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Most men who are miserable in their work do not leave. They stay. They push through. They tell themselves it could be worse. They carry on because that is what men do. Robin Waite ran his marketing agency for twelve years. It was successful. It paid for his first house. It looked good from the outside. On the inside he was completely and utterly miserable. In this mini episode from Safe Harbour, Robin shares what happened the day everything changed. A Sunday cycle ride. A descent at 52.5 miles an hour. The adrenaline wearing off at the bottom of the hill. And then floods of tears that he could not explain to his cycling mates. He ended up alone near a railway line just to process. And in that moment of complete stillness, stripped of everything, he made a decision. He was done. The next day he sat his team of four around the boardroom table and told them he was closing the agency. Immediately. What happened next is one of the most quietly beautiful moments in the whole episode. And then Jamie shares something that every man who has ever taken a leap into the unknown will recognise. The universe has a habit of catching you when you fall backwards. But you have to fall first. In this mini episode we explore: What it feels like to run a successful business while being completely miserable inside The breaking point that comes when a man has been pushing too long in the wrong direction Why the most important decisions in life often come from the most unexpected moments of stillness What Robin found sitting alone near a railway line with his daughter three weeks from being born The team who said we were just waiting for the when not the if — and what that revealed about the man Robin actually is Why regret about presence with your first child is one of the most common things men carry Stepping into the not knowing, why the hardest part is always the leap not the landing Andy's Man Club and why walking through a door you are scared of is the same as every other leap What happens when life figures it out for you after you finally make the decision If you are a man who knows he is in the wrong place but cannot seem to find the courage to step away, this is the episode to watch today. Robin Waite is a business coach, speaker, author and founder of Fearless Business. He helps coaches, consultants and freelancers package their offers, price with confidence and build more profitable businesses. He is also the host of The Fearless Business Podcast and author of books including Take Your Shot, Online Business Startup and Fearless Pricing.

This is not a preachy episode. This is a curious conversation.If you've ever wondered whether alcohol is costing you more than you're admitting, this is the conversation to have. And if you're certain it isn't? This one's especially for you. Rich is almost five and a half years sober. Ben is just over three. Between them they've been through it, really through it, and come out the other side as two of the most honest, warm and clear-eyed voices on the subject of men and alcohol that Jamie has had on Safe Harbour. Rich's story involves lockdown, losing everything, a back bedroom in North London, a message on an iPad he never finished, and a Zoom meeting that changed the direction of his life. Ben's starts with a hair transplant consultation, and ends with him being more present, more connected, and more himself than he's ever been. Neither story is what you expect. Both are completely real.If alcohol is quietly costing you something, a relationship, your sleep, your mornings, your presence with your kids, your self-respect, this conversation is for you. And if you're not sure whether it's costing you anything at all, this conversation is especially for you.

Jamie Robins is joined by James Sutton, actor, and founder of Protocol, for one of the most honest conversations on Safe Harbour yet. A raw, grounded discussion about identity, work, addiction recovery, masculinity, self-trust, and what it actually takes to rebuild yourself when the thing that defined you is gone. James Sutton spent over 20 years in some of the UK's most recognised TV dramas Hollyoaks, Emmerdale, Casualty, Holby City, Doctors, and Trial and Retribution. Behind that career was a man quietly working out who he really was. Getting off drugs and alcohol. Building real structure. Learning to trust himself again. He now runs Protocol, a reset system for men built on lived experience, not theory. Jamie opens up too. Sitting at the end of the bed crying every winter, trapped in a career he hated. Falling through his front door on his hands and knees after a week-long retreat saying "I don't know who I am anymore." And what it actually took to finally make the leap. In this episode of Safe Harbour, Jamie and James explore identity, purpose, male mental health, addiction, masculinity, self-trust, dopamine, loneliness, working class roots, and why the old blueprint for being a man is quietly failing so many of us. In this episode, Jamie and James talk about: James Sutton and the story behind Protocol Twenty years in UK TV drama and who he was behind the scenes Getting off drugs and alcohol and building real structure Why so many men outsource their entire sense of value to a job What happens when that job disappears The old blueprint for masculinity and why it's failing men Male suicide, what's really driving it and what men actually need The wrong order most men try to do it in Self-trust as a foundation, and how breaking small promises compounds Protocol: what it is, how it works, and why it's post-self-help Why motivation is transient and what to build instead The dopamine problem and what social media is quietly doing to men No male rite of passage: what young men are missing and what it's costing them James Sutton Website: https://www.thejamessutton.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thejamesutton TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thejamessutton Jamie Robins Website: https://www.jamiecoach.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jamie_mens_coach TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@jamie_mens_coach Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jamierobinscoach YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@jamierobinscoach Free resources: https://pensight.com/x/free-download Foundation Sessions: https://www.jamiecoach.com/services

