is on Facebook LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/tamaracallaghan Do Yourself a Favour is recorded at Tailwind Studio: https://www.linkedin.com/company/tailwind-studio Formerly known as the 50/50 Podcast. #WorkplaceWellbeing #TammyTansley #TamCallaghan #DoYourselfAFavour #PsychosocialSafety #Leadership #WorkplaceProblems #ManagerSupport #Neurodiversity #EarlyIntervention #WorkplaceCulture #ExecutiveCoaching #HRPodcast #PodcastAustralia #DoWhatYouSayYoullDo