Conversations with Kristi

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi sits down with author, educator, and speaker Lael Stone to explore a powerful and often overlooked truth: the way we parent our children has everything to do with how we were parented ourselves . Lael shares her incredible journey-from starting a children’s entertainment company at age 20 to becoming a doula, a sex educator, and eventually co-founding the Woodline School . Together, Kristi and Lael unpack why parenting in the age of social media takes so much courage and how our own unresolved childhood "stuff" often bubbles to the surface the moment our kids hit certain milestones . This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply practical. It challenges the traditional "compliant child" paradigm and offers a new way of thinking about connection, emotional intelligence, and the healing power of repair-reminding every parent that it is genuinely never too late to start over . Content Covered in This Episode The Evolution of Connection : Why Lael’s career shifted from entertainment to birth trauma, sex education, and founding a school. The Courage to Parent : Navigating the "battlefield" of modern opinions and coming back to your own inner intuition. Unresolved Childhood Imprints : How our own history determines which of our children's "big feelings" we can actually tolerate. The "Poo Head" Test : Understanding why we feel "activated" when children challenge us and how to respond with calm instead of power. Raising Humans, Not Robots : Why the goal of parenting is deep connection and self-accountability rather than just raising "good," compliant children. Non-Punitive Discipline : Inside the Woodline School philosophy of removing shame, punishments, and rewards from the learning environment. The Power of Repair : Why an apology to your child-even when they are 18-is the most profound way to stop a traumatic lineage . Every Day is a New Day : Small, practical steps for reconnecting through play and listening without an agenda . Why This Conversation Matters Many parents today feel the weight of "failing" or passing on their own traumas to the next generation . But as Lael explains, our children are often our best teachers, pushing the exact buttons we need to look at so we can finally heal. When we have the bravery to acknowledge what we didn't get as children, we open a doorway to change the story for our own kids . This episode encourages parents to shift from: "How do I shut this behavior down? to: "What is my child's behavior telling me about their unmet needs?" Because when a child feels seen, heard, and allowed to express their full self, they don't just behave—they grow into resilient, empathetic adults. About Lael Stone Lael Stone is an author, educator, and speaker whose work centers on connection and understanding the "why" behind human behavior . She is the co-founder of Woodline School , an innovative primary school that prioritizes emotional intelligence and non-punitive discipline . Through her clinical work and workshops, Lael helps adults understand their own imprints so they can show up as the best versions of themselves for their families . She is the author of Own Your Story and the host of the Humans Being podcast . Learn More About Lael Stone 🌐 Website : laelstone.com.au 📱 Social Media : Instagram: @laelstone 🎙️ Podcast : Humans Being 📖 Books : laelstone.com.au/books Kristi’s Resources for Parents & Carers If this episode resonated with you, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools to support children and families. 🔗 Explore resources : www.kristimcvee.com Support Services (Australia) Lifeline: 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue: 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25): 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi sits down with clinical psychologist Dr. Louise Mansell to explore a powerful question: Why are we waiting so long to teach children how to understand and manage their emotions? Dr. Louise shares how her early experiences supporting her own mother through anxiety shaped her career, and how years of working with children-particularly those experiencing trauma-revealed a major gap in how we support emotional development. Rather than accepting that gap, she created a solution. Introducing Tedology - an innovative, therapeutic teddy bear designed to help children understand, regulate, and process their emotions in a safe and accessible way. Together, Kristi and Dr. Louise unpack why children aren’t meant to “get rid” of emotions like worry, how emotional suppression impacts long-term wellbeing, and why early emotional education has the potential to change entire generations. This conversation is warm, honest, and deeply practical. It challenges common parenting approaches and offers a new way of thinking about how children can be supported-long before issues become overwhelming. Content Covered in This Episode Why emotional education needs to start earlier The difference between regulating emotions vs. avoiding them Why children can’t (and shouldn’t) “get rid” of worry How unprocessed emotions impact mental and physical health The role of play in helping children understand feelings Why many children struggle to talk about their experiences The impact of trauma, silence, and emotional suppression How sensory tools support emotional regulation Why children need safe spaces before they can use their voice How Tedology supports children between therapy sessions Why This Conversation Matters Many children today are struggling with anxiety, overwhelm, and emotional dysregulation. But as Dr. Louise explains, the issue isn’t that children are “too sensitive” or “not coping”-it’s that they haven’t been given the tools to understand what they’re feeling or what to do with it. When emotions are ignored, dismissed, or misunderstood, they don’t disappear. They grow. This episode encourages parents and carers to shift from: “How do I stop this feeling?” to: “How can I help my child understand and work through this feeling?” Because when children learn how to process emotions early, they don’t just cope-they thrive. About Dr. Louise Mansell Dr. Louise Mansell is a clinical psychologist who trained and worked in the UK before moving to Australia. Her work has focused on childhood trauma, emotional development, and early intervention-particularly supporting children who struggle to express or process their experiences. Through her clinical work, Dr. Louise identified a major gap in accessible emotional support for children and created Tedology to bridge that gap. Tedology combines psychology, sensory regulation, and play-based learning to help children build emotional awareness and resilience from a young age. About Tedology Tedology is more than a teddy bear. It’s a therapeutic support tool designed to help children: Understand and name their emotions Regulate overwhelming feelings Practice expressing thoughts safely Build emotional confidence over time Each Ted includes: Guided emotional support features Sensory elements for calming and regulation Emotion cards and play-based learning tools A companion guide for parents and carers Tedology is not a replacement for therapy-but it can be a powerful bridge, helping children feel safe, supported, and understood in their everyday environment. Learn More About Tedology 🌐 Website https://tedology.com.au 📱 Social Media Instagram / Facebook: @tedology 💡 Access Support Tedology may be accessible through NDIS or available grants depending on eligibility. Practical Support & Resources If this episode resonated with you, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools to support children and families. 🔗 Explore resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Conversation tools for parents and carers Guidance on emotional safety and regulation Support for children navigating anxiety and overwhelm Trauma-informed parenting strategies Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78 | mensline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi sits down with child safety consultant, author, and educator Nicole Talarico to explore what it really takes to create cultures of safety for children - not just policies, but everyday practice, mindset, and leadership. Kristi and Nicole discuss why child safety cannot be treated as a compliance checklist, and instead must be embedded into culture, relationships, and daily decision-making across education and care settings. They unpack the uncomfortable truth that harm does not happen because people don’t care - but often because systems become complacent, reactive, or underprepared. Together, they explore how real safety comes from preparation, awareness, and a willingness to sit with discomfort before something goes wrong. Nicole shares her journey from early childhood educator to consultant, author of Asserting a Culture of Child Safety , and creator of practical safety systems designed to support services in real-world risk situations. Her work highlights the importance of embedding safeguarding into everyday routines, not as an add-on, but as a foundation of quality practice. The conversation also explores the tension between fear and empowerment - especially for educators and parents who worry that talking about risk might create fear in children. Instead, Kristi and Nicole emphasise that children are already exposed to information and experiences, and adults have a