Love Strategies: Dating and Love Advice for Successful Women

I hear this every single week: "Adam, I only attract narcissists. The good guys just don't exist in my area." And every single time, I tell my clients the same thing - you're wrong. The good guys ARE there. You're just filtering them out before you even give them a chance. Maybe it's because his profile pictures are terrible (spoiler: most guys' are). Maybe he talks too much about work on the first date because he's nervous. Or maybe - and this is the one that gets me - he's actually consistent and reliable, which somehow feels boring compared to the hot-and-cold drama you're used to. If you keep choosing the wrong men and want to finally break that pattern, I've created a free seminar called the Male Mind Map that breaks down exactly why men pull away and how to filter for genuine character instead of surface-level charm. Head to https://go.lovestrategies.com/map to watch it now. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

So how do you know if a man is falling in love with you? Here's the real deal: it has very little to do with his words and much more about his behavior. In this week's episode, Dr. Lewandowski and Adam LoDolce reveal the true signs that a man is falling in love. Originally aired: Oct. 17, 2022 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Look, I get it - you're a high achiever who crushes it at work. But here's the problem: that same intense, outcome-focused energy that makes you successful in the boardroom? It absolutely kills the vibe in the bedroom. In this episode, Gary and I are breaking down 8 psychology-backed strategies to help you step out of hustle mode and into real sensuality and connection. From hacking your hormones to creating the right environment, we're covering the mindset shifts that make intimacy 10 times better. Plus, we're revealing the actual research on how often couples should have sex - and spoiler alert, it's probably not what you think. If you're ready to dive deeper into this work and want personalized guidance, head over to loveapply.com to apply for a complimentary love strategy session with my team. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You’ve been dating for a few months, and everything is GREAT. The start was amazing, and things have only gotten better. You’ve had the Define The Relationship (DTR) talk and are officially exclusive. You’ve made it to exactly where you want to be. But wait... Not so fast. Things have changed. The initial excitement has settled down. He’s not as attentive as he used to be. He seems different...he’s pulling away. Suddenly, there’s a lot to worry about. Is this a real problem or just a typical cool down period? Here are 3 Mistakes Women Make When Men Pull Away Originally aired: May. 26, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Look, I get it. You've been the person everyone leans on - the caretaker, the achiever, the one who always puts herself last. And now you're wondering if real love is even possible at this stage of your life. You've convinced yourself you're not worthy of it, or maybe you've just forgotten how to let someone in. But here's what I know: investing in yourself isn't selfish. It's essential. You went to college, built a career, supported everyone around you. So why not invest in finding the relationship you actually deserve? My clients who take that leap - who show up, do the work, and trust the process - are the ones building real, lasting partnerships. If you're ready to stop settling and start attracting a high-quality man who values you, take my free quiz at lovequiz.com to discover exactly what's blocking you from finding love. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Tired of those awkward first date silences? We've got the ultimate trick that promises to make any conversation sizzle. Uncover the simple yet powerful art of mirroring in today’s brand new podcast. Originally aired: Sep, 30, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

In today’s podcast, we're going beyond the usual clichés and explore four key traits that men genuinely desire but are often overlooked. These traits aren't just about attracting men; they are qualities that anyone can cultivate for their own personal growth and happiness. Originally aired: Dec. 14, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Ghosting hurts - no question. It feels like rejection, and your brain spirals: What did I do wrong? Why wasn't I enough? But here's the reframe that changes everything: ghosting isn't a sign you're losing. It's proof your standards are working. When you raise your standards, you naturally repel low-investment people. They see you won't settle, won't chase, won't bend - and they disappear. Good. That's the system working. Emotionally healthy men don't run from standards; they lean in. The wrong people exit fast. The right person will stay. If you want help protecting yourself through this process and building that ironclad mindset, head to loveapply.com and apply for a love strategy session. We'll show you exactly how to stop chasing and start choosing. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When you're single, striking up conversations with people you find attractive can seem daunting. So, in today's podcast, Dr. Gary Lewandowski breaks down the The Science of Flirting: 7 Ways to Flirt With Confidence Originally aired: May. 30, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

