HOW I SEE IT

#163: On today’s episode, Serena Kerrigan , founder of Let’s F cking Date and author of Let’s Fcking Date: Become the Prize, Enjoy the Ride, and Never Settle Again , jumps on the podcast to talk about dating, self-worth, situationships, confidence, boundaries, and what it actually takes to stop trying to earn love. Serena gets incredibly honest about her own healing journey, the childhood wounds that followed her into her adult relationships, and the core wound underneath the over-the-top, performative version of herself she became known for. She opens up about building an entire brand around confidence and dating while privately struggling to believe she was deserving of a healthy relationship, and what finally forced her to look at the parts of herself she had spent years avoiding. The girls unpack how our wounds shape the way we date, the relationships we choose, and the versions of ourselves we become in an attempt to feel loved. The girls get into: Why trying to earn love can keep us attracted to people who reinforce what we already believe about ourselves How she leaned on an over-the-top, performative version of yourself as a form of protection—and what was really underneath “Serena Fucking Kerrigan” The difference between being afraid of being alone and being afraid of actually being loved Serena’s equine therapy experience and the moment she realized there were things she still wasn’t fully dealing with Confidence vs. performance, and why being wildly confident in your career doesn’t mean you won’t self-abandon in relationships Why chaos, volatility, inconsistency, and the push-pull dynamic can feel like chemistry when your core wound is rooted in earning and seeking love Situationships, ghosting, dating boundaries, and why Serena believes follow-through matters more than overanalyzing someone’s behavior What it looks like to date from abundance rather than scarcity and the fear that there are “no good men left” Why “nice guys finish last” is terrible dating advice—and why kindness and consistency should be the bare minimum The pressure of the biological clock, the fear of running out of time, and why settling for the wrong relationship can cost you more in the long run The difference between wanting a boyfriend and actually waiting for your person The importance in addressing your past trauma, pursuing healing, and taking action even when its uncomfortable & MORE This episode is for you if you keep repeating the same dating patterns and don’t understand why; you’ve ever felt like you had to become a bigger, louder, more confident version of yourself to feel worthy; or you’ve confused chasing someone with chemistry. It’s for you if you’re ready to stop trying to earn love and start choosing relationships from self-worth. CONNECT BELOW: Follow Serena here Buy Serena’s book here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#162: On today’s episode, Jade Beguelin and Sabrina Sade , co-founders of 4AM , join me to talk about entrepreneurship, resilience, overcoming fear of failure, managing anxiety, trusting yourself, and continuing to build even when you have no guarantee it’s going to work. After five years of building 4AM, Jade and Sabrina recently launched their skincare brand across over 1700 Target locations and raised over $4 million, but only weeks before launching Clean Sheets, they were having very real conversations about whether it would even work out! We talk about moving the needle even in uncertainty, the illusion of the “overnight success”, the mindset shifts that helped them keep going, and what it takes mentally and emotionally to pursue an ambitious life when there is constantly something on the line. The girls get into: The five years behind 4AM’s success Building a business when you don’t know if it’s going to work What it truly means to “fail" Overcoming fear of failure and making imperfect decisions Managing anxiety in high-pressure situations Raising $4M while preparing for a major Target launch Building resilience when entrepreneurship starts to feel overwhelming Learning whose criticism actually deserves your attention Why other people’s negativity is often projection Signs it’s time to leave your corporate job Developing self-trust when other people don’t understand your decisions Why ambitious women have to get comfortable being misunderstood The difference between wanting something and actually doing the work Why there usually isn’t a “secret sauce” to success Taking risks when the safer path no longer feels aligned Giving yourself more without losing your ambition How the girls leveraged Tik Tok as their growth strategy Reminders when it comes to prioritizing your health and mental health while building a company & MORE This episode is for anyone pursuing more, building something of their own, navigating anxiety while chasing big goals, questioning whether they should keep going, or learning how to trust themselves through seasons where the outcome still feels uncertain! CONNECT BELOW: Follow Jade here Follow Sabrina here Follow 4am here Shop 4am here CONNECT with HAN: Follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ Watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ Shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ Work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#161: On this week's episode, Han sits down with Meg Reynolds , host of Not The Girl Next Door Podcast , for a raw conversation about what it actually looks like to heal loudly, break the relationship patterns we learned in childhood, and finally choose ourselves. Meg opens up about leaving an abusive relationship, and recognizing the patterns that kept pulling her toward emotionally unavailable people. The girls talk about childhood trauma, specifically what it looks like to navigate going no contact with a parent, and why sometimes the strongest expression of self-worth is having enough courage to walk away. The girls get into: What it actually means to heal loudly Why silence can keep us stuck in suffering Healing after an abusive relationship Repeating unhealthy relationship patterns Dating emotionally unavailable people How relationships can mirror our unhealed wounds Going no contact with a parent Why no contact is a boundary—not a punishment Setting boundaries with people you love Raising your standards in dating Why women sometimes treat men like projects Why your worth is not determined by how much pain you can endure Letting go of the need to fix someone Having enough courage to walk away & MORE! This episode is for anyone who is trying to understand their relationship patterns, healing from childhood trauma, struggling to walk away from someone they love, navigating boundaries or no contact with family, or learning that choosing yourself is not the same thing as giving up. CONNECT BELOW: Follow Meg ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Not The Girl Next Door Podcast here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#160: On this episode of HOW I SEE IT, Han sits down with content creator, podcast host, and YouTuber Taylor King for a conversation about what it actually looks like to build confidence, bet on yourself, and create a life that feels aligned, through your career, your relationships, your community, and the way you show up for yourself. Taylor and Han talk about why confidence is built through keeping promises to yourself, and why sometimes hearing “no” just means finding another way forward. They get into embracing discomfort, taking risks without making failure feel so high-stakes, and learning to trust that you’ll figure things out along the way. The girls also unpack the nuance between self-acceptance and self-improvement—especially when it comes to body image, beauty, and taking agency over the things that are actually within your control. Taylor shares her experience struggling to post herself online. They also talk about the relationships that have shaped Taylor’s career, why so many opportunities come from simply being someone people trust and feel seen by. Taylor, also, opens up about building a life she loved before finding her relationship. The girls get into: Building confidence by keeping promises to yourself Betting on yourself even when the