Jamie Robins is joined by Johno Verity , creator of Dawn of History and known online as the Pink Hat Guy , for a powerful and funny conversation about London cycling, viral storytelling, turning 50, getting older, fatherhood, enoughness and what it means to live life on your own terms. Johno has built a huge online following by cycling through London at dawn in his pink hat, sharing stories about London history, hidden places, buildings, people and the strange magic of being awake while the city is still quiet. In this episode of Safe Harbour , Jamie and Johno explore much more than social media. They talk about midlife, masculinity, mental health, status, money, comparison, phones, getting outside, the two-day rule, and why so many men reach their forties and fifties realising they may have been chasing the wrong version of success. This is a conversation about London, history and cycling, but it is also about getting older, finding enough, choosing freedom, and asking what really matters in the next chapter of life. Topics include Johno Verity, Dawn of History, the Pink Hat Guy, London cycling, London history, turning 50, getting older, midlife men, men’s mental health, masculinity, social media, viral videos, fatherhood, enoughness, purpose, anxiety, overthinking, the two-day rule, and living life differently. In this episode, Jamie and Johno talk about: Johno Verity and the story behind Dawn of History How Johno became known as the Pink Hat Guy Cycling through London at dawn Why London history has captured such a huge online audience Going viral on Instagram and social media Turning 50 and getting older as a man Midlife, masculinity and men’s mental health Caring less what people think Money, success, status and comparison Why so many men are chasing “more” The power of having enough Jamie’s two-day rule for overthinking and anxiety Getting outside when you feel stuck Phones, scrolling and mental clarity Fatherhood and unconventional life lessons Being a pilgrim rather than a tourist in life Choosing freedom over convention Why movement creates better conversations Johno Verity Creator of Dawn of History Known online as The Pink Hat Guy Instagram: @johnoverity YouTube: Johno Verity Website: johnoverity.com Creator enquiries: gemmaknoxconsulting@gmail.com Host Details Jamie Robins Men’s Coach and Host of Safe Harbour Jamie Robins works with men in midlife who feel stuck, flat, overwhelmed, or disconnected from themselves. Through coaching, conversations and community, Jamie helps men rebuild clarity, confidence, emotional honesty and direction. Website: jamiecoach.com TikTok: @jamie_mens_coach Podcast: Safe Harbour