responsibility to guide those conversations safely and intentionally. A key theme throughout the episode is the role of communication - how children, teenagers, and families can build trust through ongoing dialogue rather than one-off “big talks.” They discuss practical strategies such as co-creating safety plans, using text-based communication with teens, and maintaining open, non-punitive relationships so children feel safe to seek help when needed. Kristi and Nicole also challenge common misconceptions around child safety in education settings, including the belief that risk only exists outside of services. They highlight that while the majority of harm does not occur in early childhood education settings, the responsibility to remain vigilant, trained, and prepared remains critical. This episode encourages educators, parents, and leaders to shift from avoidance to action - and from discomfort to capability. Because safety isn’t about eliminating risk entirely. It’s about being ready for it. Content Covered in This Episode Why child safety is about culture, not compliance The dangers of complacency in education and care settings How Nicole’s experience in early childhood shaped her safeguarding work Why risk awareness should be part of everyday practice The importance of embedding safety into curriculum and routines How to talk to children and teens about risk without fear-based messaging Co-creating safety plans with children and young people Supporting teens through open, ongoing communication Why children are more likely to be harmed outside of education settings The gap between educator responsibility and training in real-world disclosures Why uncomfortable conversations are necessary for protection Building confidence through preparation, not fear Understanding bias in adult decision-making and how it impacts children Consent, boundaries, and autonomy from early childhood Technology, online exposure, and safeguarding in digital spaces Creating safer environments through awareness and intentional action Why This Conversation Matters Child safety is often discussed in policy documents, audits, and compliance frameworks - but Nicole and Kristi remind us that real safety lives in everyday decisions. When adults are prepared, informed, and willing to engage in uncomfortable conversations, children are more likely to be protected, heard, and supported early. This episode is a call to move beyond reactive systems and toward proactive cultures of care. Because protecting children is not about fear. It’s about readiness, responsibility, and relationship. About Nicole Talarico Nicole Talarico is a child safety consultant, author of Asserting a Culture of Child Safety , and an experienced early childhood educator with decades of sector experience. She works with education and care services to embed safeguarding into everyday practice, with a focus on prevention, culture, and practical implementation. Nicole is also the creator of safety tools designed to support services in emergency preparedness and child protection awareness. Learn More About Nicole Talarico Book Asserting a Culture of Child Safety: Offering Children the Protection and Care That They Deserve 📱 Social Media @talaricoconsulting Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about protecting children, having safety conversations, or supporting a child, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Guidance on teaching children body safety and boundaries Tools for building open and safe communication Support for navigating difficult conversations Trauma-informed parenting strategies Resources & Support If this episode raises concerns or questions about child safety or wellbeing, support is available: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (5–25 years) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi sits down with Adam from the Family Advocacy and Child Abuse Alliance to explore one of the most difficult but important topics we face as a society - child abuse prevention, awareness, and advocacy. Kristi and Adam discuss the realities of child abuse, the warning signs that are often missed, and the critical role that education and awareness play in protecting children. This conversation sheds light on how abuse can occur in ways many people don’t expect, and why it’s essential for adults to feel confident recognising and responding to concerns. Together, they unpack the importance of empowering children with knowledge about their bodies, boundaries, and safety, while also addressing the discomfort many adults feel when having these conversations. This episode challenges the idea that child protection is someone else’s responsibility. Instead, it highlights how every adult - parent, educator, or community member - plays a role in creating safer environments for children. Kristi and Adam also explore how trauma impacts children, why some behaviours are often misunderstood, and how we can better support children who may be experiencing harm. This is not an easy conversation - but it is a necessary one. It’s about awareness, education, and taking meaningful steps toward protecting children. Content Covered in This Episode The realities of child abuse and why awareness matters Common signs and indicators that a child may be at risk Why many cases go unnoticed or unreported The importance of teaching children about body safety and boundaries How to have age-appropriate conversations with children about safety The role of parents, educators, and communities in prevention How trauma can impact behaviour and development Why children may not disclose abuse immediately How to respond when a child shares something concerning The importance of creating safe, trusted environments for children Why This Conversation Matters Child abuse is often misunderstood, and many people feel unsure about what to look for or how to respond. As Adam shares, education is one of the most powerful tools we have in preventing harm. When adults feel informed and confident, they are better equipped to recognise concerns early, respond appropriately, and support children in a way that prioritises safety and trust. This conversation encourages a shift from avoidance and discomfort to awareness and action. Because protecting children is not the responsibility of a few - it is the responsibility of all of us. About Adam & FACAA Adam is a representative of the Family Advocacy and Child Abuse Alliance , an organisation dedicated to raising awareness, educating communities, and advocating for the prevention of child abuse. FACAA works to equip parents, educators, and professionals with the knowledge and tools needed to better understand, recognise, and respond to child abuse. Their work focuses on prevention through education, helping create safer environments for children through informed and empowered communities. Learn More About FACAA 🌐 Website www.facaaus.org 📱 Social Media @faca_aus Donate to FACAA at Donation FACAA Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about protecting children, having safety conversations, or supporting a child, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Guidance on teaching children body safety and boundaries Tools for building open and safe communication Support for navigating difficult conversations Trauma-informed parenting strategies Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi sits down with neurodevelopment specialist and educator Dr. Christine Payard to explore something many parents and teachers have never been taught - how early physical development shapes the way children learn. Dr. Christine explains how the body and brain work together during the earliest years of life, and how movements such as rolling, crawling, balancing, and reflex responses play a foundational role in learning, attention, reading, and behaviour later on. Together, Kristi and Dr. Christine unpack the concept of primitive reflexes - automatic movement responses present from birth - and how these reflexes help build the neurological pathways that support learning. When these reflexes don’t fully mature, children may struggle with things like sitting still, focusing, reading, or coordinating their movements. This conversation challenges the idea that children who struggle in school simply “ aren’t trying hard enough.” Instead, it encourages parents and educators to consider what a child’s body might be communicating about their learning needs. Kristi and Dr. Christine also discuss why many children are quickly labelled with behavioural or attention challenges, when in reality their nervous system may still be developing foundational skills that support learning. This episode is not about blame - for parents, teachers, or children. It’s about understanding development, recognising what children’s bodies are telling us, and supporting them to thrive. Content Covered in This Episode What primitive reflexes are and why they matter in early development How early movement patterns influence learning later in life Why some children physically struggle to sit still or concentrate The connection between balance, vision, and reading ability How retained reflexes can impact attention, behaviour, and coordination Why children often develop creative workarounds when learning is difficult The importance of crawling, movement, and sensory development How educators can better understand what behaviour may be communicating Why supporting the body- brain connection can improve