outcome isn’t guaranteed Why hearing “no” doesn’t have to mean you’re on the wrong path Taking action instead of spiraling when something doesn’t work out Why discomfort is necessary for growth Self-acceptance vs. self-improvement Body image, beauty, and taking agency over how you want to look and feel Separating your appearance from your self-worth Building a career through genuine relationships and connection Building the community you want by showing up for other people Creating a full life before finding a relationship Wanting a partner without centering your entire life around one Influencer icks, relationship hard launches, and what should stay offline & MORE This episode is for anyone who needs a confidence boost, wants to feel inspired to go after their goals, is looking to build stronger community and relationships, is learning how to bet on themselves, or just feels uninspired to bet on themselves. CONNECT BELOW: Follow TK ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Onze here Follow TK on Youtube here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#159: On today’s episode, Han jumps on for a SOLO episode all about discipline: how to build success, why discipline is a skill you can actually develop, and how staying present can completely change the way you view discipline as you approach personal growth, success, and your mental health. Han gets into one of the questions she gets asked most: how do you stay so motivated? The truth is, she doesn’t. Motivation comes and goes. But when motivation falters, discipline is something you can learn to rely on. She breaks down why she doesn’t believe disciplined people are simply born that way, why discipline is a skill that can be strengthened and flexed over time, and why so much of building discipline comes down to staying present and learning to keep promises to yourself. Han gets into: Why discipline matters more than motivation How discipline can actually be developed and strengthened over time Why consistency often matters more than talent, intelligence, or qualification Building confidence and self-trust by keeping small promises to yourself Why the promises you make to yourself don’t need to be massive to create meaningful change Creating consistency through small, low-stakes daily actions Why staying present is one of the most important parts of becoming disciplined How constantly thinking about where you “should” be can make it harder to take action The pressure to be more successful, make more money, feel more healed, or be further along than you are Why obsessing over the end goal can actually work against your personal growth How to know where you’re going without thinking about the destination every single day Focusing on what actually moves the needle forward today How small, consistent actions compound over time Adjusting your expectations of what the journey toward success is supposed to look and feel like Learning to trust yourself and the process even when you can’t see immediate results Small ways that Han stays disciplined in her mental health and wellnesss routines & MORE! This episode is for anyone who is struggling to stay consistent, who's procrastinating on taking action, or feeling overwhelmed by how far they still have to go. If you’re working toward becoming more successful, mentally well, confident, disciplined, or simply becoming someone you can rely on, this episode is a reminder to know where you’re going, come back to today, and trust that what you do consistently will compound over time. CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 — Discipline, Success & Staying Present 00:30 — Welcome Back / Feeling Better 01:45 — Why I’m Talking About Discipline 02:13 — Motivation vs. Discipline 03:15 — Discipline Is a Skill You Can Develop 03:35 — Why Consistent Action Creates Success 04:15 — Building Confidence by Keeping Small Promises 04:43 — Why Success Requires Staying Present 05:53 — Stop Living in the “Helicopter View” 06:11 — Why Obsessing Over the End Goal Makes Discipline Harder 07:20 — Daily Action & the Compound Effect 08:07 — Changing Your Expectations of the Journey 09:26 — Starting Before You Have Everything Figured Out 09:46 — Procrastination, Overthinking & Getting Stuck in the Big Picture 11:46 — How I Build Discipline in Business 12:44 — Structure, Scheduling & Staying Organized 13:55 — The Daily To-Do List & Keeping Promises to Yourself 17:04 — Discipline in Mental Health & Therapy 18:03 — Discipline With Fitness & Physical Health 19:37 — Supplements, Skincare & Everyday Commitments 21:40 — The Compound Effect Beyond Money 22:50 — Anyone Can Build Discipline 24:26 — The Real Key: Showing Up for Yourself 24:40 — Why Success Is in the Journey, Not the End Goal 25:00 — Applying Discipline to Healing, Happiness & Being Present 25:31 — Final Thoughts 26:01 — Outro

#158: On today’s episode, Han sits down with MJ Gray, content creator and host of the Maneater podcast, as she shares her personal healing journey: discovering the power of her mind and learning how to reprogram the beliefs that had shaped her life. After years of trying to get sober, and living through what she describes as a continuous dark night of the soul, MJ realized sobriety would require more than willpower. MJ and Han unpack manifestation, addiction, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-love, accountability, decentering men, and why accepting the discomfort of life may be the key to finally finding peace. The girls get into: the power of your mind and reprogramming deeply rooted beliefs and childhood conditioning Why changing your life can initially feel irrational or delusional How addiction and unhealthy coping mechanisms can change forms MJ’s spiritual awakening and relationship with manifestation Using meditation and mindset to create a different reality How the expectation to always be happy makes us unhappy Taking accountability for your healing without invalidating your trauma Moving beyond victimhood while maintaining compassion for yourself Letting go of guilt, jealousy, anger, and self-hatred Healing patterns created by narcissistic or emotionally unhealthy parents Breaking free from people pleasing and the need to be liked Learning to genuinely love yourself and embrace who you are How unresolved trauma can recreate familiar relationships Decentering men and creating fulfillment outside of relationships & MORE! This episode is for anyone navigating sobriety, childhood trauma, people pleasing, self-doubt, or a difficult mental health journey. It is for the woman learning how to reprogram negative beliefs. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00:00 — Introduction 00:05:32 — Getting existential and questioning everything 00:05:44 — How sobriety led MJ to social media 00:06:18 — The desire to feel seen and understood 00:06:48 — MJ’s sobriety journey 00:07:05 — Experiencing a continuous dark night of the soul 00:09:58 — Why addiction can change forms 00:10:26 — Coping with the discomfort of being human 00:11:17 — Why expecting constant happiness makes us unhappy 00:12:26 — Childhood trauma, victimhood, and personal accountability 00:14:33 — Falling down, trying again, and releasing guilt 00:15:07 — Why guilt can create more self-hatred 00:15:41 — MJ’s spiritual awakening after getting sober 00:16:16 — Discovering meditation and spirituality 00:16:55 — Relapse and discovering the power of the mind 00:17:28 — Applying manifestation and mindset to sobriety 00:17:44 — The day MJ quit drinking and smoking 00:18:12 — Convincing herself she no longer liked alcohol 00:19:03 — Reprogramming beliefs created by a narcissistic parent 00:20:00 — Why transforming your life can feel delusional 00:20:57 — Resetting your childhood programming 00:23:25 — Does MJ care what other people think? 