In this episode of Safe Harbour , Jamie Robins sits down with Swedish mental performance coach Tommy Davidovic , creator of The Flow Mindset , for a powerful conversation about pressure, performance, failure, fatherhood, and the emotional lives of men. What begins as a conversation about athletes and mindset becomes something much deeper: how men handle fear, why we chase outcomes, what it means to surrender to the process, and why unconditional love for ourselves might be one of the hardest and most important skills we ever learn. This is an honest, funny, and deeply human conversation for any man who has ever felt pressure to perform, hold it together, or keep moving without stopping to ask, “What do I actually need?” In This Episode We Talk About Why athletes and high performers often struggle under pressure The difference between chasing outcomes and trusting the process How fear of failure affects performance, relationships, and confidence Tommy’s Flow Mindset method Why presence is essential for flow The role of dopamine, focus, and stress in performance Jamie’s “two-day rule” for anxiety and overthinking Why surrender is not giving up How men avoid discomfort through busyness, alcohol, distraction, or control Fatherhood and how becoming a dad changes a man Why many men are scared of their own emotions The power of unconditional love and self-compassion What our younger selves might need from us today Guest Bio Tommy Davidovic is a Sweden-based mental performance coach, former athlete, and creator of The Flow Mindset . He works primarily with athletes, helping them strengthen the mental side of performance so they can handle pressure, reduce overthinking, and perform more consistently. Tommy’s approach combines neuroscience, physiology, psychology, coaching, and philosophy. In the episode, he describes his work as helping people change the way they relate to pressure, outcomes, fear, and performance, rather than simply fixing surface-level problems. Tommy is also a Certified Co-Active Coach, Professional Certified Coach, Certified Team Performance Coach, and creator of The Flow Mindset Method. His website describes The Flow Mindset as mental training for athletes who want to perform with more consistency under pressure. Guest Contact Details Tommy Davidovic Mental Performance Coach / Creator of The Flow Mindset Website: tommydavidovic.se Instagram: @tommy.davidovic LinkedIn: Tommy Davidovic For athletes and high performers interested in Tommy’s work, visit his website and explore The Flow Mindset and his mental performance coaching programmes. Host Details Jamie Robins Men’s Coach / Host of Safe Harbour Jamie works with men in midlife who feel stuck, flat, overwhelmed, or disconnected from who they really are. Through coaching, conversations, and community, he helps men rebuild clarity, confidence, emotional honesty, and direction. Website: jamiecoach.com TikTok: @jamie_mens_coach Podcast: Safe Harbour This is a conversation about performance, but really, it’s about being human. And for men who have spent years holding it all together, it might be exactly the conversation they need.

Jamie Robins and Sam Adams explore the themes of winter, isolation, masculinity, and the importance of intimacy and community among men. They discuss the challenges men face in acknowledging their loneliness and the societal pressures that contribute to this isolation. The conversation emphasizes the need for men to embrace vulnerability, build intimate friendships, and redefine masculinity in a way that fosters connection and support. Practical steps are offered to combat isolation and encourage men to take action towards building meaningful relationships.takeaways Winter is a time for reflection and rest. Men often struggle with the concept of intimacy. Loneliness is a significant issue for many men. Healthy masculinity involves consent and listening. Building close friendships is essential for emotional health. Discipline can help combat feelings of isolation. Engaging in community activities fosters connection. Boredom can lead to self-discovery and reflection. Action is necessary to overcome anxiety and isolation. Men should actively seek opportunities for connection. Winter Reflections: Embracing the Season of Rest Breaking the Silence: Men's Loneliness and Isolation "Give yourself permission to rest." "Boredom is an existential pain point." "We need to shake things up a bit." 00:00Introduction and Connection 03:05Embracing Winter: A Time for Reflection 05:46The Challenge of Isolation 12:09Understanding Loneliness in Men 18:08The Importance of Intimacy 24:12Redefining Masculinity 30:02The Role of Community 36:08Practical Steps to Combat Isolation 42:01Conclusion and Call to Action Sam Adams www.liberatingmasculinity.co.uk IG and TT @samadams_wildman Masculinity training, coaching and events Jamie Robins www.jamiecoach.com The term " NEET " (pronounced "neets") is an acronym for "Not in Education, Employment, or Training," describing young people (usually 16-24) who are idle in the labor market, meaning they aren't studying, working, or learning a trade, often highlighting a societal issue of youth disengagement, with recent UK data showing more young men falling into this category.