learning outcomes Why This Conversation Matters Many children who struggle in classrooms are quickly labelled as disruptive, inattentive, or difficult. But as Dr. Christine explains, behaviour is often the body communicating something important. When children haven’t fully integrated early movement patterns or reflexes, their nervous systems may still be working hard just to regulate movement, balance, or focus. This means far less energy is available for academic learning. Understanding the body- brain connection can help educators and parents shift from asking: “ What’s wrong with this child?” to asking: “ What might this child’s body be telling us?” When we understand how development works, we can support children in ways that build confidence, resilience, and learning capacity. About Dr. Christine Payard Dr. Christine Payard is an educator, researcher, and neurodevelopment specialist who works with schools and educators to help them better understand how early development impacts learning. Her work focuses on the connection between movement, reflex development, sensory systems, and academic learning , helping teachers identify underlying developmental factors that may influence behaviour and learning in the classroom. Dr. Christine is the creator of the Body to Brain Learning at School program, which provides educators with practical tools and strategies to support children’s neurological readiness for learning. Learn More About Dr. Christine’s Work 🌐 Website https:// bodytobrainlearning. com 📱 Social Media Instagram/ Facebook: @ bodytobrainlearning 💼 LinkedIn Dr. Christine Payard Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about parenting, boundaries, or guiding children through adolescence, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Guidance on connection-based parenting Tools for teaching children advocacy and self-expression Conversation guides for families Trauma-informed strategies for resilience and safety Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78 | mensline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, Kristi is joined by Damian Porter , also known as The How Not To Die Guy , for a powerful, practical conversation about situational awareness, self-protection, bravery, and what it really means to prepare for unsafe situations. With a background in the New Zealand Army, including Special Forces, policing in Western Australia, and over 15 years as a firefighter, Damian brings lived experience from high-risk environments - but what stands out most is his grounded, teachable approach to helping everyday people stay safer. This is not a fear-based conversation. It’s a preparation-based one. Kristi and Damian unpack why most people freeze in dangerous situations, how practice changes reaction time, and why “hypervigilance” isn’t the goal - awareness is. They explore how violence often arrives as a surprise, why ego can escalate risk, and how simple behavioural shifts - like using your voice, creating distance, or taking early action - can interrupt harm. The episode also bridges their shared work in child safety and prevention. They discuss: Teaching children to recognise unsafe behaviour Practicing “emergency no” and using your voice The power of situational awareness in everyday settings How offenders rely on silence, compliance, and disbelief Why most perpetrators avoid resistance and exposure How bravery is a choice - not a personality trait Damian shares practical frameworks for handling threats, from verbal deterrence to physical self-defence, while Kristi connects those principles to child protection, early warning signs, and empowering families. Together, they reinforce a simple truth: Preparation reduces panic. Practice reduces freezing. Bravery is chosen in seconds. This episode is about building files in your brain - so if something ever feels “off,” you already know your next step. Key Themes Covered Situational awareness without hypervigilance Why violence is often unexpected The biology of fight, flight, freeze, and fawn Practicing responses before you need them Using your voice as a deterrent Creating distance and changing positioning When force is legally justified - and when it isn’t Staying alive, staying out of jail, and managing aftermath Teaching children about safe and unsafe people Domestic violence safety planning Why ego escalates risk Choosing bravery in critical moments Why This Conversation Matters Many people walk through life believing, “It won’t happen to me.” But safety is not about paranoia - it’s about preparation. Children benefit when adults model awareness and confident boundary-setting. Families are safer when they’ve had conversations about what to do if something feels wrong. Adults are more capable when they’ve mentally rehearsed scenarios before they occur. This episode reminds us that: You don’t have to live in fear. But you do need a plan. And bravery isn’t about being fearless - it’s about choosing action when it counts. About Damian Porter – The How Not To Die Guy Damian Porter is a former New Zealand Special Forces soldier, police officer, firefighter, and long-time instructor in practical self-protection. Through his platform, How Not To Die Guy , Damian teaches everyday people - including women, elderly individuals, parents, and children - how to: Avoid dangerous situations Recognise early warning signs Use verbal deterrence effectively Protect themselves when necessary Understand legal considerations around force His mission is simple: teach good people how to handle bad situations. 🔗 Website: 👉 https://www.hownottodieguy.com 📱 Instagram: 👉 @hownottodieguy Damian responds personally to messages and inquiries. Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about child safety, boundary setting, prevention, or building safer family environments, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Body safety education tools Conversation guides for families Support for teaching children to use their voice Trauma-informed strategies for prevention Guidance on safe and unsafe behaviours Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78 | mensline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Michelle Mitchell , parenting expert, author, and educator, for a practical, encouraging conversation about connection, boundaries, and raising resilient teenagers. With decades of experience equipping families to stay connected through the messy emotional years, Michelle brings grounded insights that help parents move beyond fear and frustration and into thoughtful, values-based parenting. This is not a perfection-based conversation. It’s a connection-based one. Kristi and Michelle explore why control isn’t the goal, why “parenting is just hard” is a myth, and how building trust with teenagers requires intentional, age-appropriate guidance. They discuss: Why connection matters more than control Teaching principles instead of just rules Using friendships as the practice ground for adult relationships How to stay consistent and present, even when your child pushes away Why saying “no” is sometimes the most loving thing you can do Navigating independence while maintaining safety The roundabout metaphor for the normal ups and downs of growing up Michelle shares practical frameworks for guiding teens through decision-making, resilience-building, and critical thinking, while Kristi connects these principles to child safety, advocacy, and helping children grow into capable adults. Together, they reinforce a simple truth: Kids don’t need perfect parents-they need present ones. This episode is about showing up, even when it’s messy, and giving your children the space to grow safely while knowing they are supported. Key Themes Covered Connection vs. control in parenting Teaching principles rather than just rules Age-appropriate trust and boundaries How to handle teenage pushback without conflict Encouraging critical thinking and problem-solving Preparing children for independence and real-world decisions Staying present and consistent as a parent Using everyday moments to build resilience and advocacy skills Why This Conversation Matters Parenting teenagers can feel overwhelming. Social media, technology, and cultural shifts add pressure, and parents often doubt whether they’re doing it “right.” This episode reminds us that: Children thrive when adults show up consistently, not perfectly Trust is earned and age-appropriate, not unconditional Boundaries teach respect, safety, and critical thinking Resilience comes from practice, not perfection Michelle and Kristi model that parenting isn’t about controlling every outcome-it’s about guiding children to become thoughtful, capable adults who know they are supported and loved. About Michelle Mitchell Michelle Mitchell is a parenting expert, author, and educator with decades of experience supporting families through the emotional ups and downs of childhood and adolescence. She teaches parents to: Build connection over control Set meaningful boundaries Guide teenagers with age-appropriate trust Encourage critical thinking, advocacy, and resilience Michelle’s mission is simple: equip parents with tools and confidence so children can grow into capable, confident adults. Website: www.michellemitchell.org Instagram: @michelle.mitchell Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about parenting, boundaries, or guiding children through adolescence, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Guidance on