Who Even Are We?

We’re talking about why putting yourself first doesn’t actually make you selfish. From the mental load of motherhood and relationships to doing the work on yourself, setting boundaries and evolving, maybe it’s finally time to stop feeling guilty for choosing you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

We’re digging up our very first Facebook and Instagram posts and honestly, some of them should have stayed buried. We talk about the trends that come and go at lightning speed, the things that have somehow stuck with us for years, and why maybe we all need to stop chasing the next big thing. Plus, 90s R&B, pasta guilt, Sizzler nostalgia and a debate over who is actually the bigger germaphobe. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

From haircuts and skincare to weight, clothes and spending money on ourselves, we unpack what “letting yourself go” really means in your 40s. Is it actually about how we look or is it about self worth, priorities and finally giving ourselves permission to invest a little time, money and energy back into ourselves? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One of us is sending her girls to Schoolies and trying not to panic. The other has already started bribing hers with trips so they never go. In this episode, we talk about our own Schoolies experiences, how much trust comes into parenting teenagers, the horror stories that make us nervous, and the uncomfortable reality that eventually you have to let your kids step into the next phase of growing up. Would you let your kids go to Schoolies? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode, we have a very personal conversation about relationships, red flags and the things you sometimes only recognise years later. Katie shares the story of a relationship she was in at 21 the jealousy, control, gaslighting and ultimately physical violence, and why, for years, she never allowed herself to call it domestic violence. We talk about why it can be so hard to leave, the shame that can come with looking back, and how much of it comes down to self worth. It’s a confronting conversation, but an important one and a reminder of just how powerful sharing our stories can be. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Why does desire seem to disappear in your 40s? In this episode we unpack hormones, mental load, exhaustion, body confidence, feeling “touched out” and why sex can start to feel like another item on the to do list. Plus, things take a very unexpected turn into the sex lives of ducks, bush turkeys and the octopus “penis arm.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When did life become one giant to do list? In this episode we talk about the mental load, constantly doing things for everyone else, and why so many women struggle to make room for joy and pleasure. From spontaneous chicken tenders to leaving the washing for tomorrow, this episode is about finding small moments that remind you life is happening right now, not six months from now when you finally get a holiday. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

When your body feels flat, your mind can quickly follow. In this episode we chat about exhaustion, exercise, food guilt, social batteries, and that relentless voice in your head - and why sometimes the answer is simply cutting yourself some slack. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After Katie’s very memorable Bali massage story went viral, she and Rach discover there’s actually a sensual massage service designed entirely for women. They’re joined by Goddess Glow’s Alice and Andy to talk happy endings, orgasms, consent, body confidence and what really happens behind the massage room door. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Wax play is apparently a thing and we needs answers! Rach explains the world of temperature play, safe words and body safe candles before we call in someone who actually knows what she’s talking about. But while some people find it seriously sexy, Katie can’t stop thinking about the sheets, the carpet… and the fire risk. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode taken from This Is Me podcast a few years ago, Rach shares the story behind the life people thought they knew - from her childhood and lifelong friendship with Sam, to a terrifying health scare at 21, marriage and motherhood, and the postnatal depression that almost broke her. An emotional conversation about losing yourself, asking for help and slowly finding your way back. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After one innocent joke went viral, the internet had plenty to say! We read some of the wildest comments, talk about what happens when your content suddenly reaches the wrong crowd, and why Rach briefly put her Instagram on private. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fresh from a therapy session, Katie unpacks a pretty huge realisation: after losing her radio job, she didn’t just leave the career behind she almost convinced herself it never counted. Katie and Rach talk self worth, imposter syndrome, making ourselves smaller and why women can find it so bloody hard to own their success. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Katie shares the unexpected chemist visit that left her questioning everything, while Rach admits how one innocent conversation during a photoshoot triggered all her insecurities. From ageing and dry skin to hairy knees and the pressure to look forever young! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

In this episode of Who Even Are We?, Katie and Rachel are joined by resilience coach and mental health educator Luke Evans to explore the powerful concept of parenting your inner child. Together, they unpack how past experiences influence the way we think, feel and respond, and why learning to become your own compassionate inner parent can transform your mental wellbeing, relationships and resilience. From overcoming self criticism and understanding trauma to building practical tools for emotional regulation, Luke shares simple, actionable strategies for navigating life's challenges with greater self-awareness and kindness. If you've ever felt like your own worst critic, this conversation will help you understand why and how to start changing that. If you'd like connect with Luke and the work he does head to www.emotivework.com or contact him on Instagram @lukeevans_ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

One TV appearance sparked a huge argument at home. Katie shares why Meghan Markle's MasterChef guest spot left her frustrated, while Rach and her brother Luke weigh in on royal titles, media strategy, and the never-ending fascination with Harry and Meghan. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Have you ever looked at your relationship or friendships and wondered, have we grown apart… or have I just grown? This week we're diving into what happens when one person starts doing the work -therapy, healing, building confidence and rediscovering themselves while the other seems happy to stay exactly where they are. We chat about resentment, self-worth, jealousy, parenting, friendships and why putting yourself first isn't selfish. It's an honest conversation about growth, change and whether love can evolve with you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dogs in prams. Cats in backpacks. Emotional support animals on planes. Somewhere along the way, something changed... but is it for the better? Are we doing this for our pets... or for ourselves? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Halfway through the year is the perfect time to pause, reset and refocus. In this episode, Katie and Rachel share how they're re-evaluating their goals for the next six months without the pressure of trying to change everything at once. From health and friendships to career, confidence and self worth, they explore how small, realistic habits can create lasting change. Plus, they challenge each other with one surprisingly difficult question: What do you actually like about yourself? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

After using ChatGPT to diagnose everything from a UTI to future proof careers, Katie and Rach ask whether AI is making life easier or quietly taking over. They unpack their growing reliance on it, fears about jobs and the future, and why it may be time to start asking bigger questions. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.