00:24:10 — Why people pleasing never worked 00:24:53 — Self-love, insecurity, and genuinely liking yourself 00:25:19 — Learning to water the lawn you already have 00:25:44 — Releasing the things you cannot control 00:26:07 — Why peace has to begin within you 00:27:13 — Life gets easier to carry 00:28:56 — Where your attention goes, your energy flows 00:29:17 — Moving beyond rumination and self-pity 00:29:35 — Why traumatic patterns can feel like home 00:30:04 — Taking accountability for repeated patterns 00:34:08 — Why women need to start decentering men 00:34:47 — Creating fulfillment outside of relationships 00:35:56 — Loving men without centering them 00:36:12 — The risks women face within relationships 00:36:34 — Expecting romantic partners to add value to your life CONNECT BELOW Follow MJ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow MANEATER here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#157: On today’s episode, Han sits down with Isaac Hindin-Miller, a fashion journalist turned DJ, interviewer, content creator, and founder of I LIKE YOU!, for an honest conversation about external validation, low self-worth, negative self-talk, and the lifelong work of learning how to feel whole within yourself. Isaac and Han unpack the realization that no amount of attention, achievement, access, popularity, or external approval can fill an internal void. They discuss what it actually takes to rebuild your self-esteem, interrupt destructive thought patterns, stop outsourcing your worth, and choose peace and acceptance instead of constantly chasing happiness. They get into: Why external approval can never create lasting self-worth Why happiness cannot be contingent on external validation Choosing acceptance and peace instead of chasing constant happiness Navigating imposter syndrome and self doubt How to interrupt cruel and destructive negative self-talk The problem with finding validation elsewhere Depression, sobriety, and breaking cycles of self-destructive behavior The connection between low self-esteem and unhealthy coping mechanisms Social media, comparison, and attaching your value to your work Intellectualizing trauma instead of allowing yourself to feel it Why understanding your emotions is different from actually feeling them How choosing a different behavior can lead to a healthier mindset Finding identity, hobbies, and joy outside of your career How relationships act as mirrors for the parts of ourselves that still need healing & MORE! This episode is for anyone who has ever looked outside of themselves for proof that they are worthy, lovable, important, or enough. This is a conversation for those doing the daily work to quiet the voices that tear you down, and learning to build a sense of self-worth that does not depend on attention, accomplishments, or validation. TIMESTAMPS: 00:57 Isaac joins the podcast 04:25 Is the life he dreamed about everything he thought it would be? 05:21 Why reaching the top does not fill the internal void 05:40 The daily work required to feel whole 06:02 Accepting the human condition 06:13 Finding peace within the mundanity of life 06:26 Chasing happiness versus choosing acceptance 06:44 Redefining happiness as peace 07:06 Why happiness cannot be contingent on something happening 07:42 Isaac’s drive to reach the top 08:37 Experiencing bullying and rejection growing up 09:56 Building your self-worth on a foundation of sand 16:02 Growing the I LIKE YOU! parties from 800 to 3,000 people in New York City 16:33 Imposter syndrome, self-doubt, and feeling like a fraud 16:57 Feeling isolated while surrounded by crowds 17:05 The conversation with Isaac’s dad that changed his perspective 17:46 Becoming a victim to your own story 18:07 The danger of constantly thinking about yourself 18:20 Learning to interrupt negative self-talk 19:35 Accepting that the negative voices may never fully disappear 19:59 Moving toward something positive or negative 20:14 Depression and self-destructive coping mechanisms 21:20 Rebuilding self-esteem from within 21:32 The connection between mental health and low self-worth 22:47 Social media, validation, and mental health 23:55 Attaching your personal value to your business 24:42 Sobriety and learning how to feel 27:12 Intellectualizing emotions and suppressing vulnerability 27:52 Understanding yourself versus feeling your emotions 28:28 Changing your behavior to change your mindset 33:51 The importance in finding a hobby 34:53 Having the courage to redefine who you are 48:18 How relationships act as mirrors CONNECT BELOW: Follow Isaac here Follow I Like You here Read Isaac's Substack here CONNECT with HAN: Follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ Watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ Shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ Work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#156: This week, Han sits down with Jess Windell, founder of Maven PR and a public relations expert to investigate what it takes to build a foundation of self-trust through acts of courage. Jess and Han have an honest conversation about the psychology behind confidence, courage, risk, productivity, ambition, and creating a life that feels meaningful beyond your career. Jess shares how calling off her wedding four months before it was supposed to happen became the catalyst for nearly every major decision that followed, and taught her that doing the hardest thing can open the door to an entirely different life. The girls get into: Why confidence is the outcome of courage How taking risks builds self-trust Calling off a wedding when nothing was “wrong,” but it still wasn’t right Why comfort can keep you trapped in the wrong life Letting go of the timeline and future you planned Navigating rejection, uncertainty, and unexpected changes Manifestation beyond material goals The pressure to always be productive Why traditional ideas of rest do not work for everyone Separating your worth from your career, relationship, or motherhood Creating a full life before finding a partner or having children Why placing your entire identity into one area of your life can be dangerous Allowing different parts of your life to thrive during different seasons The psychology, vulnerability, and human connection behind PR Why audiences are craving more truth and authenticity How Jess went from never wanting to own a business to founding Maven Consulting Why many businesses are not ready for traditional full-service PR Democratizing PR and making the industry more accessible & MORE! This episode is for anyone learning how to trust themselves, make a difficult decision, leave something that is comfortable but no longer aligned, or release the pressure to have their entire life figured out. Jess and Han remind us that confidence does not always come before the leap—sometimes, confidence is built by proving to yourself that you are capable of taking it. TIMESTAMPS: 00:53 — Welcome Jess to the podcast 01:07 — The psychology and human connection behind PR 02:40 — Was Jess always confident? 03:32 — Confidence is the outcome of courage 05:30 — Why your life can become better when you take risks 06:45 — How Jess learned to trust herself 07:13 — Calling off her wedding four months before it happened 08:43 — Leaving when nothing is wrong, but it is not right 09:15 — How uncertainty keeps us trapped 09:29 — Getting uncomfortable to find true comfort 11:25 — Discovering a new life on the other side of fear 12:06 — Manifesting the feelings you want to experience 13:30 — Becoming too attached to the life you planned 13:57 — Letting go of control and welcoming change 15:35 — Finding balance within the gray areas 16:05 — Productivity, anxiety, and the pressure to always be doing more 19:12 — Why rest looks different for everyone 22:03 — Would Jess make the same decision nine years later? 