connection-based parenting Tools for teaching children advocacy and self-expression Conversation guides for families Trauma-informed strategies for resilience and safety Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au MensLine Australia – 1300 78 99 78 | mensline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Jocelyn Brewer - psychologist, former high school teacher, and founder of Digital Nutrition - for a wide-ranging, deeply thoughtful conversation about technology, parenting, wellbeing, and what it truly means to stay human in a digital world. With over 20 years of experience working at the intersection of psychology, education, and technology, Jocelyn brings clarity, compassion, and a refreshingly non-shaming perspective to one of the most complex challenges facing families today: how to live well with technology rather than be consumed by it. Kristi and Jocelyn explore why online safety, digital wellbeing, mental health, and prevention cannot be treated as separate issues - and why bans, rules, and fear-based approaches alone will never be enough. They unpack how children’s behaviour online is often driven by a fundamental need to belong, how brains respond under stress and overwhelm, and why adults must build their own regulation skills if they want to support their children effectively. This episode challenges the idea of “digital natives” and reframes young people as digital orphans - growing up in systems designed to capture attention, without enough adult guidance or modelling. Together, Kristi and Jocelyn discuss why behaviour is not identity, how shame shuts down learning, and why curiosity, connection, and co-regulation are far more powerful than control. The conversation also touches on broader systemic pressures - cost-of-living stress, loss of community spaces, comparison culture, and constant information overload - and how these factors shape both parenting and children’s online experiences. This is not a conversation about perfection, restriction, or policing behaviour. It’s about intentional use, emotional literacy, and building skills for life - online and offline . Key Themes Covered Why digital wellbeing and online safety cannot be separated The concept of digital nutrition and intentional tech use Why behaviour is not identity - for children or adults How belonging drives online choices and risk-taking Why shame and fear undermine learning and connection Understanding regulation, big feelings, and brain development The limits of bans and legislation without education and modelling How persuasive tech design exploits attention and emotion Teaching children to be critical consumers of technology Co-regulation, boundaries, and consistency over control Why adults must do their own work first Staying human in a digital - and AI - world Why This Conversation Matters Many parents feel overwhelmed, confused, or behind when it comes to technology - often carrying guilt, fear, or shame about “getting it wrong.” This episode reframes the conversation entirely. Rather than asking “How do we control this?” Kristi and Jocelyn invite us to ask: “How do we build skills, connection, and awareness - in ourselves and our children?” Children don’t need perfect parents or total restriction. They need regulated adults, honest conversations, clear boundaries, and guidance that grows with them. Prevention doesn’t start with platforms or policies. It starts with relationships, modelling, and helping children understand why they feel drawn to certain behaviours — online and offline. About Jocelyn Brewer – Digital Nutrition Jocelyn Brewer is a psychologist, educator, and the founder of Digital Nutrition , a framework that helps individuals, families, schools, and organisations develop healthier, more intentional relationships with technology. With a background in teaching and counselling, Jocelyn brings a practical, compassionate, and evidence-based approach to digital wellbeing - focusing on skills, self-awareness, and agency rather than fear or restriction. Her work centres on helping people stay human in a digital world by understanding attention, behaviour, emotion, and choice. Learn more about Jocelyn and Digital Nutrition: https://www.digitalnutrition.com.au Follow Jocelyn on Instagram Jocelyn Brewer Follow Jocelyn on Facebook Jocelyn Brewer Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about technology use, boundaries, regulation, or parenting in a digital world, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical tools to support families. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: child safety and prevention education guidance for calm, connection-based conversations tools to support emotional regulation and resilience practical strategies for modern parenting challenges Support Services (Australia) If you or someone in your family is feeling overwhelmed, anxious, or struggling with mental health, support is available: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Brooke McIntosh - speaker, endurance runner, and founder of the Just One More movement - for a raw, powerful conversation about mental health, courage, healing, and the ripple effect of choosing to speak when silence feels safer. Brooke shares the deeply personal story behind her decision to run 14,000 kilometres around Australia - a journey born from suicidal ideation, unspoken trauma, and a life-changing car accident that forced her to confront the reality that she was not okay, despite appearing strong on the outside. Together, Kristi and Brooke explore how “just one more” - one step, one breath, one conversation - became a lifeline, not only for Brooke, but for countless people she encountered along the road. What began as a mission to spark conversation within FIFO, mining, and construction communities quickly revealed a much wider truth: mental health struggles do not discriminate. They exist everywhere - across families, generations, genders, and professions. This episode dives into the cost of emotional shutdown, the normalisation of masking pain, and how generational silence around trauma, addiction, and abuse shapes the way adults cope - or don’t cope - later in life. Brooke speaks candidly about childhood sexual abuse, substance use, shame, and the long-term impact of carrying stories alone for decades. Kristi and Brooke also reflect on the power of vulnerability to break cycles - from the unexpected moment Brooke’s father felt safe enough to say “I’m not okay”, to the way children who saw Brooke running began asking questions that opened conversations within their families. This is not a conversation about toughness or pushing through at all costs. It’s about courage, honesty, mental fitness, and choosing connection - even when it’s uncomfortable . Key Themes Covered Suicidal ideation and the turning point that saved Brooke’s life The meaning of Just One More as a daily practice Mental fitness vs mental health Why masking pain is so common - and so dangerous The ripple effect of courageous, vulnerable conversations Generational trauma, silence, and healing Childhood sexual abuse and delayed disclosure Addiction as a coping strategy for unprocessed pain Running as therapy, regulation, and trauma processing Listening to the body instead of pushing through it Breaking cycles for the next generation Why healing yourself can give others permission to speak Why This Conversation Matters So many people are surviving - not living. They show up, work hard, care for others, and appear “fine”, while silently carrying trauma, grief, shame, and exhaustion. This episode reminds us that strength is not found in silence or self-abandonment - it’s found in honesty, courage, and asking for support. Brooke’s story shows how quickly things can change when someone chooses to speak - and how one brave conversation can unlock many more. You don’t need to run around Australia to make a difference. Sometimes, just one more conversation is enough to save a life. About Brooke McIntosh - Just One More Brooke McIntosh is an endurance runner, speaker, and founder of the Just One More movement, using lived experience to spark honest conversations about mental health, suicide prevention, and emotional wellbeing. Through her run around Australia and her ongoing work in communities, schools, and workplaces, Brooke encourages people to build mental fitness, challenge silence, and remember that pain never gets the last say. Follow Brooke McIntosh on her socials: 👉 Instagram - Facebook Brooke McIntosh website: 👉 https://brookemcintosh.com.au/ Practical Support & Resources If this episode has brought up big feelings or difficult memories, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and resources to support healing, prevention, and connection. 