In this episode of Safe Harbour, host Jamie, a professional men's coach, welcomes his new friend Jeion for a heartfelt conversation on men's mental health and the search for meaning in a challenging world. They discuss the impact of societal expectations, the journey towards self-awareness, and practical steps men can take to improve their mental well-being. From joining men's groups and practicing daily check-ins to exploring spiritual paths and the importance of openness, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable advice for men seeking connection and purpose. 00:00 Welcome to Safe Harbour 01:09 Meet Jeion: A New Mate 01:19 Ian's Journey and Career 04:51 The Struggles of Modern Men 06:31 The Search for Fulfillment 10:30 Exploring Spiritual Paths 17:00 The Role of Men's Groups 22:30 Practical Steps for Men 28:04 Understanding the Arc of Time 28:30 The Role of Men's Groups 30:12 Practical Steps for Personal Growth 30:54 The Power of Openness and Connection 34:33 The WhatsApp Check-In Practice4 3:50 Encouragement to Take Action 45:59 Final Thoughts and Farewell Connect with Jamie | Men's Life Coach If today’s episode landed with you, if something stirred, clicked, or made you stop and think, don’t keep it to yourself. Let's talk it through... 🌍 Website : www.jamiemenscoach.com 📱 TikTok : @jamiemenscoach 📸 Instagram : @jamiemenscoach 🧭 Tools, Courses + Resources : pensight.com/jamiemenscoach https://www.menspeak.co.uk/ Want to talk it through? If you’re feeling stuck, lost in the noise, or just ready to get moving again, book a free coaching conversation with me here: www.jamiemenscoach.com/book No pitch. No pressure. Just space to breathe, reflect, and figure out what needs to shift. Best places to find Jeion Nejad Facebook.com/jeion Instagram: @new_game_jeion Website: www.sammysturgess.com

In this episode of Safe Harbor, Jamie, a professional men's coach, welcomes his good friend and fellow coach, Richard Jones, for a candid conversation around a metaphorical fire. They discuss the challenges of male vulnerability, particularly in the context of the recent COVID-19 pandemic and its lingering social anxieties. The discussion touches on the importance of being open and vulnerable in friendships and the benefits of improv and circling exercises. Jamie shares his journey with social media, emphasizing how platforms like TikTok can provide instant support to men in need. Throughout the conversation, they advocate for breaking the cycle of emotional suppression in men and provide insights into somatic coaching and emotional intelligence. 00:00 Welcome to Safe Harbor 00:45 Introducing Richard Jones 01:33 The Impact of COVID on Vulnerability 02:18 Struggles with Social Reconnection 03:00 The Importance of Safe Spaces 13:30 The Urge to Fix Problems 16:08 Exploring Improv and Circling 22:43 First Impressions and Intimidation 23:21 The Importance of Sharing Feelings 23:55 Curiosity in Coaching 24:21 Somatic Coaching and Emotional Intelligence 25:24 Navigating Social Interactions 26:20 ADHD and Decision Making 28:21 The Power of Social Media 30:52 The Impact of Vulnerability 39:10 Breaking the Cycle for Future Generations 41:02 Concluding Thoughts and Farewell

Embracing Vulnerability & Connection - Christopher Veal In this episode of Safe Harbour, with the challenge of a dodgy Internet connection... Host Jamie Robins and guest Christopher Veal engage in a heartfelt conversation about the importance of vulnerability and connection for men. They discuss the challenges men face in seeking help, the significance of emotional intelligence, and how to navigate grief and personal growth. Through their personal experiences and reflections, they explore how societal norms and personal narratives shape male behavior, and the importance of authentic connections for emotional well-being. They also touch on the role of fathers in modeling healthy behaviors for their children. As the episode unfolds, they emphasize the need for men to support each other, seek therapy without stigma, and embrace their full emotional spectrum. The episode concludes with a mention of Christopher’s upcoming book on inclusive leadership. 00:00 Introduction to Safe Harbor Podcast 01:22 Meet Christopher Veal 02:49 Discussing Vulnerability and Grief 09:22 The Importance of Connection 15:48 Self-Reflection and Personal Growth 18:29 Navigating Fatherhood and Personal Growth 18:50 The Importance of Therapy and Friendship 20:17 Breaking the Stigma Around Men's Mental Health 23:18 Emotional Intelligence and Gender Norms 26:14 Modeling Healthy Masculinity for the Next Generation 29:06 The Role of Accountability and Integrity 31:28 Upcoming Projects and Reflections 33:13 Conclusion and Final Thoughts Book a Complimentary Coaching session with Jamie https://jamiecoach.com Instagram @jamie_mens_coach Christopher Veal A former Marine officer, combat veteran, and black man with 25 years of experience in talent development, Christopher supports leaders to embrace the vulnerability, courage, and compassion required in elevating their leadership influence and creating leaders with greater impact and results. He has worked in government, healthcare, tech, and banking to help grow internal leadership talent and capacity. He is the author of The Whole Man , and host of The Vulnerable Man podcast.LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopherveal/ The Whole Man: https://www.wholemanjourney.com/ The Vulnerable Man podcast: https://www.vulnerable-man.com/