23:05 — The conversation around whether women can “have it all” 24:11 — Creating a full life outside of a partner and children 24:43 — Why your entire identity cannot live in one area 25:22 — Nothing in life will be a 10 out of 10 all the time 27:08 — Understanding the different seasons of life 29:02 — Why Jess never planned to start a business 29:40 — Her desire to transform the PR industry 30:00 — Building an in-house PR team at Perfect Bar 31:30 — Earning a seat at the table 34:10 — The meaning behind the name Maven 36:00 — Why audiences are craving truth and vulnerability 38:32 — Why Jess turns away potential clients 39:20 — Democratizing and demystifying PR CONNECT BELOW: follow Jess ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ check out Jess's PR program Catalyst here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#155: On today’s episode, Han sits down with actress, founder, and breast cancer survivor Miranda McKeon for a conversation around mental health, grief, identity, and what it means to surrender. At 19 years old, Miranda had just come off the Netflix series Anne with an E when she discovered a small lump in her breast. She quickly was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer. Miranda and Han explore how trauma changes your relationship with mental health, and how Miranda reclaimed a sense of agency. The girls get into: Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer and how she navigated eight rounds of chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and 25 rounds of radiation The mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatment The grief that comes when the future you imagined suddenly disappears Having to surrender when you are someone who craves control Learning to speak to yourself like someone who will always have your back navigating depression as someone who never struggled with mental health issues the problem with outsourcing comfort and validation how women tether themselves to our physical appearance The complicated relationship women have with beauty, value, and appearance Moving away from a “why me?” mentality and the art of reframing How changing your language can help you reclaim agency Why surrendering can still be an intentional choice How facing mortality changed the way Miranda values her time and her life Learning not to waste energy obsessing over things you cannot control Therapy, journaling, and returning to the tools that support your mental health The breast cancer signs and symptoms young women need to know The rise of breast cancer diagnoses among young women & MORE! This episode is for anyone navigating grief, depression, trauma, illness, or a season of life that has forced them to release control. If you're looking to feel inspired to move through your trauma, this episode is for you! TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction 05:21 – Coming off Anne with an E and believing her career was just beginning 05:40 – Being diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer at 19 06:00 – Finding a lump during a breast self-exam 07:55 – The immediate mental-health impact of a cancer diagnosis 08:25 – Surrendering control when your future feels uncertain 11:07 – Why your relationship with mental health changes over time 11:35 – Egg freezing, chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and radiation 11:50 – The mental, physical, and spiritual toll of cancer treatment 12:30 – Depression and losing hope for the future 15:00 – Grieving the life and future you thought you were going to have 16:20 – Why mental-health struggles can feel so isolating 18:04 – Outsourcing comfort and validation when you feel alone 19:40 – The wounds cancer brought to the surface 20:35 – Why women are taught to use beauty as an asset 21:58 – Why losing her hair did not feel empowering 22:30 – Moving away from a “why me?” mentality 25:00 – Reframing the way you speak about difficult experiences 25:15 – Changing “I have to” into “I get to” 25:39 – Using language to reclaim agency and control 27:13 – How surrendering can still be a choice 31:35 – Why Miranda no longer perseverates on everything that goes wrong 32:00 – How facing mortality changed the way she values her life 32:20 – What Lexapro and antidepressants actually changed 34:29 – Learning how to live with the unknown 35:07 – Struggling to release control 35:33 – Why obsessing over what you cannot change only wastes your energy 36:00 – Returning to the mental-health tools that support you 36:43 – Therapy as a tool for healing 40:22 – Creating resources for women navigating breast cancer 42:30 – The rise of breast cancer among young women CONNECT BELOW: follow Miranda ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Fill Your Tank here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠

#154: On today's episode, Han sits down with the creator and dating coach behind The Daddy Academy , Niko Emanuilidis , for the first-ever dating conversation with a man on the podcast. The girls wanted to know about modern dating, relationships, red flags, what men actually think, and what women should be looking for in a healthy partner... and Niko unapologetically gets into it. Han and Niko explore the male perspective on dating so women can better understand the other side, while also breaking down what it actually looks like to date a healthy, emotionally mature man. This episode covers why so many of us keep repeating the same relationship patterns, why healing doesn't always stop you from attracting unhealthy partners, and why the real work is learning to recognize and reject what no longer aligns with you. Niko and Han get into: How childhood wounds shape who you're attracted to Why healing doesn't stop you from attracting unhealthy people—you simply have to stop choosing them Why a healthy man can embody both masculine and feminine energy What emotional regulation actually looks like in a relationship, especially when looking for a boyfriend/long term partner Why women are evolving emotionally faster than men Why relationships often become the next stage of healing The five conversations every couple should have within the first few dates How to know if someone is dating intentionally The difference between chemistry and compatibility What men wish women better understood about dating What women should actually look for in a healthy partner The biggest red flags women consistently miss How to recognize love bombing before it's too late Why healthy love feels calm instead of chaotic The importance of pacing and boundaries in early dating Finding your core wound and breaking unhealthy dating patterns What it actually takes to attract the relationship you deserve The importance of being seen & MORE! This episode is for anyone who feels stuck in unhealthy dating patterns, struggles with attachment wounds, or wants to build a secure, emotionally healthy relationship. If you're navigating dating anxiety, love bombing, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, emotional unavailability, or the fear of being fully seen, this conversation will completely change the way you think about love. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction 01:02 – Meet Niko from The Daddy Academy 02:53 – What healthy masculine energy actually looks like 04:45 – Why emotionally available men are the most attractive 07:06 – Why women are evolving emotionally faster than men 08:57 – Do you have to heal before entering a healthy relationship? 10:10 – Why you date your unfinished business 10:26 – Why healing doesn't stop emotionally unavailable people from showing up 17:02 – What women are really looking for in men today 20:27 – The five conversations every couple should have early on 23:24 – How to know if someone is dating intentionally 25:33 – Why talking about past relationships matters 29:09 – Learning to be fully seen in relationships 32:45 – Identifying your core wound and attachment patterns 33:16 – What men wish women understood about dating 39:02 – The biggest dating red flags women miss 39:23 – How love bombing starts with high chemistry and obsession 40:00 – Why you can't rush the dating process 40:58 – The difference between calm love and anxious chemistry 41:22 – What healthy obsession actually looks like 42:33 – Why pacing and boundaries matter in early dating 46:26 – Why you should never date someone's potential 48:10 – Why your time is your greatest asset while dating 53:05 – How to attract the healthy relationship you deserve 54:50 – Why being fully seen helps you find your person 1:00:24 – Stop chasing your future spouse and start loving your own life CONNECT BELOW: Follow Niko here Follow the Daddy Academy here Join his Dating program here follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠

#153: On today's solo episode, Han opens up about one of the hardest seasons of her life and the question she's been asking: What actually makes life worth living? Despite experiencing the most success she's ever had in her career, Han shares why she's simultaneously been navigating one of the darkest chapters of her personal life. She reflects on returning to therapy, her experience with MDMA-assisted therapy, healing from complex trauma, and why she believes so much of our suffering comes from resisting life's inevitable dualities rather than learning to hold them. This episode is an honest conversation about mental health, depression, healing, fear, and learning to find freedom even when life feels uncertain. Han explores why happiness can actually feel more frightening than pain after trauma, why control keeps us stuck, and why true healing begins the moment we stop trying to escape discomfort and start embracing life's gray areas. Han gets into: what actually makes life worth living why success doesn't always equal happiness returning to therapy and pursuing deeper healing MDMA-assisted therapy and reconnecting to your body intellectualizing your emotions vs. actually feeling them accepting life's dualities instead of resisting them learning to live in the gray perfectionism, overachievement, and the need for control why happiness can feel scarier than trauma exploring happiness after trauma finding safety outside of your identity as someone who has suffered letting go of the stories you've had to carry to survive why avoiding discomfort creates more suffering the truth behind fear why trying to escape fear becomes its own prison navigating depression through acceptance rather than avoidance letting go of control and choosing freedom over certainty what it really means to build a life worth living Happiness as a brave choice & MORE! This episode is for anyone who is having a hard time accepting the dualities of life. If you've been navigating depression, complex trauma, burnout, or a season where life feels both beautiful and incredibly difficult, this conversation is for you. Sometimes the bravest thing you can do is allow yourself to explore what happiness can truly feel like. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction 00:43 – Why I've been putting off this solo episode 01:25 – Going back to therapy to heal deeper layers of trauma 02:11 – The paradox of success: Why achievement doesn't always bring happiness 03:40 – Learning to accept life's dualities and live in the gray 04:00 – Growing up around narcissism and how it shaped the way I cope 05:13 – What actually makes life worth living? 06:30 – My experience with MDMA-assisted therapy 07:08 – Intellectualizing emotions vs. feeling them in your body 08:07 – The perfectionism I didn't realize I had 09:19 – Can we sit with life's uncertainty instead of trying to escape it? 10:28 – Why discomfort makes us retreat 11:24 – Letting go of control instead of avoiding your feelings 11:43 – How accepting ambiguity creates freedom 13:02 – Why happiness can feel scarier than trauma 14:46 – Letting go of an identity rooted in suffering 15:29 – Why acceptance can transform your relationships and career 17:38 – Navigating a dark night of the soul 19:48 – The vulnerability of exploring happiness 20:10 – When discomfort becomes familiar 24:27 – Why external validation never creates lasting safety 25:19 – Fear, discomfort, and why we struggle to sit with uncertainty 27:22 – How trying to escape fear becomes its own prison CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#152: On today's episode, psychotherapist and founder of Therapy in the City, joins the podcast for a conversation about what it actually means to heal. So many of us spend our lives chasing happiness while trying to avoid pain, but what if the very thing we're resisting is what allows us to experience the deepest joy? Aliza explains why healing isn't about becoming happy all the time, but about learning to embrace the full human experience. The girls unpack why discomfort isn't something to escape, why uncertainty is one of life's greatest teachers, and how letting go of control can completely transform the way we experience life. The girls get into: why pain is required for joy why avoiding your emotions creates more suffering processing your feelings instead of escaping them accepting the full human experience embracing life's dualities why happiness isn't the goal of healing letting go of control and embracing uncertainty why some people naturally experience emotions more intensely the Biosocial Theory and why mental health isn't always rooted in trauma why you are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiences the difference between your first thought and your second thought (more on rewiring the brain) why high achievers often struggle to feel their emotions slowing down, stillness, and the power of the pause understanding shame and where it stems from what Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) is and how it helps us heal psychology and spirituality... why healing requires both redefining what true joy actually looks like dating, attachment styles, and choosing relationships that align with your values & MORE! This episode is for anyone who struggles to relinquish control, finds themselves in patterns of emotional avoidance, or is constantly chasing happiness while resisting pain. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by uncertainty, uncomfortable emotions, or the inevitable ups and downs of life, this conversation will completely reframe what healing actually looks like. Because true joy isn't found in avoiding pain... it's found in learning how to hold both. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 – Introduction 01:09 – What actually brings people to therapy? 04:49 – Feeling emotions deeply and learning how to process them 05:53 – The Biosocial Theory: Why some people feel emotions more intensely 07:03 – Healing isn't only for people with trauma 08:04 – You are not your thoughts, emotions, or past experiences 09:38 – Stop trying to control what you can't control 10:39 – Why healing is about beginning again 13:29 – Learning to embrace uncertainty 16:48 – Why happiness isn't the destination 17:19 – Why pain is required for joy 18:05 – Emotional avoidance: Why avoiding your feelings creates more suffering 20:26 – You can be self-aware and still be emotionally unavailable 21:40 – Logic vs. emotion: Learning to actually feel 23:01 – The science behind emotions and slowing them down 24:11 – The healing power of the pause, silence, and stillness 27:01 – Shame, secrecy, and why they always go together 27:48 – What is Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)? 34:40 – Becoming comfortable with life's ambiguity 36:15 – Psychology, spirituality, and trusting something bigger than yourself 37:25 – The three things anxiety usually comes back to 38:42 – Why external achievement can never replace internal healing 40:27 – What is joy, really? 48:21 – Dating, attachment, and choosing relationships that align with your values CONNECT BELOW: Follow Aliza here Visit Therapy in the City here CONNECT WITH HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#151: On today’s episode, President of Peanut and former Bumble executive Michelle Battersby joins the podcast for an honest conversation around ambition, imposter syndrome, motherhood, and the pressure women feel to choose between building a successful career and building a family. Michelle opens up about helping scale Bumble, launching and later selling her company Sunroom, navigating the mental health challenges that come with entrepreneurship, and learning to trust herself through seasons of uncertainty. The girls unpack purpose, imposter syndrome, self-doubt, societal expectations placed on women. Michelle opens up about her own healing journey— navigating motherhood and the narratives she had to rewrite as she entered the new season. The girls get into: self-worth and tying your identity to achievement how we can move through imposter syndrome confidence, self-doubt, and learning to trust yourself entrepreneurship as a mental health journey identifying the voice of self-trust versus self-doubt how fear keeps us trapped and prevents us from reaching our potential building Bumble and launching female-first platforms double standards women face in business, leadership, and success the pressure women feel to choose between motherhood and ambition Why 86% of women believe motherhood will negatively impact their careers maternal loneliness, women's mental