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: trauma-informed education child safety and prevention resources guidance for courageous, supportive conversations tools to help adults respond calmly and safely to disclosure Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: suicidal ideation childhood sexual abuse addiction and substance use trauma and mental health challenges Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support, help is available: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi sits down with Dr. Justin Coulson to explore a topic that feels increasingly urgent for parents today: raising boys. Together, they dive into why so many young men are struggling to find their footing and what it actually takes to raise a generation that is resilient, purposeful, and grounded . Dr. Coulson shares his own "failure to launch" story-from failing school to a decade-long radio career before finding his true calling in psychology-and explains why the path to adulthood isn't a race . They unpack the "Hope Theory," the dangers of "vanity careers," and the power of "Autonomy Support," providing a roadmap for parents who want to move from controlling their kids to guiding them . This is a candid, insightful conversation about shifting the narrative for our sons and helping them become men who make the people around them feel "safer and stronger" . Content Covered in This Episode The "Crisis of Purpose" : Why kids today have more freedom than ever but less direction and resilience . Dr. Coulson’s Journey: From the bottom 15% of his class to a PhD in psychology and the "Happy Families" brand . The Value of the Gap Year : Why "earning and learning" through life experiences often leads to more success than rushing straight into university . The 2026 Brain Maturity Update : New research suggesting neurological maturity may not occur until our early 30s . Autonomy Support vs. Control : How to help kids "endorse" rules and values rather than just following them out of fear . The Hope Theory : Breaking down the three essential pillars of hope: Goals, Pathways, and Agency . Screen Time and Lost Potential : The neurological "hijacking" of our youth and how it impacts their ability to discover their values . Healthy Masculinity : Defining a healthy man as someone who helps those around him feel safer and stronger . The "Sunday Chat" : A practical family ritual for discussing everything from consent to mental health . Why This Conversation Matters We often expect too much from our little kids and not enough from our teenagers . As Dr. Coulson explains, our job as parents is not to slay the dragons for our children, but to prepare them to be "dragon slayers" themselves . Many young men are failing to thrive because they lack a sense of worthiness derived from doing hard, productive things. By fostering "Autonomy Support," we can guide our children toward financial viability and personal fulfillment without resorting to "victimhood" or blaming external labels for a lack of progress. This conversation challenges parents to step up, have the hard conversations, and model the character we want our children to inherit . About Dr. Justin Coulson Dr. Justin Coulson is one of Australia’s most trusted parenting experts. He is the co-host of Channel 9’s Parental Guidance , the host of the #1 parenting podcast in Australia ( The Happy Families Podcast ), and the author of 11 books . After a successful radio career, Justin returned to university as a mature-age student, earning first-class honors in psychology and a PhD . He is a father of six daughters and is dedicated to helping families flourish through evidence-based psychological principles . Connect with Dr. Justin Coulson: Website: www.happyfamilies.com.au Podcast: The Happy Families Podcast New Book: "Boys" Dr. Justin Coulson’s latest book, "Boys: Building Strong Young Men from the Inside Out," is a culmination of four years of work . It provides a framework for raising boys who are confident, kind, and capable of navigating the complexities of modern masculinity . Pre-order Now: Pre-orders are critical for a book's success. You can pre-order your via the Happy Families website happyfamilies.com.au/boys-book-waitlist Practical Support & Resources If this episode has inspired you to start more meaningful conversations with your kids, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and practical tools to help you guide them toward a life they can be proud of . 🔗 Explore education and resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Support Services (Australia) If this episode has raised difficult feelings or if you need immediate support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services (000).

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Kimberly King - author, educator, and founder of Tough Topics Mom - for a candid and deeply informative discussion on child safety, prevention, and fostering open communication with children. Kimberly shares her personal journey that led her to advocate for body safety, including a formative experience with her son that resurfaced memories from her own childhood. She reflects on the importance of early conversations about consent, boundaries, and safe adults, and how these conversations can empower children to recognize and respond to unsafe situations. Together, Kristi and Kimberly explore: the challenges parents face in navigating “tough topics,” the role of repressed memories in adult perspectives on child safety, and why prevention strategies are more effective when implemented early. They also discuss the unique risks posed by online spaces, how technology affects children’s development and safety, and practical tools for teaching kids about safe interactions in both real-life and digital environments. Through stories, practical advice, and evidence-based insights, this episode highlights how consistent, thoughtful conversations can make children less vulnerable to harm, support early disclosure, and strengthen parent-child relationships. Content Warning: This episode includes discussion of: Childhood sexual abuse Grooming behaviours Online safety risks Trauma and mental health challenges Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Key Themes Covered: How early body safety education reduces risk and empowers children The importance of recognizing “safe” vs. “red flag” adults Practical strategies for having calm, ongoing safety conversations Online grooming, sextortion, and managing digital risks for children How parents’ past experiences shape their approach to safety Creating an environment where children feel heard and supported The role of consistent, intentional communication in prevention Why This Conversation Matters: Child sexual abuse and emotional harm thrive in secrecy and silence. Many parents want to protect their children but feel unsure how to start conversations about body safety or online risk. Kimberly’s insights provide practical strategies and encouragement for parents and carers to normalize these discussions, reduce vulnerability, and create safe spaces where children feel empowered to speak up. About Kimberly King: Kimberly King is an author, educator, and advocate for child safety. She is the founder of Tough Topics Mom , a platform offering guidance, resources, and support for parents navigating difficult conversations about consent, boundaries, and online safety. Her books, including I Said No and Body Safety for Young Children: Empowering Caring Adults , have been translated internationally and are used by families and educators worldwide to teach children about safety in an empowering, age-appropriate way. 🔗 Learn more about Kimberly King: 👉 www.toughtopicsmom.com 🔗 Tough Topics Mom Books: 👉 www.toughtopicsmom.com/books Practical Support & Resources: If this episode raises questions about supporting child safety, Kristi offers trauma-informed resources to help parents and carers: 🔗 Explore tools and guides: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Support Services (Australia): Lifeline - 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT (sexual assault, domestic & family violence) - 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5-25) - 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Monique Christidis - registered nurse, child health nurse of 30+ years, and founder of BaaBaa Baby - for a grounded, compassionate conversation about infant development, sleep, regulation, and the foundational role of connection from birth. Monique brings a wealth of clinical expertise alongside deep empathy for parents navigating the often overwhelming early years. Together, Kristi and Monique explore how babies communicate through behaviour, why crying is not manipulation but communication, and how understanding brain development can radically shift the way parents respond to sleep, distress, and big emotions. This episode gently challenges outdated behaviourist approaches to parenting and sleep, unpacking why concepts like “self-soothing” and “cry it out” can be misunderstood when we don’t fully understand infant brain development. Monique explains how safety, consistency, and presence support a baby’s nervous system - and how regulation always begins with the adult. Kristi and Monique also discuss the immense pressure placed on modern parents, the loss of the “village”, and how comparison culture and unrealistic expectations can leave parents feeling isolated, guilty, and exhausted. The conversation reinforces that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting - and that learning to trust your intuition is a powerful protective factor for both parents and children. This is a reassuring, science-informed, and deeply validating episode for parents, carers, and professionals - reminding us that connection, not perfection, is what children need most. Key Themes Covered Infant brain development and why the first years are about safety and survival Why babies cry - and why it’s communication, not manipulation The role of connection and co-regulation in sleep and emotional development How outdated parenting narratives can undermine parental intuition The impact of parental exhaustion, isolation, and