Turned On With Sue And John

What do you do when you have a hard time getting hard? Or staying hard? Today, we talk about it. Including new treatments, and how commonplace erection medications are on porn sets, and at swinger clubs. In this week's swinger segment we'll get into why some men can't get hard even in that environment, and, as a bonus, we have a conversation about the couple's crush. Sue and John will offer insight into why porn can impact your dick, and why your boss may be more to blame for not being able to get it up than your partner is. What weakens erections and what men can do to make them harder and more reliable, and why playing with your partner's flaccid penis can be a LOT of fun! For both of you! Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlfe links: @ TurnedOnPodcast @MistressInCharge @Megahurts Sue on TikTok: @s3xwithsue.swingdateguru Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Hey it's Sue and John - your guides today on how to better your odds of ending up in bed with someone you are attracted to! A 40 minute conversation that covers that space between flirting and spending the night together. We'll reveal where most people either freeze, fumble or accidentally kill the mood. And we offer some tips on how to avoid those pitfalls, and how to lean into your awkwardness as a super power! Think about what song you'd strip to for someone you're trying to seduce, because Sue will teach you and incredible three minute strip tease! You know those people who seem to have game every day and every night? What if YOU knew how to do that? After this conversation, you'll have some things to try! Oh, and guys... Bridgerton. There aren't many places you can go to get better lessons on seduction that Bridgerton. You have your homework! For our swinger friends (hi!), why swingers may be more sexually confident. Swinging isn't always a guaranteed romp. Swingers have learned to deal with rejection, but they also have learned how communication, articulating desires, flirting and confidence can lead to incredible connections! Sue has an entire list of seduction secrets she'll share with you on this episode, and we walk you through how to handle it when things go sideways and sex doesn't happen. We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com - including links to our Kinky Confessions, how to subscribe to Sue's newsletter, even products Sue recommends on our new Amazon store! On Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast Sue on Fetlife: @ MistressInCharge John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Questions for John: funwithmilkman@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today we bring you inside a BDSM dungeon! It's an enormous space, in a very small community, in small town New Brunswick Canada! We'll introduce you to Mistress Aaliyah and Her husband Chuck, who is also the dungeon master. In just a few short years they turned their lifestyle into a space that attracts people from across Canada, the USA and around the world. From BDSM sessions to swinger events and incredible adult lifestyle parties, Mistress and Chuck will introduce you to this converted warehouse that started as the location for their custom auto shop. If you've ever wondered if you could work as a Pro Domme, Mistress will tell you some of the things you need to know about that line of work. From what you need to get started to what skill sets you need to have. This is an eye opener and a very fun conversation! See the Warehouse for yourself online at www.thewarehousenb.ca Plus... Sue has a conversation with one of our listeners, Copper Delight, who took us up on our invitation to have you, the listener, help answer some of the questions other listeners have. Today, she and Sue go through several questions we received recently about the Swinger lifestyle - it's fun to get a new perspective! Find us online at www.turnedonpodcast.com And on Fetlfe: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today... Meet a gigolo! Sue speaks to an Australian man who makes a living catering to the sexual needs and desires of women. It's a very usual occupation, and we'll explore who the woman are that use his service. This week we also guide you through what to expect if and when you visit a sex worker for the first time. It can be overwhelming, but we hope the right information helps you enjoy your experience a lot more. On our So You're A Swinger segment this week, we look at paid intimacy vs the lifestyle. We also hear from a listener who wants to gain experience with women but doesn't quite know where to begin. He also doesn't want to be arrested. And... Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week is all about electro stimulation! (Hint: One of us REALLY loves it!) And... It's our first ever installment of our weekly "soap opera" As The World Turns On... Your questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Our Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Welcome to the 200th episode of Turned On With Sue And John! Our friendship began when we both worked at the same radio station in 1992. John was a music DJ and Sue hosted a nationally syndicated, call in show about all things sex, including countless phone calls from people with questions that they were too shy to ask anyone else. Today, we discuss the sex questions everyone is REALLY asking in 2026 - including the differences between sex then and now, the sex advice that people get that is, to be blunt, bullshit and so much more. We address questions from our friends in the swinger community as they continue to explore, we address porn and toys, erectile dysfunction, and sex as you get older. This entire hour is devoted to the questions we get from you every week. And that has been, is, and always will be Sue's goal; to answer your questions, provide you with answers based on research and experience, and to make you know, without a shadow of a doubt, that you are not alone in your likes, your wants, your desires. Thanks for being with us for 200+ conversations! Here's to 200 more! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Sue's Newsletter: www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife (including his latest latex pics from this weekend) @ Megahurts Sue on Fetlife @ MistressInCharge Sue's email: sue@sexwithsue.com John's email: funwithmilkman@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's show #199! This week - Weird kinks. Or what we something believe are weird, until we meet others who share it. We'll explore the museum of unusual turn ons... From bug sex to human furniture and more! Listener questions this week include someone wondering if you can be too good at oral sex, and another person asking Sue to define chemistry. They find it confusing. For our swinger friends.... Why science still can't explain our lifestyle! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Next week... Our 200th episode! We can't wait! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This week we're going straight at the biggest lie we've all been told: that sex after 40 is a slow fade to nothing. It's not. It's a total rewrite — and most people never bother to read the new rules. What's On This Week's Show The Biggest Lie About Sex After 40: That your libido is supposed to disappear, that ED means it's over, that menopause ends great sex. None of it's true. We break down where the panic actually comes from — and it's not your body. Sue's Sassy Sex Secret — The Nipple Map: Here's something almost nobody's tested: your nipples probably aren't twins, they're siblings with completely different personalities. Tonight's homework — become a detective. Two minutes, one finger, five techniques, a score out of 10. You'll probably be shocked which side wins. Why Afternoon Sex Is Underrated: Morning's unreliable. Night you're exhausted. Afternoon? Lower stress, warmer body, medication's kicked in. Maybe your libido didn't disappear — maybe you've just been making love at the worst possible time. So You're a Swinger — The World's Least Likely Rule Breakers: Half the room looks like they just finished helping at a school fundraiser. Turns out swingers have more rules than a hockey league, and most of them are more pro-marriage than the couples judging them. Dear Sue: "Are bi-curious guys welcome at swing events?" And: does pineapple actually change the taste of semen? We answer both. Honestly. As always. PLUS: Sue's exclusive interview with DD White, a 72 year old great grandmother who is not only having great sex, but, together with her husband, has no starred in, and produced over 200 adult titles! DDWhiteXX.com and AllMyLinks.com/ddwhite263 to learn more. Questions for Sue? sue@sexwithsue.com Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us of Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife @ Megahurts Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue is back from Swingathon UK with a first hand account of this growing swinger festival, plus details of Naughty N'Awlins which was also a HUGE success! And, we dive into what is NEW in the world of swinging, or ENM or any of the newer "lables" being attached to the lifestyle. Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week helps you with squirting! Some tricks to encourage more fluid. We also answer the question, "Does non-monogamy drive us or are we just bored?" Sue will get you all caught up with the most fun an interesting stories about sex that have been in the news recently and we answer two listener questions - one from someone wondering if they are at risk of being "stretched out" by their very large handed partner... And another, from an exotic dancer who would like our opinions on how people view sex workers... And a request for John to sing more? Ummmm what? Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Questions for John: funwithmilkman@gmail.com Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @ Megahurts Thanks for getting Turned On With Sue And John Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Sue McGarvie has been talking sex on the radio, in seminars, and in print since the early 90s! And now on this podcast - Turned On With Sue And John - the sex education you WISH someone would have pulled you aside and given you decades ago. This week... Pleasure! And why receiving is harder than giving. We'll talk about getting out of your head and getting into sex while GIVING, we'll talk about the science of pleasure and why it matters, and why, when it comes to receiving pleasure, so many people are not able to just let go. For our swinger friends this week: The lifestyle runs on reputation. Some of the things you need to know before you are "that" person. And we answer two questions from you, our audience including someone who is now finding video sex with their partner to be a little "same ol', same ol'" and wants some help to change things up. And our second question deals with someone expressing the need for foreplay, while their partner just wants to get in and get out. We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com - get in touch, send a voice note, subscribe to our newsletter, listen to past episodes and more! And on Fetlife we are @ TurnedOnPodcast (John on FL is @ Megahurts) Your questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What is the best kind of sex? This week on Turned On With Sue and John we’ll help you answer that, including a list of the 10 best kinds, according to therapists around the world. Plus, we’ll discuss some types of sex that you may not believe are good, although, they actually are! Sue’s Sassy Sex Secret this weekdays with Spectatoring is the act of overthinking sex while having sex. And listener questions this week seek Sue’s advice on how to deal with, what they call “a broken clit” and another person wants to know if it’s normal to sneeze (a lot) when she is close to orgasm. And, for our upside down pineapple friends - The things that surprise the “vanillas!” It’s time to get Turned On With Sue And John www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahertz Sue’s email: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1... 2... 3... How many sex partners have you had? Don't answer that. Because, the reality is, it doesn't matter. Your sexual history isn't a report card, or a scoreboard. Today Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie and John discuss "The Body Count." Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week: The "Pulse and Pause" Edging Hack For swingers, a conversation with Bob from Naughty N'awlins plus... Hollywood Gets the Lifestyle Wrong. Again. And in sex in the news: The "wholesome" creator with more than 2,500 partners, and our friend Bonnie Blue is back in the news! Always pushing boundaries, always making headlines, and always fun to talk about! And Raven from the Adult Fun Superstore introduces you to her sex toy pick of the week - The Stroker / Main Squeeze from Doc Johnson! (www.adultfun dot ca) To connect with us: Website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife: @TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @Megahurts Email Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com To subscribe to Sue's Newsletter: https://www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

There is so much bad sex advice out there. And, sadly, a lot of people hear it, try it and things end up worse than they were. Sex With Sue's, Sue McGarvie has been a leading expert on this since the early 90s and on today's episode of Turned On With Sue And John, she addresses a lot of the bad advice, and sets the record straight on what DOES work! Including new sex ideas to hear things up and the wet and wild upgrade using fruits! And she'll introduce you to the "gum job" a candy that actually helps you give a better blow job! We're also going to send Hollywood to the naughty corner because a lot of what it has taught us is just... Well... Hollywood fiction. For our swinger friends - a new mega-swinger-centre is being built - we'll tell you where and we'll also tell you how to explore it FREE! You're welcome! This week's sex in the news includes a man arrested for stealing and then trying to re-sell boner pills at one of the largest swinger hot spots in the world, and a strongman who not only pulled car with his dick, he did it while his dick was on fire. And, a question about face sitting from someone worried that her partner may suffocate. Finally, our friends from the Adult Fun Superstore in Ottawa Canada (adultfun dot ca) introduce us to the new Delightful Vulva And Breast Pump from Shots! We're online @ www.turnedonpodcast.com On Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahurts Email Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Have you ever just been in the presence of someone, even just in passing, and get an undeniable, overwhelming feeling of desire for them? Instantly? Today's conversation is all about lust. Merrium-Webster defines it as: usually intense or unbridled sexual desire : lasciviousness an intense longing : craving to have an intense desire or need : crave specifically : to have a sexual urge We'll also reveal what sex workers have to say about the subject. Sue's experienced lust. John too. Have you? Tell us your story of lust at our links below! Also today... We dispel some swinger myths - and there are a lot of them! We talk to the team at Lelo about some of their incredible toys, and Raven from The Adult Fun Superstor (adultfun.ca) introduces you to her toy of the week - the Aluna Femme Fun! Plus - The three secrets that will make your sex life better immediately, sex in the news this week and loads more of the sex education you wish someone would have given you years ago! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com (subscribe to Sue's newsletter, send your questions, rate our podcast and more) Turned On on Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahurts Sue's email: sue@sexwithsue.com John's email: turnedonsuejohn@gmail.com Cover Photo: Photo by Klara Kulikova on Unsplash https://unsplash.com/@kkalerry?utm_source=unsplash&utm_medium=referral&utm_content=creditCopyText Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The flowing hair, the six pack abs, the tall dark and handsome figure who looks like he belongs on the cover of a romance novel... He is not what women really want. We'll even take a huge dick and fat wallet out of the equation. Today, Sex With Sue's Sue McGarvie reveals the things that women REALLY want from a man. We'll dive into "Looksmaxing" and even "dickmaxing" on this episode. Also today, the exit strategy for swingers, because sometimes you've had enough of the lifestyle, need to take a break, or have discovered that it's just not for you anymore. You always hear about how to get IN, but how do you gracefully find your way out? We even get you caught up on sex in the news - including the latest about sex in space, 83 year old Iris is banging a lot of younger men, a new survey looks at what is ruining things in the bedroom for Canadians, and outdated sex laws that are still on the books in the USA right now. And our friends at The Adult Fun Superstore introduce us to the latest a fun, new toy for couples from WeVibe! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com On Fetlife: @TurnedOnPodcast Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today’s oral presentation is all about… Oral! We’ll introduce you to Jasmine, who partnered with Sue last weekend for an entire workshop devoted to oral sex! As a working professional, she’ll let you in on all kinds of tips (pardon the pun) and tricks! Sue also discusses some of the biggest oral sex myths on this episode as well as her “sassy sex secret” of the week; the frozen grape trick! This sounds SOOOO fun! For our swinger friends, we get into all the things swinging has taught us, and others in the lifestyle. If you’re new to swinging, these are some of the things you’ll experience as you play more! Some incredible questions from YOU again this week. One listener cannot visualize things in their mind and wants to know if that’s normal. We promise you, it is, and we have some work-arounds for you to try! Another listener is frustrated trying to orgasm, often spending up to an hour with no success. They’d like Sue’s recipe for “scream cream” please. Sue happily shares that today. Finally, we address some comments found on Reddit on the topic of oral sex and also what research has to say on the matter! Sue’s Newsletter: https://www.turnedonpodcast.com/newsletter Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Our website: https://www.turnedonpodcast.com Us on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: https://fetlife.com/Megahurts And our friends at the Adult Fun Superstore: www.adultfun.ca Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Perhaps you see more of it because of the algorithm... Especially if you're in the lifestyle already and tend to search a lot of content on ethical non monogamy. But, swinging does seem to be much more common online and in the public discourse than ever. Has it become TOO mainstream? We dive into that today. Also this week, listeners ask if their love of seeing sweaty women at the gym is unusual, loads of questions about grooming in advance of a live seminar Sue is conducting this week about oral sex, and another listener wants to know about swinger burnout. Sue will also let you in on what she'd include in your summer sex festival survival pack, and on her Sassy Sex Secrets it's the $4 Hardware Store / Drug Store toy that you can't pass up! Plus, the gang at the Adult Fun Superstore in Ottawa Canada introduce us to the toy their employees chose as this week's staff pick! Subscribe to Sue's newsletter and hear every episode of Turned On at www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife: TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: Megahurts Questions for Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