health, and the support systems women desperately need fertility decisions, abortion, family planning, and career timing navigating pregnancy while building a career why women are still penalized for motherhood in ways men aren't the systems and societal structures that make balancing career and family so difficult why the conversation shouldn't be "can women have it all?" but rather "why is it so hard for women to have it all?" challenging outdated narratives around motherhood, ambition, and identity work-life balance and redefining what it means to "have it all" building a life that feels aligned, meaningful, and authentic & MORE! This episode is for anyone navigating imposter syndrome and anyone lost searching for purpose in their 9-5 job. This episode is also for women who are struggling with the idea of motherhood— anxiety around fertility decisions and entering the next chapter of life. CONNECT BELOW: follow Michelle here follow Peanut here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han here follow HOW I SEE IT here follow Han on Substack here watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube here shop the podcast merch here work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com 00:00 – Introduction 02:32 – Realizing she wasn't passionate about her career 04:49 – The intuition that changed her life 07:53 – Self-worth, achievement, and identity 10:29 – Is it wrong to tie your worth to what you do? 11:16 – Different seasons of ambition and success 11:42 – Fulfillment vs external achievement 12:30 – Challenging gender roles through Bumble 14:42 – Why Michelle is drawn to controversial conversations 16:08 – Launching Sunroom and challenging societal norms 18:55 – Double standards for women in business and leadership 22:20 – Imposter syndrome and self-doubt 22:55 – Entrepreneurship as a mental health journey 24:38 – Luck, opportunity, and taking action 26:20 – Learning to trust your intuition 28:43 – Different forms of bravery 29:00 – Identifying the voice of intuition versus fear 31:46 – What would partial success look like? 37:14 – Why 86% of women believe motherhood will hurt their careers 38:07 – Unlearning beliefs around ambition and motherhood 39:17 – Navigating pregnancy while building a company 41:00 – The systems that make balancing career and family difficult 43:35 – Fertility decisions, abortion, and career timing 45:10 – Is there ever a "right time" to have children? 51:08 – The pressure to "bounce back" after motherhood 54:10 – What society gets wrong about motherhood 1:04:15 – Rock bottom, ChatGPT tarot cards, and finding clarity

#150: On today's episode, Jess Girod, creator, season 27 contestant of The Bachelor , and season 9 contestant of Bachelor in Paradise , jumps on the podcast for a conversation about heartbreak, self-worth, childhood wounds, and the relationship patterns we unknowingly carry into adulthood. Jess opens up about growing up in a household filled with conflict, the fear of repeating her parents' relationship, and the realization that she was settling—not just in dating, but in life. Through stories of heartbreak, healing, situationships, and self-discovery, Jess shares how some of her most painful experiences became the catalyst for deeper growth. The girls unpack self-abandonment, fear of intimacy, closure, emotional availability, dating standards, and what it actually means to build a relationship rooted in authenticity rather than familiarity. This conversation is a reminder that healing isn't about finding the right person—it's about becoming someone who no longer abandons themselves. The girls get into: fear of repeating your parents' relationship growing up around conflict and how childhood wounds shape adult relationships why we often settle for what feels familiar self-abandonment and losing yourself in relationships navigating betrayal, heartbreak, and relationship trauma why heartbreak can become one of life's greatest teachers fear of intimacy and emotional vulnerability learning that authentic love requires authenticity from yourself first why closure isn't something another person can give you situationships, rejection, and unanswered questions relationship patterns and breaking cycles that no longer serve you self-worth while single the pressure women feel to find a relationship dating standards, emotional availability, and self-respect why the right relationship won't require convincing, chasing, or forcing choosing hope after heartbreak This episode is for anyone healing from heartbreak, working through childhood wounds, questioning a relationship, struggling with self-worth, or trying to break old relationship patterns. If you've ever found yourself settling, seeking closure, abandoning your needs, or wondering why the same lessons keep showing up in your relationships, this conversation will remind you that healing begins when you stop looking for validation outside of yourself and start trusting what you already know. CONNECT BELOW: Follow Jess on Instagram Follow Jess on Tik Tok CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com

#149: On today’s episode, founder of fashion brand Brule , Kenzie Burke , jumps on the podcast for a vulnerable conversation around mental health, emotional extremes, identity wounds, and the importance of staying true to your purpose. Kenzie opens up about struggling with her mental health from a young age, going viral and creating immense success to losing herself in entrepreneurship, and eventually being forced to confront her deepest fear: bankruptcy. The girls unpack shame, emotional instability, validation, purpose, and how sometimes hitting rock bottom becomes the very thing that allows you to rebuild your life in a more honest and authentic way. The girls get into: struggling with mental health and emotional extremes going viral young and making half a million dollars in 3 months entrepreneurship, instability, and losing yourself in success panic, anxiety, shame, and emotional burnout why bankruptcy became the most healing experience of Kenzie’s life identity wounds and constantly seeking external validation the difference between acting from authenticity versus acting from wounds the pressure to “have it all together” in the age of social media learning how to trust yourself instead of outsourcing your worth to other people chasing emotional highs vs healing the root why slowing down can feel terrifying emotional rock bottoms and rebuilding your life bravery, risk taking, purpose, and fear of mediocrity relationships, settling, and building a life that actually adds value & MORE! This episode is for anyone navigating emotional extremes, shame & self-worth wounds, or the uncomfortable process of rebuilding yourself after realizing the life you built no longer feels aligned with who you truly are. CONNECT BELOW: follow Kenzie ⁠here⁠ follow Brule here shop Brule here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack ⁠ here⁠ watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube ⁠ here⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com 00:00 – Introduction 02:22 – Struggling with mental health from a young age 03:25 – “Tortured artist” tendencies & emotional extremes 04:14 – Why purpose felt so important 07:04 – Going viral & making half a million dollars in 3 months 07:57 – Entrepreneurship, identity, & losing herself in success 08:42 – Why success stopped feeling aligned 09:30 – How entrepreneurship destroyed her self confidence 12:58 – Money insecurity, instability, & emotional stress 14:16 – Filing for bankruptcy & confronting her deepest fear 15:04 – Why bankruptcy became the most healing experience of her life 17:10 – Being forced to slow down & face yourself 20:12 – Sometimes the best way to find yourself is to get lost 21:00 – Authenticity vs acting from wounds 21:30 – Feeling unseen as a child & seeking validation 22:00 – Learning to trust herself instead of outsourcing her worth 24:36 – Chasing emotional highs & trying to “feel something” 24:58 – Finding peace in emotional stability instead of extremes 26:30 – Why chasing the high never heals the root 28:35 – Restlessness, bravery, & fear of mediocrity 28:50 – Why slowing down can feel terrifying 29:27 – Different forms of bravery 31:00 – Knowing when you need to take the risk 33:55 – Relationships, standards, & refusing to settle