comparison culture Why self-care and regulation in adults directly supports children Understanding sleep without shame, fear, or rigid rules Supporting children through distress rather than withdrawing connection Why there is no “one size fits all” approach to parenting How early connection builds resilience, confidence, and self-esteem Why This Conversation Matters Babies and young children rely entirely on safe, attuned adults to help them regulate, feel secure, and make sense of the world. When parents are overwhelmed, unsupported, or unsure - often due to conflicting advice or unrealistic expectations - it can erode confidence and connection. This episode reframes parenting through a trauma-informed, developmentally accurate lens, offering reassurance that responding with presence, curiosity, and compassion is not “spoiling” a child - it’s building safety. By understanding how children’s brains develop and how behaviour communicates need, parents can move away from fear-based approaches and toward connection-led care that supports both child wellbeing and parental mental health. About Monique Christidis - BaaBaa Baby Monique Christidis is a registered nurse and child health nurse with over 30 years’ experience supporting families. She is the founder of BaaBaa Baby , a private child health service in Western Australia, where she provides individualised support for families from birth to five years. Monique specialises in infant development, sleep, emotional regulation, and early attachment, offering practical, compassionate, and evidence-based guidance tailored to each family’s unique needs. Learn more about Monique and BaaBaa Baby: https://www.baabaababy.com.au Instagram: @baabaababy Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about infant sleep, regulation, or building stronger connection with your child, Kristi offers trauma-informed education and practical resources for parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and tools: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: connection-based parenting guidance child safety and prevention education tools to support calm, confident responses to children’s distress practical strategies grounded in child development and trauma-informed care Support Services (Australia) If parenting stress, exhaustion, or emotional overwhelm feels unmanageable, support is available: Lifeline - 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue - 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au PANDA (Perinatal Anxiety & Depression Australia) – 1300 726 306 | panda.org.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Neil Milton - founder of The Table Talk Project , advocate, and survivor - for a powerful and deeply human conversation about connection, prevention, and the role safe relationships play in protecting children and strengthening families. Neil shares his lived experience of growing up without a voice at home, the long-term impact of childhood sexual abuse, and how unaddressed trauma shaped his relationships, sense of safety, and ability to ask for help. He reflects on how becoming a parent - and later recognising his own experiences as abuse - became a catalyst for creating spaces where children are heard, believed, and supported. Together, Kristi and Neil explore how everyday disconnection within families can increase vulnerability to harm, why children often communicate distress through behaviour rather than words, and how something as simple - and intentional - as sharing a meal can create profound protective factors. This episode unpacks how grooming can occur in plain sight, the dangers of “busy” culture, and why having a designated space for conversation matters. It also explores the ripple effects of connection - from improved mental health and resilience, to early disclosure of harm and strengthened family bonds. This is not about perfection. It’s about presence, prevention, and creating environments where nothing is off the table. Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse grooming behaviours trauma and mental health challenges suicide and suicidal ideation family violence and relational harm Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered How disconnection within families increases vulnerability to harm Why children often communicate distress through behaviour The lifelong impact of growing up without a safe voice How grooming can occur in everyday environments The protective power of connection and consistent presence Why “busy” culture can unintentionally silence children The role of shared meals in building trust and safety Supporting disclosure through calm, trauma-informed responses How prevention starts with small, consistent moments of connection Why safe relationships are a cornerstone of child protection Why This Conversation Matters Child sexual abuse and emotional harm thrive in silence, secrecy, and disconnection. Many parents and carers deeply care about protecting children but feel overwhelmed, unsure, or stretched thin. This episode reminds us that prevention does not require perfection, expertise, or constant vigilance - it requires presence, listening, and relationship . By creating regular opportunities for connection and normalising conversation, adults can interrupt grooming, support disclosure, and ensure children know they are not alone. Prevention is possible - and it begins with being heard. About The Table Talk Project The Table Talk Project is a family-centred initiative designed to help households create intentional spaces for connection through shared meals and guided conversations. By encouraging families to come together regularly and engage in meaningful dialogue, the project supports emotional wellbeing, strengthens relationships, and creates protective environments where children feel safe to speak. 🔗 Learn more about The Table Talk Project: 👉Website: https://thetabletalkproject.org/ 👉 Back at The Table Web App: https://thetabletalkproject.org/at-the-table/ 👉 Latest Blog Post: https://thetabletalkproject.org/category/the-table-talk-news/ 👉 Book our services: https://thetabletalkproject.org/speaking-engagements-and-presentations/ Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about how to build safer, more connected environments for children and families, Kristi has created practical, trauma-informed resources to support parents and carers. 🔗 Explore education and tools: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: conversation guides for families body safety and consent education tools support for calm, protective conversations without fear or overwhelm Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support, help is available: Lifeline - 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT (sexual assault, domestic & family violence) - 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5-25) - 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Sharon Collon - ADHD educator, coach, speaker, and founder of The Functional Family - for an honest and practical conversation about neurodiversity, online safety, learning differences, and what actually helps families thrive. Sharon is also host of the ADHD Families Podcast , where she supports parents navigating life with ADHD and other neurodivergent profiles. Having supported tens of thousands of families, Sharon’s work focuses on turning overwhelming information into clear, doable strategies. Together, Kristi and Sharon unpack what parents are truly crying out for - not more theory, not more labels - but practical tools that make everyday life easier. This episode weaves together neurodiversity, digital safety, emotional regulation, learning styles, rejection sensitivity, impulsivity, and body safety education - highlighting how prevention and support must be adapted for how children actually process the world. This is not a conversation about fear. It’s about understanding how your child’s brain works - and meeting them there. What This Episode Explores 1. The Reality of an ADHD Diagnosis Sharon shares her own journey of receiving her son’s diagnosis - including the overwhelm of being handed outdated information and left to figure it out alone. She explains why families don’t need more generic ADHD content online - they need: Clear, practical strategies Real-world application Emotional validation Support that reduces shame, not increases it 2. Processing Modalities: Why Talking Isn’t Always Enough Sharon explains that children process information in different ways, including: Conceptual (needing to understand why ) Auditory Visual Verbal processing Emotional Intuitive Tactile (hands-on learners) When parents rely only on talking, many children simply don’t absorb the message - especially neurodivergent children. This becomes particularly important when teaching: Body safety Consent Online safety Social boundaries Risk awareness Kristi shares how role play - not just verbal instruction - helped her daughter internalise body safety rules. Sharon reinforces the importance of repetition and experiential learning over lecture-style conversations. 