I'll be straight with you: talking yourself into the wrong guy doesn't happen because you're desperate or naive. It happens because you're empathetic, capable, and actually really good at making things work. But those same strengths can become your biggest trap when you're dating someone who isn't showing up the way you deserve. In this episode, Gary and I break down the 4 subtle patterns that make you excuse bad behavior, chase potential instead of reality, and slowly erase yourself to make a relationship work. These aren't the obvious red flags—they're the quiet justifications that keep you stuck for months or even years with the wrong man. If you've ever wondered why you keep choosing guys who don't meet your standards, take the free Attraction Archetype Quiz at attractiontype.com . It'll show you exactly why you're ignoring red flags and where to put your energy so you can finally open your heart to the right guy. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

What if I told you there are incredibly simple yet effective techniques to show interest without uttering a single word? Each of these methods is grounded in scientific research and can catch the attention of someone new or signal your interest to someone you're already seeing. Originally aired: Jan. 05, 2024 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

A man's desire is not proof of his devotion. That single misread is where the confusion, the "slow fade," and the self-blame begin. Once you understand the evolutionary wiring behind male dating behavior, you stop taking his disappearing act personally and start seeing the difference between a man who wants your attention and a man who is ready for your life. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

If you keep decoding mixed signals and second-guessing your standards, this one is for you. I wrote about the quieter, behavioral signs that a man has already decided whether you're short-term or long-term, and how to actually see them. No scripts, no games, just a clearer way to read his effort, his calendar, and your own confusion. If you're ready to stop negotiating with "busy" men and start honoring what you actually want, then listen to this. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Are you ready to dive into the minds of men and discover what truly captures our attention? If so, check out today's podcast: 6 Things Men Notice First in a Woman and Find Massively Attractive. Originally aired: Nov. 26, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Brilliant at work, baffled by dating? For a woman who thinks for a living, "just flirt more" is not advice, it is an insult. In this episode we break down how high-achieving women turn a discouraging love life around without going casual or lowering their standards. Why pacing, structure, and one simple mindset shift matter far more than perfect photos or the right text. If part of you is ready to give up on love, and part of you refuses to, this one is for you. Delicia almost swiped past the man she's about to marry. Watch our free 7 Little Love Steps training to learn the strategy that changed how she dated: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Thanks to the internet, long-distance relationships (LDRs) have become a popular phenomenon. From spousal separations to meeting someone special online, LDRs are now more common than ever before. But how do you make it work? In this podcast, we share personal experiences and expert advice on navigating the challenges of long-distance love. We ask the most important question: Will it work? We discuss the risks involved in investing in a long-distance relationship and the role that distance plays in creating desire. Join us as we explore different scenarios where we might recommend pursuing an LDR, and discuss strategies for making it work. We'll cover topics like quality time versus constant quantity, having a plan to live near each other within a year, and spending more than just a weekend together. Originally aired: Apr. 09, 2023 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

You've done the therapy, read the books, and know exactly what you want. So why do men still pull back just as things get serious? Often it isn't that you're not enough. It's that the intelligence and self-protection driving your career are quietly sabotaging your love life. Stop unintentionally scaring great men away and learn a proven step-by-step dating strategy: https://go.lovestrategies.com/virtual Here are the five invisible behaviors to watch for, and how to trade each one for real connection. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

How do you build desire and make a man miss you? Create scarcity without playing games. In this week's podcast, we discuss (debate) the power of making a man miss you through the dating process. Originally aired: Dec. 18, 2022 NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

Stop wondering if he’s "The One" based on a "vibe" and start using data to find your person. In this episode, we break down the Date Night Debrief, a simple 10-minute strategy rooted in decision-making science to help you stop obsessing and start dating with clarity. Stop overthinking every text and start using our 10-minute post-date debrief to actually see who is worth your time. Learn a Male Mind Map: https://go.lovestrategies.com/map NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session

When I started looking at why so many accomplished women stayed stuck in love, the patterns were uncomfortably familiar: comforting beliefs, overprotective friend circles, and a quiet refusal to be a beginner at anything. In this episode, I walk through the specific mindset shifts that actually move the needle, without asking you to shrink or pretend to be “less.” If you’ve ever wondered whether your success is secretly working against you in dating, you may find the real answer both confronting and relieving. And more importantly, you’ll see exactly where your power has been all along. NEXT STEP: Book a complimentary Love Strategy Session and let us help you attract love this year: https://go.lovestrategies.com/session