What makes you feel desired? A touch? A text? Holding hands? Today we talk about how to open up to your partner about what YOU need from them in order to feel desired... And sexy! On this episode we offer up some examples of questions you can ask them, or even ask yourself in order to start getting more of what you need in order to feel connected. Sue will also give you 10 Desire Builders; things you can put into practice to develop that closer bond, and we'll discuss the things that men and women want when it comes to desire. They're not always the same, and, some of the things you have been doing to express your desire, may not be things that your partner even recognizes as your love language. On our "So You're A Swinger" segment this week, we'll help you go from chatting to scoring at the next swinger event you attend. PLUS - John shares details of his tour of what he calls "the most perfect, elegant, and fully equipped exclusive lifestyle club" he's ever seen! Indulgence VIP in Owen Sound, Ontario Canada. https://www.indulgencevip.com This is a fun conversation that we hope helps you have some fun conversations of your own this week! Thanks for getting Turned On With Sue And John! Our website: www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife: @ TurnedOnPodcast (show) | @ Megahurts (John) Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com John: turnedonsuejohn@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Ballmaxing. It was the subject of an article published a few days ago that caught our attention and it's something Sue gets a lot of questions about. For a variety of reasons, people love to experiment with their privates! From injecting saline into the balls, to inserting sounding instruments into the urethra, to weights, to rings, to pills and countless other things that many find make things feel oh-so-much-better. We'll even share some of the things people on Reddit have admitted they're into or have tried. A Barbie arm? Really? Really! For our swingers this week, a talk about bio-hacking to be a player.... And a look at some of the weird things that are bound to happen in the lifestyle. Sue's Sexy Sex Secret this week: the fake exit and other things that will get you smacked or have the O of your life. Online: www.turnedonpodcast.com On Fetlife: @TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @Megahurts Sue: sue@sexwithsue.com John: turnedonpodcast@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

It's a hot topic on Reddit right now... How awkward and weird humans are about our sexual desires, kinks, and behaviors around sex. On this episode we get into WHY we're so weird. From how we eroticize, literally, everything from spread sheets to bed sheets, to aliens. We discuss what it is that attracts so many of us to people who many would refer to as "the crazy ones" and our weird sex quirks. For our swinger friends, a conversation about herpes and Sue's Sexy Sex Secret this week introduces you to the KIVIN METHOD. And, we have a VERY fun guest on the show today - Ted Buras - creator of CollabGPS , a creator networking app designed to help content creators find collaborators, plan shoots and manage projects. CollabGPS.com | TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@collabgps | IG: https://www.instagram.com/collabgps | X: https://x.com/collabgps And find us on your preferred podcast platform, on Youtube and on Fetlife @TurnedOnPodcast - our website where you can subscribe to Sue's newsletter, interact with the show, and read hundreds of kinky confession from our listeners is www.turnedonpodcast.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Today, in a nutshell, we're going to address why most sex feels... Fine... But not amazing. You're going to get amazing tips on how to slow things down, how to connect better, and by the end of this episode you'll have incredible tools to put to use to better understand why your body responds the way it does before, during and after sex, and Sue will even set you up with 14 things you can do to up your pleasure all over. We answer two incredible questions from you, our listener/viewer this week. One person wants to know about post-orgasm clarity, and another is looking for tips on how to manage their sexual energy so that nobody in their dynamic feels short changed. Sue's Sassy Sex Secret this week is a tip she learned from the other "Sex With Sue" Sue Johansen... It's the Pulse & Peanut Butter Trick! For our swinger friends, this week's So You're A Swinger Segment is an absolute eye opener - The laundry list. The things you should discuss after every lifestyle encounter and WHEN you should discuss them. This is invaluable! Thank you clubm4.com in Toronto for partnering with us for our swinger segments! Plus - we have two of the HOTTEST Kinky Confessions we've ever received on this show! WARNING: Your panties will get wet. You may want to remove them now as a preventative measure. This and so much more on the podcast that gives you the sex education you wish someone pulled you aside years ago and gave you! We're online at www.turnedonpodcast.com Fetlife: @TurnedOnPodcast John on Fetlife: @Megahurts Sue: www.sexwithsue.com Email: sue@sexwithsue.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.