Navigating Fatherhood & Modern Masculinity - Ken Mossman In this episode of Safe Harbor, host Jamie welcomes Ken Mossman, a seasoned men's coach, to discuss the complexities and realities of modern fatherhood and masculinity. They delve into the importance of having real conversations with your children, the impact of social media on relationships, and the cultural loss of eldership and rites of passage. They also touch on the challenges of guiding young men in a world filled with negative influences. Through personal anecdotes and professional insights, Jamie and Ken offer a heartfelt dialogue on what it means to be a man today. 00:00 Introduction to Safe Harbor Podcast 01:40 Welcoming Ken Mossman 03:12 The Importance of Eldership 07:09 Dad's Camp and Fatherhood 11:56 Challenges Facing Young Men Today 20:52 The Role of Rites of Passage 25:06 Creating Open Conversations with Kids 32:52 Ken's Personal Story on Parenting 37:47 Conclusion and IAM Program 39:20 Closing Remarks and Call to Action You can reach can on the following links below: Website IAM Podcast LinkedIn IAM LinkedIn FaceBook

Radical Changes and Nature Connection with Sam Adams In this episode of Safe Harbor, host Jamie welcomes guest Sam Adams who shares an extraordinary personal journey of transformation. After a near-fatal accident, Sam made a significant life change from landscaping to becoming a nature connection guide and personal development coach. Highlights include Sam's courageous decision to follow his calling, the importance of rewilding in modern society, and practical insights into deepening one's connection with nature. The episode also explores the unique challenges and therapeutic benefits of reconnecting with nature, especially for urban dwellers. Jamie and Sam discuss the critical need for men to embrace both their masculinity and femininity, providing inspiration for men to lead more authentic and connected lives. Sam shares his upcoming projects and events with First Men, a nature-based men's group focused on personal growth and rewilding practices. 00:00 A Near-Death Experience and a Wake-UpCall 00:39 Welcome to Safe Harbor Podcast 01:29 Introducing Sam Adams 02:01 Sam's Radical Honesty and Life Transition 02:54 The Courage to Follow Your Calling 04:39 The Pilgrimage and New Beginnings 05:34 Launching the Nature Connection Coaching 06:32 Jamie and Sam's Shared Experiences 09:26 Embracing the Death of Old Ventures 11:36 The Importance of Nature Connection 22:46 Challenges and Solutions in Reconnecting with Nature 31:27 First Men: A Unique Men's Retreat 34:16 Conclusion and Farewell Jamie Robins Coaching www.jamiecoach.com Instagram @jamie_mens_coach You can contact Sam on the following platforms to check out his work. https://samueladams.co.uk/links https://firstmen.co.uk/ Instagram @samadams_wildman @firstmen.uk