3. Online Safety, Gaming & Neurodivergence Kristi and Sharon have a grounded conversation about what’s actually happening in online spaces — especially for neurodivergent kids. They explore: Impulsivity and posting without thinking Dopamine-driven reward pathways How predators exploit attention and validation Difficulty reading social cues Why online interactions can feel safer than playground dynamics The very real impact of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Sharon strongly encourages parents to understand RSD - explaining that for many children with ADHD, rejection can feel like physical pain. Rather than banning technology outright, Sharon recommends: Curiosity over confrontation Coaching conversations (not interrogation) Moving gaming into shared spaces Researching games before approving them Using tools like Common Sense Media to review age-appropriateness Understanding that shame shuts down learning This episode reframes tech supervision as relationship-based guidance - not surveillance. 4. Social Skills & Emotional Safety Sharon explains that social skills are not intuitive for everyone - and many adults would benefit from explicit social skills training. They discuss: Why some children miss subtle social cues Why gaming environments can feel predictable and therefore safer The need for explicit teaching rather than assumption The importance of consent-based connection (including hugs) Regulation before conversation Kristi highlights something powerful: sometimes children - and adults - need a hug before they can process words. Key Themes Covered ADHD and late diagnosis Practical strategies over theory Processing modalities and learning differences Role play vs verbal instruction Repetition and retention Body safety education Online grooming risks Impulsivity and dopamine reward systems Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) Social skills development Curiosity-based parenting Regulation before correction Consent in everyday parenting moments Why This Conversation Matters Many parents feel: Overwhelmed Behind Outpaced by technology Unsure how to adapt for neurodivergent children This episode reminds us: Children don’t need perfect parents. They need informed, regulated adults who are willing to adjust their approach. When we understand how a child processes information, we can teach safety, boundaries, and skills in ways that actually stick. Prevention doesn’t start with fear. It starts with connection, repetition, and knowing your child’s brain. About Sharon Collon Sharon Collon is an ADHD educator, family coach, speaker, and founder of The Functional Family . She supports parents to move from confusion and overwhelm to clarity and confidence through evidence-informed, practical strategies. She is also the host of the ADHD Families Podcast , where she explores neurodiversity, regulation, parenting tools, and family wellbeing. Her work focuses on helping families: Understand ADHD beyond stereotypes Develop regulation skills Strengthen communication Build practical systems at home Support emotional and social development Create Your Family’s ADHD Roadmap – FREE Coaching Week One clear, tailored plan for your family https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/roadmap The ADHD Family Quest https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/questwaitlist The ADHD Families Podcast https://www.thefunctionalfamily.com/podcast Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about neurodiversity, safety education, or regulation, Kristi provides trauma-informed education and tools for families. 🔗 Explore resources: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: Body safety education Consent and protective behaviours tools Trauma-informed parenting guidance Support for calm disclosure conversations Support Services (Australia) If you or someone in your family needs support: Lifeline – 13 11 14 | lifeline.org.au Beyond Blue – 1300 22 4636 | beyondblue.org.au Kids Helpline – 1800 55 1800 | kidshelpline.com.au 1800RESPECT – 1800 737 732 | 1800respect.org.au If you are in immediate danger, contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi is joined by Rosalia Rivera - founder of Consent Parenting , consent educator, and survivor advocate - for a deeply important conversation about prevention, healing, and the responsibility adults hold in protecting children. Rosalia shares her lived experience of childhood sexual abuse and how becoming a parent resurfaced memories she didn’t yet have language for. Together, Kristi and Rosalia explore why so many parents avoid child safety conversations - whether through fear, overwhelm, or the belief that “this doesn’t happen in our family” - and how both avoidance and overprotection can leave children vulnerable. This episode unpacks how grooming operates in plain sight, why children communicate harm through behaviour, and how trauma-informed, age-appropriate conversations can dramatically reduce risk. It’s a hopeful, empowering discussion that centres education as a form of freedom - not fear. This is not about paranoia. It’s about prevention, connection, and courage. ⚠️ Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse family and domestic violence grooming behaviours trauma responses online and peer-to-peer sexual harm Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and pause or step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered Why “not my child” thinking places children at risk How unhealed adult trauma can impact prevention efforts Grooming behaviours in family, community, and online settings Why children often communicate harm through behaviour The importance of trauma-informed education for parents How consent, boundaries, and body safety protect all children Why silence and discomfort benefit offenders The long-term impacts of abuse when children are not believed How prevention protects children and prevents future offending Why normalising these conversations creates safer communities Why This Conversation Matters Child sexual abuse thrives in silence, stigma, and discomfort. Many parents avoid these conversations - not because they don’t care, but because they feel overwhelmed, triggered, or unsure where to start. This episode reminds us that education doesn’t create harm - it reduces it. By noticing behaviour, asking questions, and having ongoing, age-appropriate conversations, adults can interrupt grooming, support disclosure, and create environments where children feel safe to speak. Prevention is possible - and it starts at home. Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about how to start protective, trauma-informed conversations with children, Kristi has created practical tools to support parents and carers. 🔗 Explore resources and education: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: conversation guides for parents body safety education tools support for having calm, protective conversations without fear or overwhelm You can also explore Rosalia Rivera’s work at: 👉 www.consentparenting.com Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support, help is available: Lifeline - 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT (sexual assault, domestic & family violence) - 1800 737 732 or 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (ages 5–25) - 1800 55 1800 or kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

In this episode of Conversations with Kristi , Kristi speaks with Andrew Goss about the lifelong impact of childhood abuse - and the role silence, minimisation, and adult neutrality play in allowing harm to continue. Andrew shares his lived experience of family violence, sexual abuse (including female offending), and the repeated moments where warning signs were visible - but not acted upon. Together, Kristi and Andrew explore why children often try to communicate harm through behaviour, how grooming operates across different contexts, and why asking questions early can interrupt abuse before it escalates. This is not a sensational conversation. It’s a necessary one. ⚠️ Content Warning This episode includes discussion of: childhood sexual abuse family and domestic violence grooming behaviours trauma responses Some listeners may find this content confronting. Please listen with care and step away if needed. Support resources are listed below. Key Themes Covered Why silence and “staying neutral” is not harmless How children communicate harm through behaviour Grooming behaviours across male and female offending Why adults often dismiss or minimise warning signs The long-term impact of not being believed How early intervention can change outcomes Advocacy, boundaries, and choosing how to help safely Why This Conversation Matters Most abuse doesn’t continue because no one notices. It continues because adults feel uncomfortable asking questions - or assume someone else will act. This episode invites parents, carers, and professionals to reflect on the small moments where intervention matters, and how noticing, listening, and responding early can disrupt harm. Practical Support & Resources If this episode has raised questions about how to start calm, age-appropriate safety conversations with children, Kristi has created practical tools to support parents and carers. 🔗 Explore resources and education: 👉 www.kristimcvee.com Resources include: conversation guides for parents body safety education tools support for having protective conversations without fear or overwhelm Support Services (Australia) If you or someone you love needs support, help is available: Lifeline – 13 11 14 or lifeline.org.au 1800RESPECT (sexual assault, domestic & family violence) – 1800 737 732 or 1800respect.org.au Kids Helpline (for young people aged 5–25) – 1800 55 1800 or kidshelpline.com.au If you are in immediate danger, please contact emergency services.