#148: On today’s episode, Masha Kay, nervous system regulation coach, jumps on the podcast to unpack the deeper psychology behind high achievement and how it’s a tool for nervous system regulation. Han shares her Substack (linked here ), which opens a conversation into what it actually means to heal beyond just intellectualizing your patterns and explore how many ambitious people use work, achievement, and constant productivity as coping mechanisms to avoid feeling, and how protector parts developed in childhood can continue running our lives long after we no longer need them to survive. The girls get into: productivity as a coping mechanism & form of emotional avoidance why high achievers struggle to slow down nervous system regulation, trauma healing, & somatic healing what “parts work” actually is protector parts & how they try to keep us safe from feelings that once weren’t safe to experience why intellectualizing your healing is not the same as embodying it dissociation, overwhelm, & constantly needing to stay busy reconnecting to the body & learning how to feel below the neck why healing can actually feel unsafe for the nervous system inner child work, emotional suppression, & survival strategies how ambition and achievement can become trauma responses why awareness alone doesn’t always create transformation learning how to feel instead of avoid the difference between numbing and true healing Learning to surrender to the process of healing & MORE! This episode is for anyone who feels they may be using productivity and achievement as a form of emotional suppression or avoidance, anyone feeling frustrated in their healing journey despite being “self aware,” anyone pursuing trauma healing and looking into nervous system regulation, or anyone wanting to better understand parts work, protector parts, inner child healing, and what it actually means to feel instead of intellectualize. CONNECT BELOW: follow Masha ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Check out her program here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow Han on Substack here watch HOW I SEE IT on YouTube here shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com 00:00 – Introduction 02:44 – Productivity addiction & high achievers using work to cope 03:58 – Achievement as nervous system regulation 04:47 – Why ambitious people struggle to be with themselves 07:54 – Productivity as emotional avoidance 08:41 – Work, avoidance, & disconnecting from feeling 09:13 – What are “protector parts”? 09:41 – Understanding parts work & internal family systems 12:46 – Why healing can feel blocked 16:15 – When the “high achiever” part takes over healing 18:31 – How protector parts keep us safe 20:14 – Awareness, observation, & compassion in healing 22:35 – Dissociation & living outside the body 27:35 – The inability to stay present with feeling 32:40 – Intellectualizing vs actual self awareness 36:44 – Anger, discomfort, & emotional control 37:58 – Observation creates separation from emotion 39:39 – Beginning somatic experiencing 41:32 – Reconnecting to the body through orienting 52:55 – Why slowing down is harder for high achievers 1:00:00 – Numbing vs actual healing 1:05:37 – Building ambitious lives to avoid pain

#147: On today’s episode, Les Alfred, podcast host of She’s So Lucky, jumps on to share her story; how she left corporate, navigated a major career pivot, and learned how to build self trust while redefining success on her own terms. We talk about identity shifts, mental health, and what it really looks like to grow through uncomfortable transitions. The girls get into: • The journey of becoming who you were before the world told you who to be • Leaving the “safe” corporate path • Going back to therapy and the difference between talking vs. actually feeling • Self blame and control and how it shows up • Letting go of the “balanced” label and allowing yourself to evolve publicly • Breaking out of boxes, authenticity, and why it’s the only way to grow • Rebranding as a natural result of evolving through life • The real cost of pivoting: identity shifts, social pressure, and financial dips • Being misunderstood, judged, and projected onto as you grow • Self-trust, risk-taking, and learning to bet on yourself • How to build confidence by doing small things differently every day • The reality of success: why it takes years, not months • Closing the gap between where you are and where you want to be • Fear of being seen vs. fear of criticism • Letting go of controlling how people perceive you • Performing vs. being your authentic self • Mirror work and learning to extend kindness to yourself • Confidence vs comparison & MORE This episode is for anyone navigating a career pivot, leaving corporate, building self trust, struggling with mental health, going through an identity shift, or learning how to embrace change and step into their next level—even when it feels uncomfortable. CONNECT BELOW: follow Les ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow She's So Lucky Podcast here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com leaving corporate, how to leave corporate, career pivot, career change advice, building self trust, how to trust yourself, personal growth, identity shift, rebranding yourself, life transitions, entrepreneurship, women in business, mental health, mental health hacks, healing journey, therapy, wellness, confidence, fear of being seen, overcoming self doubt, authenticity, building a business, growth mindset, success habits TIMESTAMPS: 00:54 Intro & meeting Les Alfred 03:19 Becoming who you were before the world told you who to be 05:50 Leaving corporate & wanting more 07:51 Hitting a low point & wellness transformation 10:20 Corporate vs entrepreneurship skills 13:48 Returning to therapy 15:04 Talking vs feeling emotions 15:45 Self-blame & high-functioning habits 18:32 Letting go of the “balanced” identity 19:13 Breaking out of boxes & authenticity 20:16 Rebranding through life transitions 21:12 The cost of pivoting (identity, social, financial) 22:00 Being misunderstood & judged 24:09 Not responsible for others’ triggers 25:33 Struggles with vulnerability & trust 29:27 Self-trust & taking risks 30:31 Building confidence through small changes 32:40 The reality of long-term success 35:30 Closing the gap to success 38:49 Fear of being seen 40:30 Letting go of perception control 42:53 Performing vs authenticity 45:05 Mirror work & self-kindness 47:42 Confidence & comparison

#146: On today’s episode, Han sits down with Ksenia Zaytseva, founder of Bur Bur Hair Care, to talk about her story. From moving to the U.S. without speaking English, to building from nothing, and the mindset it takes to keep going when there’s no proof it’s going to work. This is a conversation about perseverance, self belief, and committing to a path without a plan B. The girls get into: • moving to the U.S. without speaking English & starting over • why “no plan B” changes the way you show up • living “comfortably uncomfortable” vs actually taking risks • delusional self belief & trusting yourself before there’s proof • ignoring what feels logical to follow what you know is meant for you • why thinking from point A to Z keeps you stuck • navigating hardship, sacrifice & starting from nothing • being told something is impossible—and doing it anyway • money as energy & removing a scarcity mindset • how your beliefs shape the reality you experience • breaking limits & refusing to keep yourself small • the mindset behind building Bur Bur Hair Care • why scalp care is the most overlooked part of beauty Ksenia shares how she pushed past what felt logical to follow a deeper knowing that she was meant for more, why success came from continuing to show up without validation, and how her relationship with money as energy shaped the way she built her life and business. This episode is for anyone who feels like they’re starting from nothing, questioning their path, or trying to trust themselves before the results show up. It’s also for anyone who knows they’re meant for more but is still learning how to move through fear, take risks, and actually go after it. USE CODE HOWISEEIT