In this episode, we'll discuss the significance of Beginner's Mind in our lives and how a lack of an open and curious mindset can impact our mental well-being. We'll also reflect on our own relationship with Beginner's Mind and explore why it can be hugely challenging to cultivate depending on the circumstance. We'll share strategies for developing Beginner's Mind in our daily lives and offer tips and ideas to get you started. Join us as we share insights and personal experiences on the topic of Beginner's Mind, and learn how this mindfulness principle can help us achieve a greater sense of peace and well-being. Remember, if you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, don't hesitate to seek professional help. You are not alone. Don't forget to subscribe and tune in next week for more. Please give us a 5-star review over on Apple Podcasts if you've enjoyed the show, and do us the favour of telling two friends about Safe Harbour! We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com Find Phil over on LinkedIn here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philaskew/ and Jamie here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-robins-cpcc-43a6a911b/

Welcome to Safe Harbour, a podcast dedicated to unpacking and exploring the many aspects of mental health for men in modern times. In this episode, we'll discuss the significance of patience in our lives and how a lack of patience can impact our mental well-being. We'll also reflect on our own relationship with patience and explore why it can be challenging to cultivate. But we won't just be talking about the problems; we'll also provide practical solutions. We'll share strategies for developing patience in our daily lives and offer tips for improving our overall mental health. Join us as we share our insights and personal experiences on the topic of patience, and learn how this mindfulness principle can help us achieve a greater sense of peace and well-being. Remember, if you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, don't hesitate to seek professional help. You are not alone. Don't forget to subscribe and tune in next week for more. Please give us a 5-star review over on Apple Podcasts if you've enjoyed the show, and do us the favour of telling two friends about Safe Harbour! We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com Find Phil over on Linkedin here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/philaskew/ and Jamie, here: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamie-robins-cpcc-43a6a911b/

Welcome to the first episode of season 2 of Safe Harbour, a podcast dedicated to unpacking and exploring the many aspects of mental health for men in modern times. In this episode, we will be exploring the concept of non-judgment and how it can positively impact our lives. We'll discuss how judgment can prevent us from connecting with others and hinder our ability to feel empathy and, on the flip side, how non-judging can lead to greater self-awareness and deeper understanding. We'll also offer practical strategies for practising non-judgment in your life, such as mindfulness, self-reflection and breathing. As always, if you or someone you know is struggling with mental health, please seek professional help. You are not alone. Don't forget to subscribe and tune in next week for more. Please give us a 5-star review over on Apple Podcasts if you've enjoyed the show, and do us the favour of telling two friends about Safe Harbour! We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com

In this episode, Phil and Jamie look at how addiction plays out in their respective lives, a huge subject that impacts us all in a myriad of ways, particularly in times of stress. We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com

In this follow up to episode #8, Phil and Jamie go into depth about powerful or open questions and how these can support and encourage the person you are talking to, to unfold their options and understand more about themselves. A staple coaching tool recommended for any conversation. Jamie and Phil were trained by the Co-active Training Institute and the tool they discus in today's show features in their curriculum, if you want to train to be a masterful coach, then CTI is the gold standard. - We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com

In this episode recorded just before the Christmas break, Phil and Jamie share a methodology for listening that can literally transform conversations. They give demonstrations and outline exactly how to do it, even if you've never tried any coaching tools before. Give it a shot with your friends and family and see what happens with the quality of your communication! Jamie and Phil were trained by the Co-active Training Institute and the tool they discus in today's show features in their curriculum, if you want to train to be a masterful coach, then CTI is the gold standard. - We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com

In this episode, Jamie and Phil look at procrastination as a force of influence in their lives, how it shows up, what they do to push through and what might be the message behind it all.

In today's episode, Jamie and Phil bring this age-old topic into the spotlight for a closer look. Exactly what is it that men struggle with when it comes to talking authentically? They offer up some tangible ways that we can encourage and support the men in our lives to dare to share more readily. - We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com

This week, Jamie and Phil reflect on the changing season, how to psychologically prepare for winter, and some great ways to reconnect to yourself in order to stay present, mentally strong and grounded. - We love hearing from you! Send your thoughts, reflections and questions to: mail@safeharbourpodcast.com