Episode Summary: The conversation delves into the alarming risks that young people face regarding sexual violence, emphasizing the lack of awareness among parents about these issues. It highlights the prevalence of unwanted sexual encounters and the disturbing trend of children perpetrating sexual violence against their peers. Key Takeaways: Parents often underestimate the risks of sexual violence. There are high rates of unwanted sexual encounters among youth. Children can be both victims and perpetrators of sexual violence. Awareness is crucial for prevention and protection. Education on sexual violence should start early. Open conversations about consent are necessary. Support systems for victims need to be strengthened. Community involvement is essential in addressing these issues. Resources for parents should be more accessible. Schools play a vital role in educating children about these risks. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to the Conversation on Sexual Education 04:23 - Understanding Parental Challenges in Discussing Sex 07:11 - The Importance of Early Conversations 10:15 - Navigating Teachable Moments 13:22 - Age-Appropriate Discussions and Their Impact 16:26 - Counteracting Negative Influences 19:25 - Promoting Positive Sexual Relationships 22:31 - Empowering Parents to Start Conversations 25:23 - Utilising Resources for Effective Communication 28:24 - Conclusion and Encouragement for Parents 31:45 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

Episode Summary: The conversation explores the challenges faced by the digital generation as they navigate technology independently. It emphasises the importance of introducing technology in a safe manner, akin to teaching children to swim, where they gradually gain skills and independence. Key Takeaways: The digital generation faces unique challenges in technology. Children are often left to navigate technology on their own. Introducing technology should be done safely, similar to swimming lessons. Using apps and platforms can help develop skills in a controlled environment. Gradual exposure to technology fosters independence in children. Safety measures, like floaties in swimming, are essential in tech introduction. Monitoring children while they learn technology is crucial. As children grow, they can handle more complex tech tasks. Skills development in technology is a gradual process. Technology education should evolve with the child's age and abilities. Episode Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Cyber Safety 02:23 - Understanding the Dangers of Online Gaming 05:17 - Navigating Parental Guidance and Restrictions 08:19 - Empowering Conversations with Children 11:46 - The Importance of Early Cyber Safety Education 15:34 - Building Trust and Open Communication 20:23 - Introducing Technology Safely 21:53 - Resources for Parents on Technology 23:46 - Establishing Family Rules for Online Safety 25:56 - Understanding App Classifications 27:48 - Reflecting on Childhood and Social Media 29:19 - Tips for Managing Screen Time 31:49 - Transitioning from Screen Time to Offline Activities 34:39 - Empowering Healthy Digital Consumption 37:12 - Introduction to Child Safety Education

EPISODE SUMMARY: In this episode of "Conversations with Kristi," Kristi discusses the alarming rise in online child exploitation with Ben Gillenwater, an IT and cybersecurity expert. They explore the challenges parents face in protecting their children from digital dangers, emphasising the importance of education and proactive parenting. Ben shares his personal journey of becoming the "family IT guy" and offers insights into managing children's online presence safely. KEY TAKEAWAYS: The alarming rise in online child exploitation cases, with significant increases in AI deepfakes. The importance of proactive parenting in managing children's online presence. Ben Gillenwater's journey from IT expert to family IT advisor. The role of education in empowering parents and children against digital threats. The impact of social media and online platforms on children's mental health. Strategies for setting boundaries and expectations for children's device usage. The significance of leading by example in digital habits. The challenges of balancing parental control with children's privacy. The need for open communication between parents and children about online risks. The benefits of community and educational resources in supporting digital safety. CHAPTERS: 00:00:00 Introduction and Background 00:06:00 The Rise of Online Exploitation 00:12:00 Ben's Journey to Family IT 00:18:00 Parenting Challenges in the Digital Age 00:24:00 Proactive Parenting Strategies 00:30:00 The Role of Education in Digital Safety 00:36:00 Managing Children's Online Presence 00:42:00 Balancing Control and Privacy 00:48:00 Community and Educational Resources 00:54:00 Final Thoughts and Takeaways For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/8dg5zBwZKhs To learn more and connect with Ben, head over to his LinkedIn page at https://www.linkedin.com/in/bgilly/ or connect with him on Instagram at https://www.instagram.com/family_it_guy

Summary: In this episode of Conversations with Kristi, we delve into the profound impact of trauma on identity, particularly for women as Jessica Ella shares her profound journey of healing from childhood sexual abuse. Jess discusses her unique approach to trauma recovery, emphasising the importance of understanding complex trauma and its impact on identity. She recounts her personal experiences of abuse, the challenges of navigating family dynamics, and the power of disclosure. The conversation highlights the flaws in the justice system and the necessity of support systems for survivors. Ultimately, Jessica's message is one of empowerment and hope, encouraging others to reclaim their power and heal from their past. Takeaways: Jessica Ella's journey into healing began from her own trauma. She developed a unique method to help others heal from trauma. Complex trauma can significantly affect one's identity and self-worth. The act of abuse is often less traumatic than the secrecy surrounding it. Disclosure is a powerful tool for survivors to reclaim their narrative. Family dynamics play a crucial role in the experience of abuse. Support systems are essential for healing and recovery. The justice system often fails to protect victims of familial abuse. Survivors can choose how to respond to their abusers. Healing is possible, and it requires a commitment to self-discovery. Healing is a continuous journey that requires daily commitment. Children often mirror the behaviors of their parents, triggering unresolved issues. Seeking justice can be a complex and emotional process. Empowerment comes from healing and helping others. Trauma can be understood as an open memory that needs closure. Creating safe spaces for children to express their feelings is crucial. Parents must address their own trauma to effectively support their children. It's important to communicate openly with children about difficult topics. Healing from trauma is possible and does not define a person's future. Resources and education are vital for both parents and children. Chapters: 00:00 - Introduction to Jessica Ella's Journey 03:09 - Healing Through Trauma: Jessica's Methodology 07:08 - Understanding Complex Trauma and Identity 10:24 - Jessica's Personal Story of Abuse 13:59 - The Impact of Abuse on Mental Health 17:38 - The Power of Healing and Self-Discovery 22:08 - The Dynamics of Power in Abuse 24:23 - The Role of Family in Trauma 27:46 - Recognising Red Flags in Abusive Relationships 29:51 - The Challenges of Family Court and Child Support 31:07 - Trust Issues with the Justice System 32:12 - The Complexity of Child Disclosure 34:08 - Factors Influencing Child Recantation 35:51 - The Confusion of Love and Abuse 37:21 - The Child's Need for Parental Love 40:08 - The Impact of Parental Abuse on Self-Love 42:15 - The Betrayal of Trust in Family Dynamics 44:06 - Navigating the Justice System 47:37 - Finding Empowerment Beyond Trauma 51:53 - Understanding Trauma and Healing Methods 55:54 - Understanding Trauma and Memory Processing 01:00:59 - Navigating Difficult Conversations with Children 01:05:19 - Healing from Complex Trauma 01:09:34 - Supporting Children After Trauma Disclosure 01:12:19 - Resources for Parents and Caregivers 01:16:07 - Introduction to Child Safety Education For additional resources and support services, please head to my website at https://www.cape-au.com/free-resources You can also watch the full video version of this episode on my YouTube channel at https://youtu.be/zl2VFsIw8qA To learn more and connect with Jess please head to her Instagram @iamjessicaella and you can grab a copy of the book "Secret or Surprise" at https://www.secretorsurprise.com.au