for a discount when shopping BUR BUR here CONNECT BELOW: follow Bur Bur here shop Bur Bur here with code HOWISEEIT for a discount CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com EPISODE TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 Introduction & meeting Ksenia Zaytseva 01:30 “No Plan B” mindset & why most people quit too early 03:06 Growing up in Russia & feeling out of place 04:30 Moving to the U.S. with no English & starting over 07:45 Living “comfortably uncomfortable” vs taking risks 11:39 Letting go of fear of judgment 13:48 Committing fully to your path without a backup plan 15:05 Why thinking too far ahead keeps you stuck 16:40 Expanding what you believe is possible 17:20 Sacrifice, survival & chasing something bigger 19:40 Believing in yourself when no one else does 23:30 Emotions aren’t stop signs—they’re signals 25:35 Trauma, pivots & rebuilding your identity 29:18 Rejecting rules & creating your own path 31:00 Being told your business will fail—and doing it anyway 32:45 Money as energy & abundance mindset 34:00 The world mirrors your beliefs 36:49 Breaking limits & redefining what’s possible 39:00 The origin story behind Bur Bur Hair Care 41:30 Why scalp care is the missing piece in beauty 44:30 Hair growth myths & what actually works 46:10 The craftsmanship behind Bur Bur brushes self growth for women, mental health podcast, healing journey, self worth, emotional growth, personal development podcast, therapy work, self awareness, mindset and growth, delusional self belief, no plan b mindset, overcoming adversity, starting over in life, trusting yourself, navigating trauma, identity growth, women in business mindset, entrepreneurship mindset, money mindset, money as energy, abundance mindset

#145: On today’s episode, Han and her best friend Britt are recapping their experience at Coachella, something that ended up being way deeper than either of them expected. What started as a festival weekend turned into a reflection on inner child healing, self awareness, and the ways we disconnect from ourselves in the name of being “productive,” “mature,” or “put together.” They also break down the reality behind the curated content, why Coachella isn’t always as fun as it looks online, and what the environment revealed about their relationship to joy, play, and shame. Han and Britt also get into dating standards, self respect, and what it actually looks like to do the work in therapy, learning how to move through discomfort, question your patterns, and reconnect with parts of yourself you may have shut down over time. The girls get into: why Coachella is seen as the “playground for your inner child” feeling disconnected from your inner child why “fun” can feel unproductive or uncomfortable the judgment we hold against our younger selves learning how to experience joy without shame doing the work in therapy & building self awareness getting uncomfortable for the sake of growth the reality of Coachella vs. what you see on social media why the festival isn’t as glamorous as it looks Everything you need to know about artist passes how curated content shapes perception dating standards, respect & the bare minimum standards navigating modern dating & emotional maturity This episode is for anyone who feels disconnected from their inner child, struggles to let themselves experience joy without overthinking it, or is working through self awareness, shame, and healing in a deeper way. It’s also for anyone navigating dating, redefining their standards, or realizing that what you see online is rarely the full picture. 00:00 Coachella Recap & First Impressions 01:18 Why We Never Planned to Go to Coachella 02:33 The Truth About Coachella (Expectation vs Reality) 04:20 Why Coachella Isn’t What It Looks Like Online 05:57 Coachella as the “Inner Child Playground” 06:57 Feeling Disconnected from Your Inner Child 09:28 The Swings Moment: Why Fun Felt Uncomfortable 10:42 Why “Having Fun” Can Feel Unproductive 11:04 Realizing the Judgment Was Toward Ourselves 13:02 Inner Child Healing & Reconnecting to Your Younger Self 14:10 Why It’s Hard to Let Yourself Experience Joy 16:09 Self-Judgment & Shame Around Your Past Self 19:05 Getting Uncomfortable for Growth 20:15 It’s Not as Fun as It Looks (Honest Coachella Experience) 21:04 Social Media vs Reality at Coachella 23:24 Dating Standards, Respect & the Bare Minimum 26:13 Women Are Evolving & Modern Dating Dynamics 30:10 Coachella Stories, Chaos & Fun Moments CONNECT BELOW: follow Britt ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com coachella recap, coachella 2026, coachella experience, festival recap, social media vs reality, inner child healing, self awareness, personal growth podcast, healing journey, working through shame, therapy work, dating standards, modern dating, self respect, emotional growth, mindset, reconnecting with your inner child, women’s self development

#144: On today’s episode, Abby Krage, Co-Founder of Tyrian Health, joins the podcast to talk about women’s health, functional wellness, and UTI prevention, breaking down why so many women normalize chronic discomfort, how antioxidants support overall health, and why going back to basics is often more powerful than relying on quick fixes. Abby also opens up about stepping into leadership through unexpected loss, building confidence from within, and what it really looks like to choose optimism, even in the middle of hard seasons. This episode blends both the physical and mental side of growth, touching on healing, discipline, and learning how to move through challenges in a way that actually moves your life forward. The girls get into: why growth happens in the hardest, most uncomfortable seasons stepping into responsibility after loss confidence as an inside game Developing skills through disciplined learning why optimism is an active choice (sometimes hourly) letting go of control, rejection & learning how to surrender reframing breakups & choosing gratitude over attachment why you really can learn anything if you care enough functional wellness vs. “quick fix” culture going back to basics instead of overcomplicating your health the truth about women’s health & why chronic UTIs are often normalized antioxidants, aronia berry & how they support overall health the reality of our food system & why education is everything breaking big goals into small steps & building real momentum This episode is for anyone who is going through a hard season and needs to be reminded that growth is still happening, for anyone navigating learning a new skill, identity shifts, or for anyone who wants to feel more empowered in their health, mindset, and daily choices; especially, when it comes to understanding your body and not settling for feeling “off” as your baseline. SHOP TYRIAN HERE 00:00 Growth happens in the gutter 01:56 Abby joins the podcast 04:41 Discovering functional wellness 12:50 Mentorship & stepping into the business 13:45 Losing her mentor & everything changing 15:15 Choosing to carry on the mission 16:35 Becoming the person with the answers 18:35 Confidence, belief & achieving anything 20:58 Optimism as a daily practice 21:20 Navigating heartbreak & reframing endings 22:46 Choosing positivity vs. sitting in sadness 23:45 Letting go of control & surrendering 24:52 What is aronia berry? 27:34 Antioxidants & overall health benefits 28:40 Quick fixes vs. going back to basics 29:15 Women’s health & chronic UTIs 33:52 Aronia benefits (immune, brain, longevity) 36:56 The truth about our food system 49:06 Podcasts as mindset shifts 52:15 Small steps vs. the “big picture” overwhelm women’s health, UTI prevention, functional wellness, antioxidants benefits, aronia berry, chronic UTIs, hormone health, preventative health, women’s wellness podcast, confidence mindset, personal growth podcast, health education, natural health solutions CONNECT BELOW: Follow Abby here Follow Tyrian Health here Shop Tyrian here CONNECT with HAN: follow Han ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ follow HOW I SEE IT ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ shop the podcast merch ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ here⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ work with Han: howhanseesit@gmail.com